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Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life

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I never thought I had a real anger problem. Sure, I got mad, yelled, etc. on occasion. Who hasn't? Imagine my surprise that after waiting and planning for three years, my wife told me she was too afraid of my temper to start a family with me. That's when I decided I needed to try and change. I took the test at the beginning of the book and found that I was bordering on being an angry man. So many of the things he pointed out suddenly became very clear. After reading the book, I realized how much anger had hurt my wife, often without me knowing. I have never physically hurt her but my words did as much damage. It has been four months since I have read the book and I have not yelled or lost my temper, even once. I do not credit this book for all of this nor would I say it could work so well for everyone, but it really pointed me in the right direction. If you have been told you have an anger problem or if you think you might, I would highly recommend this book.

This was the worst book in that it made me take a long, hard look at myself. I did not like what I saw.
It was the best book because the author gives you tips and techniques to manage your anger and, more importantly, why you feel anger all the time.
Sadly, for me, it took the loss of a seven year relationship to wake me up.
I highly recommend this book, don't wait till it is too late...

If you are considering buying this book, if you think you may have an anger problem then I highly recommend this book.
1. Understanding why I am angry was worth the cost alone.
2. Recognizing habits I have and things I do that are part of my anger was worth the time spent reading.
3. Finding ways to deal with my anger was worth buying and reading this book 100 times.

The book was helpful and intelligent and easy to read. I was thrilled to understand better what has been happening in my head and I am happier having read it.

Remember, angy men are not just the violent abusive men. My anger has never had a violent aspect but it has been a problem in other ways. This book was great and helped me immensely.

Since recognizing and admitting I had an anger issue and having been on a journey of anger control since 1997 and having read numerous books since that time,
Harbin has an uncanny grasp of portraying how we got there, how we live, and what it is going to take to get out of the rut. He ought too, he is one of us.
Since receiving his book I have read it twice within 3 weeks and will now implement some of his exercises. It is like he was walking behind me through my life taking
notes leaving nothing to the imagination. You can tell he would have liked to told you more had his editor allowed him.
Beyond Anger has become my Anger Bible. I take it everywhere. When anger emotions and other issues come up.....I dig its pages for answers. Some pages are
obviously more crinkled than others for obvious reasons.
In closing, when I learned that I had an anger issue and became accountable for it, I was ashamed and at times I would not admit it, hence I battled with correcting it.
It was a terrible vacuum to fill for several months. Today I'm thankful and continue to pray that I have admitted it and am doing something about it and have friends
supporting me in my journey. For I had a loving brother I miss dearly that died at 39 from anger related stress leaving two children and a wife. We were of the same
mold. Our life was bankrupt before we got started. Anger raped our family!
My gift to you is this testimonial. If you are an angry person and searching for answers read this book. It is #1! You will be as pleasantly shocked as I was. Courage
is Fear that has said its prayers. Good Luck!

I have waited for a book like this for a very, very, long time. Like the author, I also searched the bookshelves and I too only found the Dance of Anger - a book for women. I was upset that it was addressed to women only. Why couldn't she handle men's issues as well? So I waited. Unknown to me at the time, Mr.Harbin, the author was preparing his manuscript on this book. Like many men, I too am not willing to admit I have a problem that I could not handle on my own. For the most other problems, I dealt with successfully. But the problem of anger always had a way of surfacing and defeating me. I approached this book with the attitude that I didn't have such a 'bad' problem with anger. I said to myself that if it doesn't apply to me the worst I did for myself was waste $15.00 and four or five hours of reading time. And this was a very small price to pay for a risk. Maybe it was denial that was keeping me from reading this book. After reading the book I found it was denial. Is denial keeping you from reading this book? I was also afraid of losing a powerful asset- my anger power. After reading this book, I found a great and more effective power then anger. For me anger was "A WEAPON AND A WALL" which hurt innocent people and kept loving people away.

This book is a fantastic resource for anyone who has ever wished their angry episodes didn't control their life. There are many insights into not just what you are doing wrong, but how you get there. This book provides helpful suggestions on how to recognize the things that force an angry man to action, as well as how to prevent these anger occurrances. I was so astonished by the accurate portrayals of my own attitude, that at times it made me uneasy. Reading this book will definitely make a difference in an angry man's life. :)

Too many men have lived their lives with the false notion that their anger is just part of life, and that nothing can or should be done to reduce it. If you are one of these men you should read this book. It will change your life for the better. Thomas Harbin has done a fine job of revealing the causes and the cures for destructive anger. I recommend this book.

Wayne D. Ford, Ph.D., author of "Stress Management for Over-Achievers" docwifford@msn.com

Harbin honestly presents steps to improve an angry man's ability to control his temper and become less angry. The book effectively pulls no punches by forcing an individual to take an honest look at how he behaves towards others and realize how he is perceived by others. The book was crucial in my understanding of how my anger behaviors hurt my family and it allowed me the courage to become a happier person.

During my now second split with my wife of almost 13 years I have found myself looking at all the things about myself that I didn't really like. I have always known that I really didn't like myself mainly due to how mad and frustrated I could get over trivial items. To my amazement I have finally realized through much thought provoking reading that I am angry. I found so many examples of things about my life in this book. It helped me to open up my eyes to how much of a hold anger has had on me all my life. This book is definitely something all those overbearing fathers and husbands need to read. It is a great read for those sons that were made to feel inferior by angry fathers.
It is what I would call eye opening.
Take a chance and read this book.

This book is realistic, practical and an easy read. It explains clearly what is going on in the minds of angry men and ways that they can begin to make changes. It is written from a mans perspective. The first section of the book 'are you angry?' is a real insight into how angry men are feeling and thinking. if you are not sure if anger causing problems in your life then this book will help you find out.

The chapter written for wives/ partners is excellent. Often partners don't understand what their husbands therapists are trying to achieve, and the reasons we ask then to do certain things. This chapter gives partners an explanation and also gives commonsense advice on how to cope and when to call it quits.
There is also a great section on angry boys as well and how to stop passing anger on.
this is my number one recommended book for men who just feel angry and frustrated and don't know why.