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Beyond Orgasm: Dare to Be Honest about the Sex You Really Want Paperback – October 1, 2002


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  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Celestial Arts (October 1, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1587611686
  • ISBN-13: 978-1587611681
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #884,020 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Some of the most open, commonsense advice you'¬?re likely to find, and funny to boot. —USA Today

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•Features new approaches to fantasy and experimentation, common and not-so-common turn-ons and turn-offs, and explains why clamming up guarantees rocky sex while communication guarantees sex that rocks.

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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By David S. Hall on October 30, 2002
Format: Paperback
This latest book is another example of why Marty Klein is one of the most respected sex educators in our country today. Marty takes on the sex negativity of our American culture and names it properly as "The Secrecy Imperative". In nine chapters he outlines how our fear of sexuality, our obsession about Orgasm, and our inability to be honest about what we really want from our sexual encounters has poisoned our ability to truly experience all that a sexual relationship has to offer.
"We live in a world that encourages sexual secrets. These secrets don't protect us or make our lives better the way they are supposed to. On the contrary, these secrets only cripple our true sexual self, which is hidden, ignored, denied, and distorted."
Using examples from his 22 years of clinical practice, he shows how these secrets stop us from being fully ourselves. He describes the very high cost of these secrets, and how they keep us from accepting ourselves as sexually healthy beings, fool us into believing we are not "normal" and trap us in lives that are less than sexually fulfilling. There are a number of wonderful lists of suggestions in each chapter, guidelines for moving toward a more honest view of self, and a more honest communication with our partners. He also admits that honesty is sometimes used to hurt and punish, and give help in understanding how to avoid that trap.
Finally, in Chapter 9, entitled "(Finally) Getting Beyond Orgasm" he describes what is possible in a life lived as honestly as possible. This book is valuable to every person who wants to live a sexually authentic life, reach for what is truly possible in relationships, and understand why we do some of the strange things we do in the name of sex.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful By Ms. VEB on February 27, 2003
Format: Paperback
This is a wonderful, very human book about how, why and at what price we hide the truth, especially our sexual truths, from ourselves and each other. Using lots of examples, humor and compassion the author discusses the challenges of self-acceptance, sexual honesty, and genuine intimacy. His writing is so candid and forthright that we, the readers, begin to see how intimate communication is created. This book is good for readers whose loved ones (spouses, kids, siblings, etc.) have trouble with sexual honesty, as well as for readers who are afraid to share their own sexual truths. I recommend this book to everyone who wants to help themselves or others have better sex, love and intimacy through self-acceptance and authenticity.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Donn King on October 28, 2002
Format: Paperback
Dr. Klein has the ability to discuss sex, a subject that most people have learned to shy away from, in the most sensible, straightforward, calm way, as though it is no more remarkable than sports or politics. This is the fourth book of Dr. Klein's that I have read (Ask me Anything, Your Sexual Secrets, Let Me Count the Ways). In each of them, Marty Klein discusses the most intimate sexual topics, with a friendly candor that is reassuring and disarming. Over and over again, throughout Beyond Orgasm and his other books, Dr. Klein offers a down to earth way of looking at sexual situations and problems that simplifies and de-fuses the intimate sexual minefield. Marty Klein's gift is to make the reader feel that sexual problems and impasses in relationships are ordinary and solvable, by using the same common sense approaches that we use to solve any sort of problem.
The title of the book, Beyond Orgasm, refers to the vast realm of sexual experience that lies beyond the rigid adherence to sex as intercourse, and coital orgasm as the goal of sex. Beyond Orgasm also discusses the topic of sexual secrets: the sexual, personal things that we share and often don't share with our partners. Sometimes these secrets are even too scary to admit to ourselves, or if admitted, are too charged with values and emotions to live with comfortably. Dr. Klein writes about when it is useful and not useful to share this information with our partners and how to be self-accepting of our own secrets. Beyond Orgasm is loaded with examples drawn from Dr. Klein's case histories. He uses humor and common sense to describe methods for sharing our intimate, sexual selves, and accepting our own and others' secret intimacies.
Above all, there is a sense of optimism in Beyond Orgasm.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful By An appreciative reader on February 10, 2003
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Beyond Orgasm is a very clear and supportive book, addressing directly the many difficulties people experience in being honest about their innermost sexual feelings and desires. Dr. Klein goes a step further in helping give readers a practical means for talking about sex in the larger context of a loving relationship. As a clinical psychologist who knows quite well what harm barriers to effective communication can do in any area of a relationship, I welcome Dr. Klein's ability to encourage a sensible flexibility and openness around some very delicate issues. I highly recommend this book.
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