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The Birth Of A Mother: How The Motherhood Experience Changes You Forever

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Although written by a man, this book seems to grab the psychology of a pregnant woman quite successfully. The writer asks the accurate questions and enlightens the reader with the detailed and satisfactory answers. This is not a text book though, it is like a complete novel of the journey of becoming a mother. Highly recommended...

I bought the book today and I finished it. Sterns did a great job. They explained a highly complex developmental theory very simply for everyone who want to learn something on motherhood. I am psychologist who has been interested in their theory in a very sophisticated way for a very long time but I felt that I learned a lot while reading the book. Everyone should read this 'tour de force' to understand themselves, their mothers, their chilhood, their motherhood and also their 'fatherhood'. Congratulations Nadia and Dan !

If you have any doubts about buying this book, this review is written for you. I read this book in about 1 hour the first time and have read it about four more times since. I loved it! It's truly one of a kind and extremely enlightening. As a new mother, you are overwhelmed with so many thoughts and feelings and this book helps you feel normal and helps you understand yourself in a new way...as a mother!

This book offers much valuable information about what goes on emotionally when your expecting a child, and once you've become a mom. It helps you to understand many of the "why's" about what you may be feeling or thinking. While most books offer information on pregnancy,labor and delivery, they leave a very important subject untouched...the psychological and emotional side of it all. This book is all about that and definitely worth reading.

I didn't like this book very much. It was recommended to me because I was having my first child at 41, and I was nervous about it whether I would be a good mom. It was interesting, but too "heavy" for my taste. The focus was possibly realistic, but I didn't find it comforting at all.

I was in complete despair after the birth of my beautiful daughter. I had read other books about PPD and nothing hit home for me...until I read this book. If you are having an identity crisis as I was reading this book made me weep with relief. I could finally put words and concrete feelings to my emotions. Now my daughter is 13 months old and I am just as attached to her as she is to me. I love her more than seems possible. I would even say that this would be a good prenatal book for those of us who are worried about PPD. All this knowledge and written by a man!!!!

This book is a perfect read when you are pregnant, and the meaning you take from it changes even more after you give birth. I have shared this book with 5 other friends who loved this read as new mothers.

This is a book, based on serious psychological research, and contains the state of the art knowledgge about becoming a mother. It ought to be obligatory reading for evry mother to be. perhaps even to be read before deciding to have a baby.
Espen Collett, teaching psychoanaytic psychotherapist

This book was an assigned reading from our family therapist.
Each woman starts her own motherhood a certain way - some become a mother at 8 or 12yo, when caring for a younger sibling, some become a mother at 50yo, when taking their late-arrived child for the first time to the ER, and some, during a miscarriage or after an abortion.

The book won't create a mother of you, but will help you identify several essential steps of your personal maturity that created - or will create a mother of you.
Unlike a "pregnancy book" that most likely fairytales the labor and explains how most women are soaked with love during pushing and become a mother here and there, this book addresses deep thoughts, and maturing processes that are independent of any single physical moment. You don't need to be pregnant to be a mother, you don't need to have a vaginal birth to be a mother. You don't even need a child to be a mother!
And vice versa, having a smooth pregnancy and dream vaginal birth doesn't create instant perfect love toward the new baby.

You need that book to acknowledge your own identity thru your own personal life and experiences, beyond what "people think of you".

As for me, it helped me be proud and active in my own IDENTICAL AND EQUAL love toward three children who came to me thru three different ways, loving my children for who they are, not for the how or when or when of their arrival.

This book is supposed to be what the mother goes through during pregnancy. Though some of it is accurate, I'd have to say that it's not something that I wanted to read while pregnant. It was suggesting things that pregnant women think about that were negative and thoughts I wouldn't have thought had I not read this book. One story in there is about a woman who goes through 'excruciating' labor and some about miscarriages.

It does have some valid information and may be good for some in the field and this is the only reason why I gave two stars. If you're looking for an upbeat pregnancy book that will encourage you and help you with what you're going through - this book is not for you.