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on April 4, 2013
I am an avid reader of Demetria's musings going back to when she was writing for Honey Magazine online. The book was a good read. You will laugh out loud, root for certain situations to work, scratch and/or shake your head, nod it in agreement, and generally be entertained while reading about "Belle's" various (mis)adventures. And, no one can deny that Demetria is a compelling writer.
However, what continues to concern me about Demetria's advice in general is the hypocrisy in her giving it to single girls from atop her perch of always having a date (as inferred from her book and blog). Or guy friends who treat her like a girlfriend. Or being in a relationship. And now, being engaged. I wonder how long Demetria has spent actually being single; as in, alone, not dating or exclusively seeing anyone or having some surrogate beau referred to as a "friend."
Note that Demetria had been in several serious long-term relationships prior to becoming a fiancee, yet she remained extremely vocal about her ambivalence towards getting married. Her supposed ambivalence comports with her advice to women to "live their best single lives" by focusing more on personal development and achieving individual goals and not so much on entering relationships or becoming a wife. To this day, she advises women to date for fun (meanwhile not considering a date's potential for marriage, or even a relationship) instead of dating for the purpose of vetting men for their potential to be beaus and/or husbands. As if, by serendipity, it will all work out in the end, like it did for her. And she wasn't looking for it and didn't even want it!
I for one, am not falling for the okey-doke. Demetria had the good sense not take her own advice as she seemed to date only "good" marriageable men in relationship-type contexts (i.e. not "just for fun"), and is now engaged to be married despite her incessant yelling that she could take it or leave it.
In sum, it is disingenuous for Demetria to tell women to "live your best single life" and have fun "doing you," not concerning yourself with relationships and all that jazz, when Demetria always had a man (or several) waiting in the wings, likely by design.