The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming [Hardcover]

Lou Paget (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 8, 2001

In her first book, How to Be a Great Lover, bestselling sex educator Lou Paget showed women how to master a man's body. In her second book, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure, Paget showed men how to please the woman they adore. In this, her third book, Paget shows both sexes how to bring each other to unimaginable heights of sexual excitement—together.

In her first two books, Paget has proven herself to be not only a source of both the most provocative and useful techniques and technical information about sexuality but also an honest and candid voice that men and women have come to rely on. In her nine years of giving Sexuality Seminars, the questions most commonly posed are about orgasms: "Are simultaneous orgasms really possible?" "What can I do if I've never had an orgasm?" "Do only certain types of orgasms 'count'?" In The Big O she answers these questions by debunking the myths and demystifying the questions and confusion surrounding orgasms that can wreak havoc on your sex life, your relationship, or your self-esteem.

In The Big O Paget provides the most essential and cutting-edge information that will explain and show—with explicit step-by-step instructions—all you want to know about having an orgasm and giving one, including:
—The ten different ways that women and the seven different ways men are known to orgasm
—Tips on how to control the timing and frequency of orgasms
—Exercises to increase your body's sensitivity and suggestions for women who have never experienced an orgasm to explore and practice privately
—The real scoop on aphrodisiacs and other orgasm enhancers
—Emotional enhancers and inhibitors: the psychology of orgasms
—Physical obstacles to orgasms, including medications, diet, alcohol, and recreational drugs
—Historical and hysterical facts about orgasms
—The Kama Lou-Tra: Lou's own look at Tantric sex and the spiritual side of orgasms

Each chapter contains elucidating and entertaining anecdotes based on research and interviews with thousands of men and women that show readers how the techniques work and what obstacles to avoid.
The Big O is a book for men and women of all ages—from the time you want to start experiencing the crscendo of an orgasm to the time in your life when having one might not be such an easy feat. With her signature style of fresh information and clear detail, Paget shows you and your partner how to have and give more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Did you know that women can orgasm in 10 different ways, and a man in 7 different ways? A new book from sex educator Lou Paget is always a delight. Her frank, positive attitude and sprightly style make her books a pleasure to read. Her other books have focused on the total sexual experience--this one zooms in on the "Big O": orgasm. Of course first you have to understand how your body and your partner's body function sexually, how to build seduction and foreplay into your lovemaking (no matter how long you've been together as a couple), the importance of communication, and myths you need to dispel, so don't expect a whole book of lovemaking technique. In chapters 5 (women's orgasms) and 6 (men's orgasms), she gets to the techniques: lots of them, and clearly illustrated with line drawings.

Paget also includes spicy and amusing facts, such as, "Back in the Middle Ages, straight pubic hair was a sign of too much masturbation, which presumably accounts for the wide popularity of miniature pubic hair curlers at the time," and "In 1930 there was a nude indoor bicycle race in Paris in which each woman's goal was to be the first to orgasm from rubbing on the seat."

Lou Paget is also the author of How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind and How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know. Though some information from earlier books is repeated in this one (who minds a reminder about our differences, or an illustration of Ode to Bryan, AKA the Penis Samba?), most is new, or presented in a new way. You'll enjoy The Big O--and so will your partner! --Joan Price

From Library Journal

Paget is the author of two outstanding sex manuals: How To Be a Great Lover (for women, about men, LJ 1/99) and How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure (for men, about women, LJ 1/00). The Big O (for both men and women) draws highlights from both of those works and offers new information from psychology, health and medicine, and spirituality. But the result is too little about too much, especially in the medical chapter. When does failure to get an erection become a problem? What is "low desire"? Why does delayed ejaculation appear in the premature ejaculation section? Why is nerve-sparing prostate surgery mentioned with "enhancers" rather than in the medical chapter? What's a "Sybian vibrator"? Paget's interdisciplinary approach doesn't gel, and some of the writing and editing is sloppy and vague. Paget shines when describing sex techniques in her first two books, which libraries should buy instead of this. Martha Cornog, Philadelphia
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 272 pages
• Publisher: Crown Archetype; 1 edition (May 8, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0767907485
• ISBN-13: 978-0767907484
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.8 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #598,614 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Combining fifteen years of sexuality research with her experience as a sex educator, Lou Paget is the author of the acclaimed sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, and is the instructor and founder of the nationally recognized and wildly popular Sexuality Seminars. Lou has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and Redbook. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Customer Reviews

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66 of 67 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding info your mamma or daddy didn't tell you!!, November 1, 2003

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This review is from: The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming (Hardcover)

The Big O. is a concise easy to read overview of human sexual response and how to get to the finish line. Lou Paget does an excellent job organizing and giving you all the information out in the world today about sexual release for men and women. This is her third book and written to both genders unlike her previous books which were written for gender specific.

In 260 pages Ms. Paget manages to give you 'The Big O' from conception to completion with some fun stuff in between. 'The Big O' will definitely bring you up to date on the physiological aspects of your important parts to achieve orgasm. Ms. Paget manages to do this with in the realm of education and not being crude.

She also touches on the very important aspect that [love making] begins in the head and the brain is the larges sex organ. She touches on the mental aspects of boredom, anxiety, and arousal.

There are chapters dedicated to both men and women were she describes the different and numerous kinds of orgasms available to both men and women. Both these chapters give you some very specific how to's on achieving orgasm. By far I would say those two chapters will hold your interest and you will want to experiment using some of her ideas unless you knew them already.

Of course no book written on the subject of sexuality is complete today with out a chapter on the medical concerns of [intercourse] today. Ms. Paget has two chapters one dedicated to discussing fitness, depression, desire, and menopause along with diseases that effect sexual response and outcome. She also has a chapter dedicated to sexually transmitted diseases.

Included in her book are chapters on Fun Stuff to try: aphrodisiacs, massage, aromatherapy, exercises, and other toys.

The book does an excellent job on describing mental and physical aspects of orgasm for men and women and touches on lots of other exciting ideas you might want to explore and expand future education. I enjoyed this book and learned a lot about the bodies of men and women and took some mental notes on the techniques offered in the book. Over all I would say this is a great book for your library.

One of the fun things in the book are the snippets of information through out the book titled Historical and hysterical facts and Secrets from Lou?s Archives. You will get a giggle from some of these and some valuable information.

I would recommend this book to all.

85 of 90 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Buy Paget's other books instead, March 18, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming (Hardcover)

I'm a huge fan of Lou Paget's other books: How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure and How to be a Great Lover (my girlfriend and I have the books and the tapes). This is what led us to buy the Big O, but we were disopointed. It's pretty much a rush job that seems to be a repeat of her last two books. Most of the same information is repeated, but phrased differently. It also dosen't cater to male orgasmims much at all. It's more of a guide for women in doing their part to help their man orgasim as opposed to helping men cultivate their own. Paget has a lot to teach and she has helped our sex life a lot, but this book wasn't all it was cracked up to be. If you've read her last two books and want to learn more, perhaps another writer with a different approach would be refreshing. But make sure you get her other two books first!

28 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars What your momma should have told you, August 2, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming (Hardcover)

I only wish I had had this book when I was younger but even at 68 it has improved my life.