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Behind the Door of Deceit: Understanding the Biggest Liars in Our Lives

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Dr. DePaulo makes some excellent points in her easy-to-read book.
The most insightful section for me was the one that discussed how lies told by a truly significant other is so damaging, and sometimes spells the end to the relationship.
We hear so much about how affairs and secret lives - once discovered - set into motion the blossoming of a much better relationship for the couple. I have never understood the comment by the offended party that now that the lies and deceit have been revealed, the relationship is better than ever. That might be the ideal for which couples should strive, but I think Dr. DePaulo makes an excellent point that it rarely happens that way.
I did have a couple of problems with her section on lies that are told because people are forced to lie; that others put them in a position not to tell the truth because of fear of retribution.
Everyone of us is responsible for our own behavior. To say that the liar has told an untruth because he/she is afraid to tell the truth sounds an awful lot like blaming the victim.
She also uses the term "dupes" for the recipient of a lie. It seems there could have been a better descriptor, as the word "dupe" tends to make the person sound less than bright.
All in all, this is a wonderful and highly recommended book.