Big Tail, Small Kite: The Wisdom of Balance (Paperback)

by Ernie Vecchio (Author), Sandy Tritt (Editor), Jean K. Hughes (Illustrator)

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Product Description
Big Tail - Small Kite is a self-help book that uses metaphor to depict the emotional and spiritual growth possible when healing shame. The premise is that if the human spirit is unable to reach its intended potential, it will grow desperate to self-actualize. Specifically, we are in a spiritual crisis when our outer experience is incongruent with our inner sense of self. Torn by shame makes matters worse because it is not something that WE do. Rather, the tear itself is the experience. Each of us comes into the world free from the prejudgments of others and, by design, perfect. However, our outer experience teaches us two harsh realities. First, a shaming tear is unavoidable in a culture that considers it humorous to disgrace others. Second, this experience charges our emotions so much that we have to develop an inner life to manage the affect. Like a kite with a torn sail cover, the downward force of shame and upward push of the human spirit, create the struggle for self-acceptance. Big Tail - Small Kite uses a well-known childhood story - The Ugly Duckling - to help the reader remember their personal experience with shame, while using a kite metaphor to present seven steps to healing.

About the Author
The author, Ernie Vecchio, is a seasoned teacher, mentor, and psychotherapist licensed in clinical, school, and rehabilitation psychology. He has helped countless individuals find balance between their outside experiences with shame and their inside personal truth. During his career of working with severe trauma patients, Ernie has developed a psychospiritual understanding of that which divides us all: self-judgment. Those willing to explore and heal this division internally discover a broader and more compassionate view of the self. The result is forgiveness and a personal freedom to BE who they are.

Product Details

• Paperback: 79 pages
• Publisher: Whitehall Printing (March 11, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0971708304
• ISBN-13: 978-0971708303
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #4,267,897 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars Metaphorically speaking, April 16, 2008

By	E. Stratton "greyeraven" (Lexington, KY) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Masterful use of metaphor from a childhood tale makes this book both engaging and enlightening. We all hold an "ugly duckling" inside us. Mr. Vecchio shows us how to grow from the duckling into the swan we wish to be, by balancing the light and shadow within us.

5.0 out of 5 stars Big Tail, Small Kite, March 8, 2003

By	K M Ross (United States) - See all my reviews

In reading Mr. Vecchio's concepts, I am awestruck at his multidimensional awareness of humanity. He is truly making his mark with this book. The insight that he shares will reckon him as a psychological giant along with Jung and Rogers. One can extract from this book a life's guide where one can truly see one's footprints in the snow. I anxiously await new titles from this author.