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Bereft: A Sister's Story [Hardcover]

Jane Bernstein (Author)
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April 2000
Jane Bernstein was seventeen in the summer of 1966 when her adored older sister, Laura, was stabbed to death by a stranger, for no apparent reason. More than two decades later, Bernstein found her thoughts and fantasies returning insistently to the sister she'd never allowed herself to mourn. Gradually she immersed herself in the long-buried tragedy, obsessively reviewing articles and transcripts, and, like a detective herself, interviewing detectives, attorneys, and others who'd been close to her sister or involved in the case. What was she trying to solve?

Weaving present into past with deceptive ease, Bernstein unearths uncomfortable truths about both. We come to see that the actual object of her search is her own identity, sucked under in a wake of denial after Laura's murder. Reclaiming who she was-and what Laura was to her-meant questioning every aspect of her carefully constructed adult sense of self: as a writer, a daughter, a mother, and the wife of a charismatic but unpredictable man. Passionate and disquieting, Bereft is a testament to the silent depredations of unacknowledged loss, and a tribute to our power to reclaim ourselves.


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In 1966, when the author was 17, her 21-year-old sister, Laura, was murdered for no apparent reason by David Mumbaugh, a man she didn't even know. The girls' bereaved parents, "practical people who passed on their distrust of the intangible," made it clear that they must all "get on with their lives" without further discussion. Not until 1989, when she had two daughters of her own and found herself stuck in a troubled marriage, did Jane Bernstein pull out a folder containing 23-year-old articles describing her sister's death. This sensitive memoir chronicles her subsequent investigation into the case and weaves an account of the intervening years of college, political activism, and several abortive stints of therapy to show that Bernstein was badly damaged by Laura's loss and their parents' refusal to let her grieve. As she twice testifies against Mumbaugh's parole, arguing that he hasn't changed and is still dangerous, the author begins to realize that her violent husband won't change either. Eventually, she is able to assimilate the impact of Laura's death and to leave her spouse. Yet this is not a bitter book: Bernstein displays great compassion for her parents' inability to voice their sorrow and for her husband's inability to control his anger. Her simple, subtle prose conveys understanding, not recrimination. --Wendy Smith

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In 1966, Bernstein (Departures; Loving Rachel) was 17, planning for college and plotting escape from her New Jersey suburb, when her only sister, Laura, a student at Arizona State University, was stabbed to death in an apparently random act of violence. Although shocked and saddened, Bernstein and her parents appeared to cope remarkably well with the tragedy; after a proper period of mourning, Laura, seldom mentioned, seemed all but forgotten. Yet as time passed, memories of Laura and her horrific death began to intrude upon Bernstein's life at unexpected times and in unexpected ways. Resolving in 1989 to confront her sister's ghost, she traveled to Arizona to interview those who had investigated the murder, and she discovered that she didn't know how she felt--or how she was supposed to feel--about it. Bernstein struggled unsuccessfully with her narrative for five years, stymied by her inability to put the facts together in any kind of coherent order. Finally she realized that she would be incapable of writing Laura's story until she faced its effect on her own life, on her relationship with her husband and children. The result of that breakthrough, this memoir is an eloquent and unflinchingly candid investigation, not so much of a crime but rather of the subtleties and complexities of human relationships--and of the ways that a parent's discomfort with emotional outpourings can lead a child to suppress feelings that need an outlet. Although sometimes frustratingly circuitous, this is nevertheless a moving and insightful meditation on the often elusive intricacies of family relationships. (Apr.)
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 279 pages
  • Publisher: North Point Pr; 1st edition (April 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0865475865
  • ISBN-13: 978-0865475861
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.8 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,580,868 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Hypnotic, extraordinary, compelling, April 6, 2000
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Beautifully written, brilliantly conceived, this is an extraordinary portrait of a woman grappling with herself, her sister's murder, and all the unresolved losses of her life. Insightful, heartbreaking, unforgettable.
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18 of 22 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars An exceptional read, May 15, 2000
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I was very moved by Jane's story and I haven't been able to stop thinking about BEREFT. She writes beautifully and intelligently. Back in the 60's my older brother was killed in a car accident. Like Jane's family we never talked about it. Even today almost forty years later, we don't mention my brother in front of my mother. I wonder how this has effected my life? After reading this book, I hope to explore my own past and find out some answers.
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful personal journey, April 17, 2000
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An insightful personal journey in which the author brilliantly conveys how, in the course of investigating her older sister's murder, she discovers her own repressed feelings about the senseless death, while at the same time attempting to extricate herself from her marriage with a loving, but volatile man. The book is beautifully written in a style which conveys not only the author's personal issues but also allows the reader to ponder such thought provoking universal issues as death, love, family, revenge, grief and rage.
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EVEN BEFORE MY SISTER WAS MURDERED I was a detective, a watcher, a child who stood in doorways, heart beating hard, listening. Read the first page
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commutation hearing, parole board members, attic office
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New York, David Mumbaugh, New Jersey, Mill Avenue, Dale Douglas, Casa Loma Hotel, Fort Grant, Erich Schoenfeld, Fifth Avenue, Jay Dushoff, Barbara Anderson, Kansas City, Sylvia Conchos, Arizona Republic, Arizona State University, Dana Brothers, Howard Trilling, Intimate Story, Michael Garvey, Shawnee Mission, Bob Corcoran, Forty-eighth Street, Jane Bernstein, Kurt Cobain, Penn Station
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