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Birth of an Adoptive, Foster or Stepmother: Beyond Biological Mothering Attachments

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A lot of what the author says (especially in relation to her own story and feelings) I can relate to, but she goes off onto tangents of psychology and "Therapy Speak" that are way over the average readers' desire to try to follow. A description of a child with attachment difficulties "rebirthing" himself?? The talk about "container moms" who must take everything- including being urinated upon in order to let a child know that she identifies with a child past and can take it?

I am not sure the guidance and examples provided here are healthy for the parent, even if, by some strange miracle, they are healthy for the child.

As a foster/adoptive mom of two healthy, fabulous children, I am shocked at the author's view that such parents must go to such lengths to help children and form healthy attachments. It seems irresponsible for the author to suggest that complete humiliation and prostration by a parent would be helpful to children with fragile attachments, when such children need healthy role models.