timely, thought provoking page-turner that should be considered a desk reference for caregivers and those who would be caregivers of all ages."
-Rawle Andrews, Jr., Esq., Regional Vice President, AARP
"A personal, compelling account. It is thorough, accurate, and highly credible. Brent's straightforward advice can serve as an excellent help to anyone in the situation of working with siblings on parent care. I highly recommend it!"--Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N., attorney, author of The Boomer's Guide to Aging Parents
"As a pastor and counselor, I endorse Brent's book as an excellent resource. I recommend it for inclusion in all church libraries, homes of family caregivers, and the offices of pastors who work with people who care for aging parents."
-Rev. Dr. Mary Newbern-Williams, Pastor, Cote Brilliante Presbyterian Church (St. Louis, Missouri)
"It takes real courage to reveal your darkest hour and deepest vulnerability to benefit others. Brent is truly inspirational. Her book offers us the universal wisdom of her life lessons. She has set a new, elevated standard for turning adversity to love and redemption."-Mikol Davis, Ph.D., geriatric psychologist, CEO of AgingParents.com
"As a pastor, physician, veteran, and one who was also a caregiver and suffered loss, I know Carolyn Brent has stripped the cover off of one of life's most painful processes. Why Wait?
challenges us to take an honest look at our deepest fears and rejoice in our hope of true reconciliation."-Charles Woodridge, M.D.
From the Author
According to Senior Journal,
there are over 79 million Baby Boomers in the United States. Baby Boomers are people born between 1946 and 1964. The parents of Boomers in their late forties have reached their sixties and seventies. Boomers in their sixties have parents already in their eighties and nineties. The point is, if you're a Boomer, then preparing emotionally, financially, and legally for your aging parent's end-of-life needs and death is increasingly relevant. The need for planning has become even more imperative than it was in decades past because our aging population is living longer, but not necessarily healthier; meaning, we are confronting a different set of medical concerns and choices than our forbears did.
For the elderly, now is the time for conversations about end-of-life issues to take place with their children, not later. And if your parents don't bring the subject up, as a concerned child you should. I call these conversations "crucial" because the outcome matters. I like the definition of a crucial conversation in the book Crucial Conversations
by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler (McGraw-Hill, 2002). These co-authors say a crucial conversation is one in which opinions may vary, stakes are high, and emotions run strong. Tough issues are being addressed and the results have a huge impact on your quality of life. If crucial conversations are done effectively, they transform lives and can help a family to bond.
Why wait to begin talking? Why wait until there is a crisis? It is much better to hold these crucial conversations early when your parents are still healthy and can articulate their wishes, needs, and concerns. When a family has a plan, it is much easier to work together as a team.