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Keen insights into forgiveness and revenge, March 29, 2008
This review is from: Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct (Hardcover)
Compared to the vast number of books on the science of happiness published in the last few years, there is almost nothing on forgiveness. When you consider that every human being will be wronged, betrayed, aggressed against, and hurt by another person as well as witness wars, genocides, and atrocities at home and abroad, it's about time that an expert culled together all there is know about what leads people to forgive as opposed to executing revenge.
McCullough's book is incredibly refreshing because he provides a new lens to understanding forgiveness and in turn, how to successfully maintain harmonious relationships (whether it is between people or nations). Instead of mindlessly touting the beauty of forgiveness and the evils of vengefulness, McCullough captures the complexity of these topics. Essentially, we are hard-wired to be both forgiving and vengeful and we need to understand how these strategies developed over the course of evolution to be able to wield them effectively.
I am always impressed when a scientist can describe complex ideas in an extremely interesting and simple manner. McCullough walks the reader through fascinating research studies and provides an excellent presentation of how the brain evolved to add both a craving for revenge and desire to forgive to our toolbox for dealing with other people. Yet, the best chapters are when McCullough moves from this research to the real-world. References to the ongoing war in Iraq, the "code of the street" in volatile inner cities, and the distinguishing features of diverse cultures bring his theories and research to life. He provides compelling logic for how to create the best conditions for people to be more forgiving and for nations to resolve their differences with the best possible outcomes in the aftermath of death and destruction.
Too many books are written by journalists and freelance writers reading and summarizing the work of scientists. Michael McCullough is one of the most prolific and influential thinkers on forgiveness and morality. There are only a handful of people who are qualified to write this book. Based on his own original research, new interpretations of old findings, and ability to dispel long-standing myths (for example, that revenge is rare and a sign of pathology), it is obvious that McCullough is one of them.
Anyone interested in evolution and understanding human nature, should read this.
Anyone interested in justice, morality, and the reduction of conflict, violence, and war, should read this.
Anyone interested in enhancing their own lives and learning about fundamental strengths that exist in some capacity in all of us, should read this.
Anyone interested in being intellectually stimulated, should read this.
On the back of the book, Richard Wrangham says that "every Secretary of State should read it." I couldn't agree more. This book is relevant to everyone because we all have far too much first-hand experience with the suffering caused by other people. Don't get me wrong, this book is not overly political and it is not cynical. You will walk away with a sense of optimism about how forgiveness can be cultivated in a complex and demanding world.
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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful:
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Great book, not a sermon for forgiveness, April 8, 2008
This review is from: Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct (Hardcover)
Searching for books on forgiveness in amazon gives you 127,000 results. From the ones I've seen, the message is almost always the same: forgive those who hurt you because god wants you to, and because it will make you happier and healthier. I've always found that message to be too simplistic. If forgiveness is so great, why is the temptation for revenge so deeply etched in our brains? Aren't there cases where a lack of forgiveness can be healthy or even moral?
What I like most about this new book by McCullough is that he takes these questions seriously. He doesn't take a tendency for revenge to be sick, immature, or theologically misguided. Instead, in a very balanced way, he considers both revenge and forgiveness to be part of human nature, and even reviews evidence in species ranging from guppies to chimpanzees to people showing that forgiveness can be most beneficial when it is coupled with a tendency to punish people who want try to take advantage of you. This very readable book does not preach, though it does express hope for a more forgiving world, offering suggestions based on solid science about how to bring this about.
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:
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First rate, April 2, 2008
This review is from: Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct (Hardcover)
It takes a subtle mind to ask the seemingly straightforward question, "Why forgive?" In the same way that sexual reproduction was taken for granted before it was recognized as a phenomenon in need of an explanation, the first step in understanding forgiveness was recognizing that there are plenty of good, functional reasons to take revenge. Identifying this as an important and interesting research area would have been itself a powerful contribution. McCullough goes beyond this, however, and provides elegant answers to the question which others had failed even to ask.
The importance of "Beyond Revenge" extends past its contribution to the specific question it asks and answers. In many ways, Mike McCullough represents the best of a newly emerging kind of social scientist: a major player and intellectual force steeped in the data-rich tradition of social psychology, bringing to bear the powerful lens of an evolutionary/functional analysis. This book does more than give a lively (and quite possibly correct) explanation for the function of forgiveness. It provides a blueprint for carefully applying principles of biology and evolution to understand the enormous amount of data generated by a century of social science research. In bringing together his deep knowledge of a research area, and combining it with a penetrating evolutionary analysis, McCullough has potentially inspired not just readers, but possibly the next generation of social scientist to make use, in serious and rigorous fashion, of the conceptual tools furnished by evolutionary approaches to behavior. This book ought to be read by anyone interested in revenge and forgiveness... and by anyone who wants to see the direction of the social sciences, with Mike McCullough in the vanguard.
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