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Being a Man in a Woman's World

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After years of getting my butt repeatedly kicked by women in relationships and not really having the types of relationships I wanted or that women wanted to have with me I found Dr. Neders book Being a Man in a Womans World. Dr. Neder provides a fresh and realistic look at male female relationships based on what really happens and what really takes for both sexes to feel fulfilled and happy in a relationship. Rather than spinning some politically correct view based on unrealistic and idealistic principles that continue to prevent either sex from finding true happiness he provides a real world understanding to which all of us can easily relate. He details all the required steps from the initial meeting, to the first phone call, to the first dates, how to get to the bedroom and beyond in a clear and easy to apply manner.

After reading his book I was finally able to understand and put in perspective virtually all of my previous relationships with women and discover why and where they either succeeded or failed. His book made me realize the importance of setting standards for what the man should and should not accept in a relationship with a woman. This one aspect alone has taken me into the highest echelons of success with women than I could previously imagine. Now I am able to have the types of relationships where I feel positive about myself and never feel like I am giving up anything at my own expense. The women I now date feel more at ease and are able to share themselves freely and respond to me the way they have always secretly desired. Consequently I believe that Dr. Neders book and ideas contained within are useful for both sexes and I highly recommend that all men and all women that truly want to have happy, fulfilling, healthy and long lasting relationships should read.

Those that may find themselves disagreeing with Dr. Neders ideas have no desire to have successful relationships and would rather focus on unhealthy destruction of their partner/s or the carrying out of some childhood drama as a means of avenging themselves against the world.

I highly advise those man and woman that want true happiness in their relationships to read and apply the ideas contained within.

It's interesting that the only negative reviews of this book are both unsigned. Could both of those reviewers be female?

This book is a great resource for men to unravel some of the mysteries of modern dating. It's straight-talking, somewhat sarcastic, sometimes funny and often challenging. Don't expect a pile of quick witticisms and pickup lines to use at the local bar from this book. It's more meaty than that. In fact, there are many goal-setting exercises which guide the reader into understanding his own wants, needs and desires and provides him with a framework from which to understand the (many) relationships he will experience in his search for an ideal mate. Dr. Neder applies psychology, sales, marketing, commen sense and uncommon candor throughout this excellent title. He also provides many ideas on how to deal with particular situations (I especially liked his section on handling objections from women -- I've used a couple of these and... they work!). Well... the ideas in this book all work, which is why I think it's very well worth the price you pay.

This is the best book I have read about this subject. And I have read a lot of books and e-books about this subject!

Definitely 5 stars for me. Don't waste money on anything else..

If you find yourself frustrated as a male, this book is a good place to start. I think one female reviewer called it 'shallow'. And isn't that precisely the point?

I found this book to be useful both in terms of preparing a distinct strategy for finding a mate, and for understanding men from a very unique point of view.

Following Dr. Neder's suggestions, I decided to have coffee with one new man a week until I found a keeper, and that was exactly what I did until a little over three years ago when I met my current guy. I've never been happier with a man, and I really feel like I have Dr. Neder to thank for it. For the first time in my life, I felt the authority to discard unsuitable men.

From this book I learned that it was not my responsibility to accept whoever happened into my life and rescue him, but until then I didn't even know the language to "next" a man. Women, listen up: Oddly enough, there is nothing more alluring to a man than dumping him, or giving him the sense of serious impending dumpage. That's actually in the book, not quite in those words, though.

Now let's talk about the misogynistic lothario thing. Dr. Neder never advises specifically that a man should play the lothario to dozens of women at the same time, but he doesn't say that a man shouldn't do that either. It all depends on what you want for yourself, and his frank acceptance of whatever that might entail is quite refreshing. My goal was quite traditional: I wanted to find and marry a good man. Neder says that each person should determine his (well, it's written for men) goals in a clear-cut way and then set a definitive strategy in order to achieve them. He also claims that women don't want to be in charge of the relationship, something that a few women have balked at, and they assume that Neder is suggesting that women are inherently incompetent or not capable of assuming a leadership role. I don't think so. Women and men are different, that's all, and in a formal relationship that necessitates a woman and a man, the woman will want to be the woman and the man needs to be a man for her to accomplish this.

Having accidentally had satisfying relationships with real men early on in my life, I didn't know how easy it was to fall into being the man. I didn't want to be the man, but somebody had to do it. I had achieved enough success to scare off a lot of marginally masculine men, and I figured all that was left were the pansies. So I figured it must be me, my problem, I was very alpha in all of my relationships and expected too much. I accepted being the man. Wrong.

Here's what I should have done: dump them. Reject, upset and distress many men, sometimes while the steam still rose from the coffee cup. Because ultimately, you answer to yourself and yourself only. I don't know why I needed permission to claim authority over my own life, but I did.

If you don't want to waste years in a bad marriage and suffer through an even worse divorce, get this book. If you're in a bad relationship now, get this book and "next" yourself out of it and into a satisfying relationship. It worked for me.

I personally have never read the book, but I have had a personal encounter with this jerk. Neder is apparently the type of guy that thinks being a man means nailing as many woman as possible. He is a low life bully and has absolutely no business writing books on how to be a man, because he is not a man.

Very, very shallow. Would not recommend to anyone who is even a bit serious about the topic.

If you think dating many women makes someone a Man than this is your book, right from a sales and marketing class. If you are coming from the Robert Bly camp on being a Man you will find this book rather shallow. The advice in the book works. However, with a strong, independent identity as a Man that is seperated from our mother dominated ideals you will acheive the same results.

This may be the most entertaining thing I have read in a long time, although my frequest outbursts of laughter are clouded by pity. This may get you a woman guys, but she will surely have personal problems if she responds positively to this approach. But then, it may be a match made in heaven. BTW - The one star is for spelling.