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The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy
 
 
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The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy [Paperback]

Gwendolyn G. Grant (Author)
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January 5, 1996
It has often been said that "if white America has a case of the sniffles, Black America catches walking pneumonia." When this credo is applied to relationships, common problems such as inadequate communication, commitment fears, financial struggles and infidelity carry an even greater weight. Yet, with hundreds of relationship books on the market, virtually none has explored the specific circumstances impacting relationships between African-American men and women.

In The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy, renowned psychologist Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant addresses head-on the complex challenges in African-American relationships. "In addition to the social dynamics affecting male-female communications in general, as African-Americans, we carry the added burdens of myths and stereotypes that grow out of our real history of slavery, second-class citizenship and economic disenfranchisement," Grant explains.

In writing The Best Kind of Loving, Grant has provided an invaluable resource for Black women searching to understand the choices they make, the men they love and how to make the most of their strength, intelligence and wit. Compulsively readable, The Best Kind of Loving is unique in its scope and vision; women of all races and backgrounds will laugh, sympathize and nod their heads in recognition as they read about others not unlike themselves. Giving both pragmatic and realistic advice, Grant serves both as an advisor and confidant; she knows which situations may not work out, but also gives women ways to make the best of less-than-ideal circumstances.



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From Publishers Weekly

Grant, a psychologist, sex educator and advice columnist for Essence, here offers sensible, inspiring suggestions to help African American women better understand the cultural differences between black men and women, and better understand their own attitudes about their "brothers" so they might communicate more effectively and form long-lasting relationships with them. The author emphasizes exercising independence, forming friendships with other women of color, drawing strength from family and the community and reclaiming African traditions in order to lead fulfilling lives, even if remaining single. Practical, insightful and loaded with case histories, this guide should be of great interest to black women who feel they are "nothing" without a man. $85,000 ad/ promo; Doubleday Book Club and Literary Guild alternates; author tour.
Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Grant, who runs relationship seminars and writes an advice column for Essence magazine, gathered the wisdom and advice in this book from a variety of sources: psychological studies, works by other black authors, and her own mother. Specifically addressing black women, Grant explains how slavery made black women and men the way they are today. She also discusses stereotypes held by men and women of color about each other and calls on her readers to use Afrocentric values to transcend such harmful stereotyping. While Grant is writing for black women, much of her information transcends race. Her outlook on the importance of self-esteem and her ten steps for emotional healing will appeal to all women. Addressing an underserved niche in an overcrowded field, this book deserves a place in most public libraries.?Pamela A. Matthews, Missouri Western State Coll., St. Joseph
Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Harper Perennial (January 5, 1996)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0060924756
  • ISBN-13: 978-0060924751
  • Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #666,385 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars An eye opener for today's black women, February 17, 1998
This review is from: The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy (Paperback)
The only thing I questioned in the book was the 5th Chapter. I read nothing about advising women to get out of these bad relationships, but only how to deal with themselves. By staying in a self-destructive relationship how do you still get over the feelings you have by remaining in the same situation. Even though you work on yourself and change your attitudes you are still confronted with the same issues. So you have to work on dealing with yourself AND with a cheating partner. Why not advise these women to get out of such relationships? That is what really surprised me.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars A must have for those who settle for less, April 12, 2000
This review is from: The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy (Paperback)
Dr. Grant is definitely a God sent messenger at this hour for the Woman (not just African American, even though we need to take heed so we can get ourselves together). This book has taught me to settle for nothing but the best.( Not that i settled for less) but sometimes in this walk of life because we don't find what we are looking for when we want it, we sometimes give up on our initial hopes and dreams and start to have a pity party. and thus begin to settle for anything( Things that are not for us). This book puts a stop in this area( If you are receptive to it). For anyone tired of settling for garbage YOU NEED TO GET THIS BOOK. NO JOKE! I'm not just telling you this just for the sake of it. I'm telling you this because you are my SISTER and i want you to move to the next level. God BLess!
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent reference, June 5, 2000
This review is from: The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy (Paperback)
Essence Magazine's long-time advice columnist Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant counsels Black women on everything from finances to relationships in this book. This book offers the type of sound, no-nonsense advice you might expect to hear from your mother -- especially when she advises us not to make decisions while lying our backs!

She encourages readers to examine their lives truthfully and to try to understand the motivation for the decisions that we make. The discussion about finances talks about how we sometimes spend money that we don't have to bolster our flagging spirits.

The greatest lesson I took from the book is the importance of putting all relationships, not just romantic ones, into perspective. This book explains the importance of establishing and maintaning good relationships with our creator, ourselves, family members and significant others. This book is a classic and belongs in the library of any woman trying to make her way in this world.

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Every sister I know wants an intimate love relationship. Read the first page
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typical sister, overlooked brothers, male parental figure, village chorus, baby maker, cool pose
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African American, Mate Selection, Black Americans, Pick You Out, Rolling Stone, United States, Figuring Out What You Want, West Africa, Miss Loosey
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