RYAN O’NEAL is an Academy Award–nominated actor, best known for his roles in Peyton Place, Love Story, What’s Up, Doc?, and Paper Moon. Most recently, he has appeared on 90210 and has a popular recurring role on Bones. His reality show with his daughter, Ryan and Tatum: The O’Neals, aired its first season on OWN in June 2011.
JODEE BLANCO is the author of the New York Times bestseller Please Stop Laughing at Me.
KENT CARROLL was the editorial director of Grove Press, the founder and publisher of Carroll & Graf, and is currently the publisher of Europa Editions.
This book was very interesting. I believe it was mostly factual. I was surprised at Ryan's candor especially concerning his career. I didn't expect that from him. It held my interest throughout. I had a different opinion of him after I read Tatum's 2 books which didn't have anything good to say about him or Farrah. I recommend this book if you have any interest in Farrah or Ryan. His children are all old enough to take responsibility for their lives/addictions. Time to stop blaming their parents.
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I'm a huge fan of both Ryan and Farrah. I appreciate that Ryan wrote this book. I do believe in his constant affirmations of his love for Farrah in the book and on tv. I can see both sides of his and Farrah's relationship now and also with his children. If you are a fan of either Farrah and Ryan, definitely read the book. There's a lot of interesting little things in the book that I didn't know before, i.e., Raquel Welch's catty remark to Farrah; what Ryan thought about Farrah's mother; the 18 mo. that Redmond spent in a horrible rehab. when he was very young, to name just a few. I have much more compassion for all of them after reading the book. Best wishes to Ryan and his family as they continue their healing.
I read this book in one weekend because it is so interesting and the sincerity was fully evident. It was a true love note for Farrah and for Ryan's children and I was surprised by his viewpoint of these relationships, having only been informed by the tabloid press. It is a very good book. I never expected it to be the case but I was left with sympathy and respect for Ryan. This was a really good book.
I gave this book three stars because I read it in one night, and the story stayed with me the next day. I think anyone who's had any kind of troubled family life, could relate to many of the things Ryan O'Neal has went through with his family.
But there are many reasons I didn't, and couldn't, give 'Both Of Us' five stars. Some are not very fair, nor pertinent to the book. That being that I always found Ryan O'Neal and Farrah Fawcett to be despicable people. Ryan ran out on his kids for her and Farrah ran out on her husband for him. I have no doubts that her life would've been much less stressful if she had stayed with Lee Majors.
One of my biggest reasons, however, for the average stars, is because I could not figure out whether Ryan O'Neal was just outright lying in this book, or whether he was doing what people his age are prone to do--engage in revisionist history. I finally decided that he was just a liar, for several reasons...
1. Mr. O'Neal tries to come across as someone who fell in love with a married woman, and that this woman's husband was just 'in the way'. That the two of them couldn't help themselves, that's how strong their feelings were. I do believe on a physical level, that was true. But there is a disturbing pattern concerning Ryan O'Neal and the people he has in his life. His first wife was either a drug addict before he met her or became one while they were married. His second wife apparently had the good sense to get out early. All of his children, with the exception of Patrick, whom he had with Leigh Taylor-Young(the second wife) have been arrested and have been on drugs. They have also had physical altercations with Ryan.Read more ›
After watching the moving video of Fawcett's battle with cancer, I was eagerly anticipating O'Neal's book.
I read it in only 1.5 sittings, despite the book (particularly the first half +) containing clearly beneficial (to the writer) "revisionist history", although the author does outright say at one point that his dates and events are his and he gives leeway for countering versions of the events. I found the opening page alone to not have the ring of truth to it and it takes perhaps 100 pages to come from behind after such a saccharine opening. I would absolutely LOVE to hear from friends and family if this event is a newly offered recollection - or had it been something both O'Neal and Fawcett had previously openly shared, as he said, with a laugh?
However, despite the attempt to bolster the self image, and an effort to minimize personal responsibility in many "watered down" recounts, it's clear that this was a beautiful although troubled union. The love for Fawcett is abundantly clear as are his efforts to portray his parenting as more responsible. I feel that his written words are often, during a tale, are more of a reflection of what he WISHED to be true rather than what may have been more accurate.
He struggles to take responsibility for his participation in often dramatic, chaotic and violent events but his hindsight is "spot on". I found the portions of writing where he ponders if the struggle of the dynamics and incidents with his previous children left her without the "energy reserves" she needed to rely on to win the fight over cancer.
Fawcett comes across as incredibly kind, intelligent and passionate, loving and having incredible intentions. What's true is only known to her immediate friends and family.Read more ›