Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man [Paperback]

Elliott Katz (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 2005

This secret wisdom will help men and women.

To women: He's sensitive, romantic and tries hard to please you, but when there's a problem he seems oblivious. When you ask for input on a decision, he says, "It's up to you. Women give this book to men, tell them to read it and say: "This is what I have been trying to tell you all this time!"

To men: No matter how hard you try to please her, she s not happy. You work hard, but don t feel appreciated. You feel you ve lost control of your life. Learn how to gain respect and become a hero to the woman in your life. After reading this book, ask a woman if what it says is what she really wants. You may be surprised at her response.

Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants is the timeless secret wisdom on being a man. It's the best book ever on what a man can do to make things better with the woman in his life. Challenging many of the confusing messages of the past 30 years, it explains why many relationships today aren t working and what a man can do to make things better.

Editorial Reviews

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"The wisdom is remarkable." --The Oklahoman

"An easy read." --Clarence Bee

"The wisdom is remarkable." --The Oklahoman

From the Publisher

What type of man are strong women longing for? A strong man. In a very sensitive way, Elliott Katz teaches us a lot about this difficult matter. It is a lot of fun reading his book. – Dr. Maja Storch, University of Zurich, Author of The Strong Woman’s Desire for the Strong Man

A brave and creative attempt to pass on the wisdom of strength without harm, wisdom that was once part of the training of gentle, strong and loving manhood in a thousand cultures more subtle and skillful than our own. To be strong does not mean dominating. Only when a man and a woman are both strong, can they be truly close. – Steve Biddulph, Author of The Secret Life of Men, Raising Boys, The Secret of Happy Children and The Secret of a Happy Family

An insightful book about one of life's most important goals: How a man can be a hero to his wife. – Shmuley Boteach, Author of Kosher Sex ,The Private Adam and Kosher Adultery A cautionary tale, it cautions us to not throw out the baby with the bath water – to not toss out the man with the insensitivity. – Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author of Why Men Are the Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

Elliott Katz does an excellent job of presenting many of the essential challenges couples face, and in particular, what is the correct way for the man to respond. He presents his "teachings" with a charming simplicity that is surely to warm the hearts of many readers. His notion that the man needs to be an emotionally strong and mature partner is certainly in order and proven in my clinical practice as a seasoned marriage and family therapist to be true over and over again. Katz’s book is eminently practical and down to earth. It is sure to be received enthusiastically by many who need to learn the basics of how to make a marriage work. – Abraham Kass, M.A., R.S.W., R.M.T., Clinical Social Worker, Member of the Ontario College of Social Workers, and the Ontario and American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy

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Product Details

• Paperback: 128 pages
• Publisher: Award Press (April 1, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0973695102
• ISBN-13: 978-0973695106
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #91,132 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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24 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful lessons, November 19, 2005

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Rebecca Brown "rebeccasreads" (Clallam Bay, WA United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man (Paperback)

Rebeccasreads strongly recommends BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS as a guide for men whose marriages are in trouble even as they try to "please" their wives & "keep the peace", & everyone is miserable.

Simply told & oft-repeated the lessons are blended into the story of a walk a grandfather & his grandson take within a glorious landscape. You hear the younger one's whining helplessness about being unappreciated begin to change into hopeful intention, as he perceives he is not alone, that his grandfather had much the same problems early in his marriage, & that there's something tangible he can do about his current misery.

BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS is a short book, which I hope Elliott Katz gets on tape so men can listen as they commute, & it's a fast read, with lots to think about & chapter titles such as:
If you don't lead, I can't dance
Knowing what you want
It's not being controlling
Being worthy
Taking full responsibility
Being manly
Setting goals
Think before you act
Watch men who are strong, & many more.

So, what women want is a "strong" man... a manly man, which doesn't mean a controlling tyrant, bully or boss... they want a man who takes responsibility in the marriage & parenting, who is sure in knowing where he came from, who he is & where he's going, in other words, has a backbone.

& for us women, give your man a copy, after you've read it so you'll know what he's about, & boy! Will you be surprised... & glad!

Could have done with an editor's ministrations, however, a good manual on how to reclaim your sense of worth & respect, & how to live like a man, & not a "hen-pecked hubby" -- remember why there's a pecking order!

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great book...Fast Read, then think deeply about the information., November 6, 2006

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Jeffrey Vodré (Gainesville, FL) - See all my reviews

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I enjoyed this book. The style is engaging and entertaining while offering terrific insight into what it takes to be a good husband. Many of the stories illustrate concepts that are really simplistic, but many men (in my opinion most men) today are not applying these lessons to their marriages or relationships. This book is a quick read, but I would not take it lightly.

20 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars simplistic, veering towards smug, August 7, 2009

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Adam Oneil - See all my reviews
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After reading this book, I felt awful about myself because I don't really fit the definition of "strong" that Katz lays out. But I'm not convinced I actually want to be. How can it be anything but utterly submissive to strive to "be what women want"? I tend to think that not caring what women want is a kind of strength, if maybe a self-defeating or delusional kind. Still, Katz is too blissfully naive about real tensions within today's identity politics--apparently unaware how easily "strength" today can become despair tomorrow. He thinks that a clutch of Bible quotations with a garnish of evolutionary biology will do the trick for lost men today. I was left wondering what sort of fool he thinks I am?

But I realize also that the angry response I had to this book is sign of actual truth in it. It touched a nerve. For that reason alone, I think it's worth a read. But I still feel that Katz's definition of strength is just as vexed as women's definition of beauty, and carries some of the same (if unintentional) meanness found, for example, in diet books that berate women for not being skinny.