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Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life Paperback – March 20, 1998
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Here are my suggestions. I found "Privacy and Its Invasion" by Deckle McLean to be pure gold. The author describes the types of boundaries we need, giving historical perspectives and practical reasoning on how interpersonal boundaries lead to a sense of wholeness and personal identity. It's a scholarly book, not self-help, but an easy read, short, well-referenced. I tracked it down at a local university library (he he). The other book I liked was "How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty" by Patti Breitman and Connie Hatch. It's loaded with practical advice for many, many situations. The authors of these two books stand and deliver, without talking down to you.
However, the good news is that occasionally a excellently written book with just the right balance of techniques and concepts is published. Better Boundaries is at the very top in its line, not only covering the establishment of healthy boundaries in one's life, but as a self-help book in general.
I wish other authors and publishers would follow the same style found in Better Boundaries (Black & Enns). It is easy to read, the ideas and concepts are clearly explained, a few examples are given (never overdone), and specific techniques are abudantly provided. I found myself looking forward to reading this book at every moment available over two and half days. (Unlike torturously treading through other self-help books to get a single nugget when it was all over.)
I will re-read this book, recommend it highly to others, and purchase additional copies for friends. At the cost of appearing mercenary, my only regret is that I wish I had read this book twenty years ago; I would have saved myself the great sum of money that I have spent on other self-help books.
This book was a wonderful gift from a friend. In my work, I am always referring to the need for clear boundaries in personal and professional situations. I tend to think that I have pretty good boundaries and in general I do. This book helped lay out specific criteria and circumstances for me to reconsider.
It would be too easy to describe or label this particular book as another of the Self Help ilk. It is not a workbook and I wouldn't describe it as one full of exercises. However, it does have some areas with specific strategies, recommendations and processes to help you identify the important ingredients required in order for an individual to clarify and maintain the proper boundaries in all aspects of their lives.
It is not technical in the sense of theoretical but it is thorough. Anyone who wants to look into this important area can apply this material directly and immediately in his or her own life. It is also full of concrete examples in real live situations.
If you feel that you have issues around setting and clarifying boundaries, this book will be of tremendous assistance. If boundaries are not a concern for you, I would encourage you to consider reviewing the material. It goes beyond the surface to the core purpose and intent of your life. For this reason, it is a great book for counselors, coaches and all self-seekers.
At many points, I also felt that the book did a little more "telling" than "showing", which made it seem a little shallow to me. As another reviewer said, this does offer a good summary of many tips and techniques for how to learn to like and respect oneself, and so it is probably an excellent book to use to get an overview of that topic so you could figure out what to go read in more detail.
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I purchased this book to continue being a healthy minded person. I also purchased it to build on the areas I could. Read morePublished 15 days ago by Karenlynn
For those who need to set limits on the demands of others, this book provides effective ways to create boundaries and establish a stronger sense of self. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Susan M. Baumann
This is a must-read book. I'm a special educator and I use it with my students with emotional and behavioral disorders. Nicely written, easy to understand.Published 6 months ago by Jennifer P.
I read this book several times and each time I seen myself in the chapters. It was a step toward healing from the hurt, pain and anger. Read morePublished 13 months ago by phyllis