Customer Reviews

Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling

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3 star:		(1)
2 star:		(6)
1 star:		(2)

 

 

This book was not good. Plain and simple. I read it because I saw Jen on TV, probably like everyone else who read it. The problem is Jen is very hypocritical and contradictive. She says be yourself and don't play games then tells women to withold sex for power. Yeah, no game there. She says she's not into money, yet she drops the profession of guys for no reason, like "Investment banker Bob"-or something. Then she tells a story about Bob that has NOTHING to do with his job. What's the point? Are we supposed to believe her more because Bob is an investment banker or be impressed? Sounds like she's into money to me.

I encourage any woman considering this book, or who has read it, to read "God is a Woman: Dating Disasters." It's hilarious and has really good advice. Amazon shopper "Nice Girl" writes a very thorough review of "Better Single Than Sorry" and "God is a Woman" on the "God is a Woman" page. She can't repeat the same review in two places, but you should go to the other book's page and read her review of both books. It's really good.

Jen's book is a pass. Save your money and put it toward a manicure. You'll feel better than you will reading this and have something to show for it.

I read this book at Barnes and Noble on a study break and I will admit that I found it very refreshing!! Why? too many books about being single seem to focus on some aspect of trying to fetch a guy by improving your looks, by flirting better, by having fewer standards, by networking more, etc. While some of those principles are not always completely bad, they focus on life being better with having the ideal mate in your life (instead of learning how to manage or enjoy life). And then other times, they are outright anti-feminist with principles of encouraging submissiveness, a lack of communication and pretending to be something that you are not which is damaging to BOTH sexes, not just women.

This book I think gets it RIGHT. Jen Schefft talks about ENJOYING the single life, about NOT SETTLING, about not falling into the peer pressure when friends or parents want you to be with someone. I think that this is downright refreshing in contrast to other books on single life. More books should be like this! They should not encourage women to be any less than who they truly are, and changing something about yourself should be because YOU want to do it, not because you want to get someone's attention. This seems to have a slef help twist on a feminist perspective.

Other books that I think that people who might be interested in this book might benefit from are: The Meaning of Wife, Bachelor Girl, Feminine Mystique, A Room of Ones Own.

This book was a waste of time for me to read.

Like most, "yay rah single girl" books, it operates on the FALSE assumption that single women in their twenties and early 30's have amazing, complete lives.

Life isn't Sex and the City and a lot of single girls (past college age) don't have a huge gaggle of single girlfriends to hit the town with every weekend. Most of us aren't yet settled into our careers and our friends have moved all over the place to pursue careers, grad school...etc.

It's hard to just "love yourself and your life while you wait for Mr. Right" while your life is so full of uncertainties. Books written for single women always assume that you are awesome and have this great career and group of wonderful, supportive friends. That's just not the case for so many single women out there.

Unless you have a great job, live in a fun city, have a group of amazing girl-friends, and have no kids, this book has nothing to offer.

I just recently purchased "Better to Be Single Than Sorry" and I have to say I really enjoyed the book very much. I am 42 years old, single, no children, and not involved in a serious relationship (I chose my marital status by both choice and circumstance). In my twenties, I always thought about marriage, havng children with the "perfect man". I used to get jealous because all of my friends got married with kids and I was always the one left out. Now that I'm older and much wiser, I've come to realize that it's okay to be single and will never settle for less. Jen's book is truly an inspiration for me! This will help me and other single women all over the world avoid getting involved in a meaningless relationship/marriage.

Most people would know Jen Schefft from The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. She's now written this book about her experiences in the dating world. She talks about how it's better to wait for the right person and enjoy life now than settling for someone rather than the right one.
She talks about on-line dating, empowerment, and things that are deal breakers. It's written all in her own opinion and whether you agree with her or not is the big question. The red flags and deal breakers chapter offers no new insights. She talks about Mr Wrong and what his deal breaking qualities are like (frequently talking to his ex, living with his mother, always answering his cell and lacks motivation). She states the obvious without giving the reader any lightbulb moments.
I think that the book is fun to read and interesting, but it's not the self-help book that you might expect from profesional experts and it's written by an ex bachelor contestant (need I say more). If you are looking for expert advice, I suggest you keep looking because you won't find it here.

Schefft preaches to the choir in a book that is full of advice longtime single girls already know. However, if you have always had boyfriends, this book is WORTH it. It gives some heads up to situations you never thought about as anything other than typical. Nope, don't settle, Jen says! And get your parents to shhh about dating pressure. This book is for a girl who might need an extra confidence boost.

A first time author, particularly, needs a good editor. What happened here? Aiming for a "conversational" style is fine, but titling a chapter Tell Mom -- to %$#* Off or calling a date an A..hole is not conversational, it's vulgar.

Add in the contradictions, repetitions, padding, grammattical lapses and even typos, and the sum total is a poorly-constructed, poorly written and poorly edited book, Part Two, Chapter Six: Stop Believing You Can't Do Better

This book is different than most talking about being single. This book talks about having men in your life whom you believe you COULD marry, but waiting until you find the one that you know in your heart you SHOULD marry. Only some women will have this problem, but if you are like me, and this is an issue that you have been struggling with, then this is the book for you! I identified with Jen greatly. I have had a few men who were ready to propose but I never felt that everything was quite as it should be. Jen really helped me to realize that those feelings I had were true and it was great to know that someone else felt the same way. I only wish that Jen would put out a sequel now that she IS married to share with the world if she ever found exactly what she was looking for.

Life for single women today can be rough. It is very easy to cave into pressure to settle down quickly. Our friends, family, and society tell us that pairing up as soon as possible is a marker of success. No wonder there is such a huge divorce rate in the United States.

The author points out two very big mistakes we make. First, we do not love ourselves and secondly, because of that we settle for guys that are less than ideal for us.

She uses some hillarious anecdotes from her own personal life to illustrate some dating mistakes she has made and how it affected her. She points out that had she not tried to settle, she could have avoided having her heart broken so frequently.

What makes it good, is that it is true to life. All of us girls can relate to dating the types of men mentioned in this book and the results. She also helps us to remember that the right man is worth waiting for regardless of the pressure exerted on us.

The message is: Enjoy your life, do things you love, pamper yourself, and do not ever settle!

I cannot however agree with all the advice offered in the book. She suggests that having a one-night-stand might be a good way to get over a broken heart. This seems to be dangerously bad advice.

However I do recommend this book because the concepts of enjoying you life and implementing suggested tactics to avert pressure placed on you by others to marry the wrong person.

this is a great book to encourage you loving and excepting life on your own. it's very motivational. great book, great advice. i took off one star because she kept falling back on her bachelorette relationship throughout the book, but its an excellent read and i definitely recommend it.xoxoxo