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Being Single in a Couple's World: How to Be Happily Single While Looking for Love

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Pretty good book. Helps you get over the feeling that if you're single you're a freak. Gives guidance on how to get comfortable with singlehood, how to resist well-meaning but demeaning comments from parents and others who think the whole world should be married, and how to make decisions involving your status. Some of the case studies border on being a little tedious, but with hindsight, I see the purpose they fill. I'd recommend this book to any single adult.

The title and subtitle of this book are misnomers; there is not alot about being "happily single" and alot (very repititiously) about changing your "internal script" to become more amenable to partnering. Not a bad hypothesis in itself, of course. If you are single and not happy about it then, by all means, read this book; it contains some valuable information about gaining insight on your situation. If you are, however, seeking support and guidance for finding joy and fulfillment as a single person look elsewhere.

I found this book difficult to read but it had some very good information that makes you stop and think. The most important point to me that was brought to light was in regards to blaming. The authors point out how singles blame...themselves, parents, men, women, etc...for their single status. Explaining how subtle and insidious this cycle of blame can be was very informative and helpful. Some of the replies that the authors tell you to use against some of the hurtful comments that singles get, were ridiculous to me. I sort of lost faith around that point in the book, but luckily that was toward the end. All in all, there are some valid points in this book and it is definately worth a look.

I found this book very difficult to get through and skipped many pages along the way.
If you are a single person who doesn't "blame" anyone for being single you won't want to waste your money on this book.
The main reason I bought the book was the caption on the bottom of the cover "how to be happily single while looking for love". I can honestly say I belive the authors forgot to include that section in the book.
The information provided is repetetive, it points out how our culture views single people, how much pressure they receive and from which direction the pressure comes from. If you are single none of the information in this book will be a revelation to you.

I bought this book used because I wasn't sure of it. This is a good book for those evaluating why they are single. It's not a "how to" book for meeting men but rather a book that looks at your "life script" and how it creates a self-fullfilling prophecy that keeps you being single. Written by a therapist who has worked with many singles, Once you figure out what you keep telling yourself, accept responsibility for your part in being single then you can be happy about being single and open to other possibilities....

This excellent book empowers single people to maximize the quality of their lives, while striving to develop intimate relationships. Intimacy is shown as life-enhancing, but not a necessity to being happy, healthy or whole. This important book allows single people the self-esteem they deserve, after all, we are all single at some time in our lives! It contradicts the common societal fallacy that self-worth and respect are contingent upon being in a relationship. The authors clearly show that the most satisfying relationships develop when both people are content, if not delighted, with their lives, and their union brings together two full lives. They then show how cultural stereotypes prevent many single people from achieving this fulfillment. The practical hints for dealing with people who are unaccepting of those in their lives who are single are quite helpful, as is the compassion, understanding and wisdom of the authors.

Arrived on time and packaged well! The item was just as I expected it to be and in great condition.