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Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man

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Rebeccasreads strongly recommends BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS as a guide for men whose marriages are in trouble even as they try to "please" their wives & "keep the peace", & everyone is miserable.

Simply told & oft-repeated the lessons are blended into the story of a walk a grandfather & his grandson take within a glorious landscape. You hear the younger one's whining helplessness about being unappreciated begin to change into hopeful intention, as he perceives he is not alone, that his grandfather had much the same problems early in his marriage, & that there's something tangible he can do about his current misery.

BEING THE STRONG MAN A WOMAN WANTS is a short book, which I hope Elliott Katz gets on tape so men can listen as they commute, & it's a fast read, with lots to think about & chapter titles such as:
If you don't lead, I can't dance
Knowing what you want
It's not being controlling
Being worthy
Taking full responsibility
Being manly
Setting goals
Think before you act
Watch men who are strong, & many more.

So, what women want is a "strong" man... a manly man, which doesn't mean a controlling tyrant, bully or boss... they want a man who takes responsibility in the marriage & parenting, who is sure in knowing where he came from, who he is & where he's going, in other words, has a backbone.

& for us women, give your man a copy, after you've read it so you'll know what he's about, & boy! Will you be surprised... & glad!

Could have done with an editor's ministrations, however, a good manual on how to reclaim your sense of worth & respect, & how to live like a man, & not a "hen-pecked hubby" -- remember why there's a pecking order!

I enjoyed this book. The style is engaging and entertaining while offering terrific insight into what it takes to be a good husband. Many of the stories illustrate concepts that are really simplistic, but many men (in my opinion most men) today are not applying these lessons to their marriages or relationships. This book is a quick read, but I would not take it lightly.

After reading this book, I felt awful about myself because I don't really fit the definition of "strong" that Katz lays out. But I'm not convinced I actually want to be. How can it be anything but utterly submissive to strive to "be what women want"? I tend to think that not caring what women want is a kind of strength, if maybe a self-defeating or delusional kind. Still, Katz is too blissfully naive about real tensions within today's identity politics--apparently unaware how easily "strength" today can become despair tomorrow. He thinks that a clutch of Bible quotations with a garnish of evolutionary biology will do the trick for lost men today. I was left wondering what sort of fool he thinks I am?

But I realize also that the angry response I had to this book is sign of actual truth in it. It touched a nerve. For that reason alone, I think it's worth a read. But I still feel that Katz's definition of strength is just as vexed as women's definition of beauty, and carries some of the same (if unintentional) meanness found, for example, in diet books that berate women for not being skinny.

As I read this book I thought the author was hiding in my attic with peepholes in my ceiling. This book in ALMOST every way represents where I am at in my marriage. My wife and I are having extreme difficulties in our marriage. She is a very strong woman, and I am the opposite of all men she has been with through out her life. I (me) am nice, trustworthy, financially responsible, go with the flow, shy, passive, a good guy. When we met she was looking for (me) and fell in love with (me) but then became bored with (me). She lost respect for (me). She has told me that she needs (me) to be stronger. To "be a man." I cannot tell you how many times she has said that. I could never figure out what she meant. I am in the process of reading it for the second time. It is a great book for any man that wants to be "strong." Decisive, confident, respected, worthy, and less criticized, among other things. If you are not sure how to be or get these things, this book is for you.

Some useful points, but the book over-generalizes what to expect in the dynamics of a relationship. The narrative turns what could be a 10 page essay into a 128 page book and it is written at a fairly low level.

Being The Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom On Being A Man by professional speechwriter and novelist Elliot Katz provides the reader with an approach to becoming a more appealing male in a society in which women tend to view men as comparatively primitive and thoughtless. Introducing the reader to a cogent study of relationships, theoretics, psychological, and philosophical understanding of what can be deemed as more acceptable, helpful, intimate, and sensitive relationships with the women in their lives, Being The Strong Man A Woman Wants definitely empowers and encourages male readers to become a better man. Being The Strong Man A Woman Wants is very highly recommended to male readers, particularly those with anger issues or a poor history of relationships with women for any combination of reasons.

I received a recommendation on Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants by Elliott Katz. I opened it and as I began reading, I saw that none other than Dr. Robert Glover, the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy had written the foreword. The book is excellent. It's written in the context of a grandfather giving sage advice to his grandson, who is struggling in his marriage. The first chapter is "If you don't lead, I can't dance," a quote by the grandmother. The book is a well-written page turner, and it has a lot of wisdom. The grandson is the prototypical nice guy. Women in the book talk about needing the man to lead, without being controlling. It has many quotable ideas, such as "A knight in shining armor wouldn't say 'you decide.'" It does a good job of debunking the idea that "leading" is equivalent to "controlling." I love the way he cites his sources clearly.

I will say, this book is excellent and I look forward to reading it more than once.

Elliot Katz provides information about an important topic in a easy to read, informal and interesting manner. It's about time that someone tackled this important subject and made it available to the public. A well written, interesting and timely book! Not to be overlooked.

This book is something I feel every boy turning into a man should be handed by his father or older brother. There are some great insights in our to treat your woman. I really feel this could be simplified into a set of affirmations. I did my own version taking the key points out of each chapter. A must read for anyone that ones to be a real gentleman, a great husband and a great father.

This is the ultimate book for everyman married or not. is has so much insight for every type of situation/relationships. I read this everyday at lunch at work and it always makes a lot of sense. All of my friends and co workers have read it and they all agree that it a great and useful book. you can literally flip to any page in the book and you will learn something. it is a great book.