Most Helpful Customer Reviews
12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Everyone born between 1935-1975 should read this book, March 1, 2000
Leslie Chang as elegantly put into print the experience of my parents' generation. I, too, am a second generation American Born Chinese. I don't believe my parents intentionally hid their past from us, but with the language and cultural differences, the picture wasn't always so clear. But it all seems so much clearer now, having read Leslie's book ... and I consider myself nearly fluent in spoken Mandarin. The book has been instrumental in helping my parents and I to talk about our experiences even more. Her meticulous description of her mother in the booth trying on all those shoes ... was so graphic, so clear and so real ... I could hear the crowd whispering. It was little scenes like that, which really brought the reality of it all home ... that this happened to real people. This book talks more about the China, the Chinese and the life that I and many of the other American Born Chinese (ABC) friends that I'd grown up with are familiar with. I've been waiting for a book that shared my feelings, experience and thoughts and I feel that I have found it here. Thank you, Leslie, for all your research and your magic pen!
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Has a greater ring of "truth" than Joy Luck Club, August 6, 1999
By A Customer
I read this narrative in a matter of hours because I could not put it down. Sometimes poignant, sometimes bittersweet, sometimes funny, but always riveting, Beyond the Narrow Gate is a brave exploration of the Chinese immigrant experience based mainly on the art of survival and forgetting. It is hard to imagine today that ancien regime Nationalist China was about as opposite as modern day America in the 50s could get. These women simply did not come thousands of miles from another continent, they practically came from a another planet with the great differences in cultural attitudes, values and expectations yet not only survived, but endured and even prospered with a unique blend of stoic pragmatism. The down side of this pragmatism was a complete divorce between their previous life in China and subsequent life in America that mirrored the issues of their children. The narrative underscores the impact of the first generation upon the second, the options "jook sing" must make between the China that exists through the influence of their parents and their subjective experience as Americans. Leslie Chang's courageous journey from rejection to acceptance of her natal culture is often painful, revealing human weaknesses and unimaginable responses in the face of impending tragedy. Memory and survival are strange bedfellows. I doubt that few of us would have her integrity in seeking out the darkest recesses of their parents' closet without flinching. Despite the recent spate of pop psychoanalytical memoirs, Leslie's narrative is all the more powerful for the revelation of sealed off rooms of painful memory for Nationalist Chinese immigrants, most, if not all are unwilling to revisit. Their stoic Confucian attitudes do not allow them to bemoan what fate gave them, but to constantly look forward to the future. Looking backwards at closed chapters of life is not only considered uninstructive, but destructive. They passed on a patrimony was often the good life in America for their children but not of their own past. Incisively written with a wealth of anecdotal detail, all of the stories converge into a final poignant scene - Leslie and Wei making dumplings for Chinese New Years like their parents before them and the generations before that. The spare prose handles the disjointed lives sensitively with a ring of unmistakable truth. The references to poet Wallace Stevens, a man who had a less than fulfilling life himself, are a nice touch. Bravo!
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
An insightful and engrossing attempt to understand parents., July 5, 1999
Leslie Chang's book moved me and echoed so many of my own sentiments as an adult child of immigrants. I bought this book as a 65th birthday present for my mother. I ended up inhaling it in three late night "peeking at the book you bought for someone else" sessions. Her observations, thorough research, honest prose, and intuitive insights reveal her as both a scalpel sharp journalist and an imperfect, caring human being who struggles with the ongoing process of figuring out how to relate to parents who speak a different language, literally and psychically. Chang speaks of resentment and annoyance at her mother but admits that she loves and appreciates her often-overbearing mother. Did Chang secretly listen in on my private psychotherapy sessions? I've wrestled my whole life with the loneliness that I so often feel as the child of parents who will never understand that much of me or see me for who I think I really am. I feel a little less alone because writers like Leslie Chang are able to engage in candid and fair examinations of our parents who so often feel like aliens. At an author's reading night that I attended in Berkeley, Leslie Chang showed up with her mother. She shared with the audience that her mother had not read the book yet, but had bought a thousand copies. That is so Chinese! Chang took risks here. One of the women profiled in the book is angry with Leslie for the way she is portrayed. One brother has read only twenty pages. The other said, "what's the point?" Chang confessed that she never wants to write a book involving family members again. I'm glad she wrote this book. I highly recommend this book not just to adult children of immigrants, but to anyone who wrestles with issues of loneliness, conditional love, personal disappointment, irreconcilable differences, survival, and belonging.
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
|
|
Most Recent Customer Reviews
|