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Boomerang Kids: How to Live With Adult Children Who Return Home

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The hardest part of being a parent is to LET GO of your children. WHen a grown child comes back for a rather extended stay, from a misfortune or simply from being lazy or unmotivated, though we know that they should be staying temporarily but the FEAR, the OBLIGATION and the GUILT will force us into letting them stay quasi permanently. Consequently, the dilemna paralyzes us. This book brings some clarity and some actions to what we can do to make the situation a better one.

In the words of Khalid Gebran, a lebanese poet:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

I could really relate to this book. It really hit home concerning my daughter. I was reading things that sounded just my situation. Things I had known I needed to do, but just couldn't bring my self to do them. But I'm trying every day and sometimes i go back to the book and read certain chapters. I definitely recommend this book for parents who have a child either living at home and doesn't want to leave or follow the rules, or if your child lives out but wants you to help support them.