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Product Details

  • Paperback: 128 pages
  • Publisher: Award Press; 5.2.2005 edition (April 1, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0973695102
  • ISBN-13: 978-0973695106
  • Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (38 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #427,887 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


What do women want? Elliott Katz has hit the nail on the head in this ground-breaking book. A must read for every man! --Robert Glover, Author of No More Mr. Nice Guy

The wisdom is remarkable. --The Oklahoman

An easy read. --Clarence Bee

From the Publisher

What type of man are strong women longing for? A strong man. In a very sensitive way, Elliott Katz teaches us a lot about this difficult matter. It is a lot of fun reading his book. – Dr. Maja Storch, University of Zurich, Author of The Strong Woman’s Desire for the Strong Man

A brave and creative attempt to pass on the wisdom of strength without harm, wisdom that was once part of the training of gentle, strong and loving manhood in a thousand cultures more subtle and skillful than our own. To be strong does not mean dominating. Only when a man and a woman are both strong, can they be truly close. – Steve Biddulph, Author of The Secret Life of Men, Raising Boys, The Secret of Happy Children and The Secret of a Happy Family

An insightful book about one of life's most important goals: How a man can be a hero to his wife. – Shmuley Boteach, Author of Kosher Sex ,The Private Adam and Kosher Adultery A cautionary tale, it cautions us to not throw out the baby with the bath water – to not toss out the man with the insensitivity. – Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author of Why Men Are the Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

Elliott Katz does an excellent job of presenting many of the essential challenges couples face, and in particular, what is the correct way for the man to respond. He presents his "teachings" with a charming simplicity that is surely to warm the hearts of many readers. His notion that the man needs to be an emotionally strong and mature partner is certainly in order and proven in my clinical practice as a seasoned marriage and family therapist to be true over and over again. Katz’s book is eminently practical and down to earth. It is sure to be received enthusiastically by many who need to learn the basics of how to make a marriage work. – Abraham Kass, M.A., R.S.W., R.M.T., Clinical Social Worker, Member of the Ontario College of Social Workers, and the Ontario and American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy

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Well written book in story format.
I never realized the woman's perspective on how they see and want to see there men!
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32 of 36 people found the following review helpful By Rebecca Brown on November 19, 2005
Format: Paperback
Rebeccasreads strongly recommends BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS as a guide for men whose marriages are in trouble even as they try to "please" their wives & "keep the peace", & everyone is miserable.

Simply told & oft-repeated the lessons are blended into the story of a walk a grandfather & his grandson take within a glorious landscape. You hear the younger one's whining helplessness about being unappreciated begin to change into hopeful intention, as he perceives he is not alone, that his grandfather had much the same problems early in his marriage, & that there's something tangible he can do about his current misery.

BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS is a short book, which I hope Elliott Katz gets on tape so men can listen as they commute, & it's a fast read, with lots to think about & chapter titles such as:

If you don't lead, I can't dance

Knowing what you want

It's not being controlling

Being worthy

Taking full responsibility

Being manly

Setting goals

Think before you act

Watch men who are strong, & many more.

So, what women want is a "strong" man... a manly man, which doesn't mean a controlling tyrant, bully or boss... they want a man who takes responsibility in the marriage & parenting, who is sure in knowing where he came from, who he is & where he's going, in other words, has a backbone.

& for us women, give your man a copy, after you've read it so you'll know what he's about, & boy! Will you be surprised... & glad!

Could have done with an editor's ministrations, however, a good manual on how to reclaim your sense of worth & respect, & how to live like a man, & not a "hen-pecked hubby" -- remember why there's a pecking order!
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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful By J. Xander Vodré on November 6, 2006
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I enjoyed this book. The style is engaging and entertaining while offering terrific insight into what it takes to be a good husband. Many of the stories illustrate concepts that are really simplistic, but many men (in my opinion most men) today are not applying these lessons to their marriages or relationships. This book is a quick read, but I would not take it lightly.
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful By Bruce Tretter on April 19, 2012
Format: Paperback
Common sense isn't common until it's introduced. That sure applies to me. I've made some fatal mistakes about being the kind of man I thought a woman wanted. I lost a marriage and only now, after reading BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS, see how and why that happened.

It starts with expectations - what a man should expect of himself and what a woman expects in a man. I was clueless until I read the book.

Then it's about taking responsibility, being decisive - NOT controlling, and being manly. Manliness means having "high moral qualities, self-discipline, decisiveness and strength in your convictions".

Of course, those qualities make complete common sense - but the thing is, Elliott has found that it's women, far more than men, who overwhelmingly agree! That's exactly the problem. Men don't know.

Men have to be formally introduced to that common sense. And that common sense then has to be promoted and passed on older man to younger man, generation to generation. If you have any doubt, just look at the ever-increasing divorce rate and how any sense of appropriate manliness is absolutely unrepresented in today's society, media and entertainment.

But there is promise - there always is! Through his short, direct and dead on book that tells the story of a grandfather passing on what it means to be a man to his marriage-troubled grandson, advice that's based on a wide range of historical references over thousands of years, Elliott is trying to change the world one man at a time. I've read the book. I like Elliott's goal.

I'll start with me.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By DaiToday on July 14, 2011
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After reading this book, I believe this is a great tool for men to navigate through their respective relationship with their respective partners. If you truly love the woman in your life, don't you want to learn what she truly needs from you? Many today believe in the myth that men and women are exactly the same. I admit that I bought into the whole women's lib thing back in college, and I still firmly believe in equal rights for all. However, today I personally believe we are genetically wired to think and process things uniquely different because of our genders. These are unique differences that allow two people to either successfully partner for a lifetime, or repel each other. As a woman in today's culture, I have finally come to appreciate the unique and differing strengths of each gender. Wouldn't it be fantastic for our society to finally come to this understanding and embrace these strengths and appreciate the weaknesses of both men and women?

Too many women today bought into the same myth I did in my 20's, and unfortunately so have the men. Most of our men today don't know how to grow as men any more...and it's truly the fault of our culture. Once the fog of this myth lifted, I realized I truly wanted my man to be a real man. Most healthy minded women want that deep down inside, but we don't know how to get this across to the men in our lives when the cultural message tells us otherwise. Strength is not about beating the chest and showing physical strength and being an ass. Strength isn't hiding behind the partner, either. Many men need to finally understand that personal growth and change doesn't stop at high school or college but is an ongoing process of a lifetime. They need to continually pursue personal development and maturity.
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