70 of 73 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Best book I've read on body language, June 28, 2001
This review is from: Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating (Paperback)
Why is it that most people trash body language books, yet fail to realize there are many truths? My impression is that we don't want to admit that tens of thousands of years of biology are still controlling part of our reactions so we try to distance ourselves from the body language spectacle.
Anyway, here's some points you will pick up from this book:
(1) Learn to read the body langauge of a woman before approaching her. Don't go where you aren't appreciated, in other words; (2) Several subtle, and not so subtle, clues as to whether she's interested in you . .. from eyes to feet to preening; (3) understanding anthropology; why men and women pick certain traits; (4) signs that she isn't interested; (5) looking for clusters; (6) becoming more aware; and (7) how to make yourself more attractive through body language.
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39 of 41 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
Some Good Advice, Some Cheesy Advice, But A Good Refresher On Non-verbal Communication, January 6, 2006
This review is from: Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating (Paperback)
The Pros:
- Good layout
Sections are appropriately titled and information in each section is relevant (for the most part). Headlines make specific points easy to find, and most ideas are then clearly explained under sub-headings.
- (On that note) Clear explanations of ideas. I would imagine that even a high schooler shouldn't have too much trouble understanding the ideas and the language used.
- A good quick reference for people who already have an understanding of non-verbal communication and gives a little more depth to some of the reasoning behind some actions.
- Pictures demonstrate many ideas (also a con - see below)
The Cons:
- Anyone with even a moderate understanding of non-verbal communication or anyone who has read a book on communication in relationships will find 99% of the information useless.
- When taken for just the parts covered in the appendix, the book is a great reference, however his actual content is awful. He goes on and on throughout the book about "Rapo" (Rape-O) women and "Cavalier" men, which has very little point.
- More time is spent explaining that some men are "dogs" and some women are "teases" than is spent on actual "body language secrets".
- A large part of the book does not even pretend to discuss body language. Chapters include,"Meeting Ms Or Mr Right", "Courtship Tactics For Women", and "On Not Being Too Nice". Interestingly enough, because of the lack of compelling content on the actual body language side, I personally found these areas the most useful.
- His analysis like the idea that a man is being insincere if his feet are not firmly planted when talking to you does not take into account problems like how a short or tall man might not be able to plant their feet because the size of a chair may be wrong (for example).
- The pictures are all of the author and his wife. Many pictures do not very clearly demonstrate the point the author is trying to make.
My Analysis:
Spend a little more money and get a good textbook on non-verbal communication.
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41 of 46 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
Most of This Book NOT About Body Language, Save Your Moneÿ, December 27, 1999
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This review is from: Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating (Paperback)
Much of this book is very similiar to Steele's How to Date Young Women series. There are better and lower priced body language books out there without Steele's dating observations of varying quality included as filler. If this book were strictly about body language it would only be about 50 pages in length. Like his other works, which are self-published as is this, editing and writing are crude. Steele has some dating and relationship observations that are continuously recycled in his writings. And remember, he's twice divorced.
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