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Best Love, Rosie

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'Rosie' has come back to Ireland from her career in 'Europe' to look after her depressed aunt/foster mother - who is in her 70s. She ends up rooting back into the family's history - looking for attachment and belonging. Meanwhile, her aunt takes off to America - where she has a sort of 'Tir na nOg' experience. `Aunt Min' rediscovers her vigor and throws herself back into her life. These are recurring themes for O'Faolain: life in Ireland vs America and the role of the middle-aged, childless woman in those societies.

O'Faolain's writing is just so pleasurable: the sentences are little threads of beauty. Her descriptions of people, places and feelings are worldly, yet very 'Irish'. Most of all, I love her humour in this.

Rosie decides to write a self-help book and her emails to her publisher (an old friend) are great comedy. She starts off by telling him how someone gave her a book for Christmas which helps you to live your life. It's by a `Celtic' priest - who she accompanied on a protest once! (I think this has to be John O'Donohue) Maybe she could write something similar, she figures, in a `if he can do it, surely so can I' sort of way. There's lots of satire on the vagaries of the publishing world here!

To counterbalance this comedy, the Rosie of this story is very much the Nuala O'Faolain of the autobiographies ('Are you Somebody' and 'Almost There'). They were tough reads, chronicling a loveless childhood and the resulting unfulfilled life, with gut wrenching honesty. Though stark, these were hugely popular for the voice they gave to countless readers in similar situations. This book is bleak too at times, but it is not as raw and angst ridden. It's like O'Faolain has started to make her peace with her life and the sadness gives way to lightness, fun, feeling and reflectiveness.

This, of course, makes it all the more poignant and sad. O'Faolain wrote the introduction to the book in January 08 - only a couple of months before she died after a short, shocking, unexpected illness. Her radio interview with Marian Finucane from that time can be found here: [...]

What is it about the Irish? I've always been a sort of melancholy girl, I love overcast days, I find romance in bittersweet endings, so it's natural I'd gravitate toward a book with a description like this one.

What I didn't expect to find was a book that so accurately reflects some emotions that I've been struggling with myself. Now, granted, I'm still about 20 years away from Rosie's age, so while this "coming of age" story is meant for an older generation, it still rings true for the single, childless woman in her 30's with absolutely no intention of that changing.

Sound depressing? It really wasn't. What I found through the story was a gentle peace, a bittersweet happiness that made this book perfect reading for me. I shed a few tears, smiled more smiles and put the book down with a feeling of regret and a bit of wonder - because this wasn't a story that I read so much as a story I felt unfold slowly inside of me. I struggled for the first few dozen pages, trying to define the story with characters, with plot.. before just giving up and letting the words wash over me. This isn't one of those stories to read if you are seeking excitement, thrills or sweeping romance. Instead, reading this book is like lying on a blanket in a boat, on a quiet lake, and feeling gentle waves bobbing you slowly up and down, leaving you nothing to amuse yourself with but your own thoughts.

That all sounds fairly sappy, but that's the mood Best Love, Rosie has put me in. NetGalley provided me with only the first part, so I had to go get the rest of it and it was well worth it. A beautiful final book from Nuala O'Faolain.

I enjoyed (for the most part) ARE YOU SOMEBODY? and thought the author had a distinctive voice and sensibility. I have relished BEST LOVE, ROSIE--it's an intelligent, nuanced look at the inner life of an Irish woman in her mid-fifties trying to understand her place in the world, including her hometown and her ancestry. The meditations on what it means to get older, the funny and all-too-true observations on American/Americans and our self-help literature, the insights into the regrets and second thoughts that come in later life, the memorable and lovingly drawn characters, and the sense of Irish place all make this a great story. I was intrigued and interested in Rosie and her pals and Min, her surprisingly adventurous 70-year-old aunt, all the way through. This is a book that really does capture the mysteries of the way we humans behave--self-absorbed, loving, frisky, bitter, stubborn, sorrowful, joyful.