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  • Paperback: 134 pages
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (August 7, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 144866862X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1448668625
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.3 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,602,704 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Bella DePaulo (PhD, Harvard) has been studying lying in everyday life for decades. She is the author of more than 100 scholarly publications, many of them on the topic of deception, and is one of the foremost academic experts in the field. DePaulo's work on deception has been described in the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and many other major national and international newspapers. It has also been reported in magazines such as Time, the New York Times Magazine, the New Yorker, Readers' Digest, and U.S. News and World Report. Dr. DePaulo has appeared as an expert on deception on NPR, the Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Sunday Morning, and other shows on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, CNBC, PBS, the BBC, and the Discovery Channel. She has also lectured nationally and internationally. She has addressed criminal attorneys, physicists, judges, and mental health practitioners. Bella DePaulo is also an expert on the place of people who are single in society and in science. She is the author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After (St. Martin's Press).

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I'm Bella DePaulo. I'm a 50-something year old and I have always been single. I love my single life. But I do not love all of the ridiculous assumptions people make about me when they first meet me and learn that I am single. (No, I do not spend my evenings crying in my beer.) I'm also a social scientist (with a PhD in social psychology from Harvard). I write about singles with a passion. My work on this topic (and others) has appeared in publications such as the New York Times, the New Yorker, the Washington Post, Time magazine, and many others. There have been feature stories in Psychology Today and the AARP magazine. I've also been on the Today show and other morning shows, CNN, NPR, and many others. I've written op-eds for publications such as the New York Times, Newsday, the San Francisco Chronicle, Forbes, and the Chronicle of Higher Education. I have been a visiting professor of psychology at UC Santa Barbara since 2000. I think that makes me a permanent visitor. Get in touch if you would like to hire me to speak at your event.

My first book on singles was "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After." My second is a collection of 89 essays, "Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship."

I am also an expert on the social psychology of lying. I wrote a short book, "Behind the Door of Deceit: Understanding the Biggest Liars in Our Lives." I also published a collection of professional papers, "The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss." You can read more about all of my work on my website,

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By a. brou on October 14, 2009
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Dr. DePaulo makes some excellent points in her easy-to-read book.
The most insightful section for me was the one that discussed how lies told by a truly significant other is so damaging, and sometimes spells the end to the relationship.
We hear so much about how affairs and secret lives - once discovered - set into motion the blossoming of a much better relationship for the couple. I have never understood the comment by the offended party that now that the lies and deceit have been revealed, the relationship is better than ever. That might be the ideal for which couples should strive, but I think Dr. DePaulo makes an excellent point that it rarely happens that way.
I did have a couple of problems with her section on lies that are told because people are forced to lie; that others put them in a position not to tell the truth because of fear of retribution.
Everyone of us is responsible for our own behavior. To say that the liar has told an untruth because he/she is afraid to tell the truth sounds an awful lot like blaming the victim.
She also uses the term "dupes" for the recipient of a lie. It seems there could have been a better descriptor, as the word "dupe" tends to make the person sound less than bright.
All in all, this is a wonderful and highly recommended book.
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