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Boundaries in Marriage [Paperback]

Henry Cloud , John Townsend
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Book Description

August 6, 2002
Learn when to say yes and when to say no--to your spouse and to others--to make the most of your marriage Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the 'property lines' that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning best-seller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage---and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for. Boundaries in Marriage helps couples: * Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse * Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage * Protect their marriage from different kinds of 'intruders' * Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries---or work with one who doesn't

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Establishing and understanding boundaries are crucial to the success of a marriage, according to authors Cloud and Townsend, who cowrote the award-winning and biblically-based book Boundaries. For example, boundaries help us understand where one person ends and the other begins, the authors claim: "Once we know the boundaries, we know who should be owning the problem we are wrestling with," they write. "This issue of ownership is vital to any relationship, especially marriage." But more significantly, couples need to claim and take responsibility for the "treasures that lie within their individual borders," such as: "feelings, attitudes, behaviors, choices, limits, desires, thoughts, values, talents, and love." Based on the book that elevated them to national prominence, Cloud and Townsend caution readers not to use this self-help manifesto as a means to change one's spouse. Rather, this is a book about taking responsibility for oneself in all aspects of life, but especially within the boundaries of marital commitment. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Two lives becoming one: That’s the marriage ideal. But maybe you’ve discovered that it’s easier said than done. How do you solve problems? How do you establish healthy communication? How do you work out conflict and deal with the struggle of differing needs? In the process of knitting two souls together, it’s easy to tear the fabric.

That’s why boundaries—the ways we define and maintain our sense of individuality, freedom, and personal integrity—are so important. And it’s why the principles described in Boundaries in Marriage are essential if you want your marriage to flourish.

Counselors and best-selling authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend, authors of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, show how you and your mate can experience marriage at its best. You’ll learn how to deal with serious violations and betrayals and develop a haven of mutual love, care, appreciation, and growth. Boundaries in Marriage will show you: ? Why boundaries and the “Ten Laws of Boundaries” are vital for a thriving, productive marriage ? How values form the structure and architecture of marriage ? How to protect a marriage from intruders, whether parents, other people, affairs, or personal idols ? Why each partner needs to establish personal boundaries, and how to go about it ? How to work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries—and how to work with one who doesn’t

Whether you are just starting out as a couple, have been married for years, or are seriously contemplating marriage, Boundaries in Marriage will show you how to establish your own boundaries and respect those of your partner. Drawing on principles from the Bible, it can help you safeguard against relational fractures and mend existing cracks. It may even save your marriage. And it can help make even the best marriage better -- Publisher --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.


Product Details

  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan (August 6, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310243149
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310243144
  • Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.7 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (111 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,401 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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125 of 127 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
This was the first book by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend that I have read. Therefore, I can neither confirm nor deny another reviewer's statement that it is essentially a rehash of the original Boundaries book. Having not read any of the other Boundaries books yet, I found this one to be quite excellent.

Whether or not you are a believer in Christ, this book can still be incredibly helpful if you're willing to read it with an open mind. It may even be helpful if you have a closed mind and you don't even want it to be helpful. ;) The strength in it is that it is not a "How To" book. The authors realized that lists of surface actions to change don't change the heart. They focus on pointing out principles and revealing truth. They give plenty of examples and paint pictures of how certain actions make others feel. This helps you see beyond yourself, thus allowing you to interact with your spouse with greater grace and mercy. The changes in your actions are the result rather than the solution.

Another thing I really like about this book is that it explains what submission and sacrifice in marriage really look like in the Bible and not in what the world believes that to look like. It explains that submission is always to be done in love and with the perspective of EVERYTHING that God has taught us through His Word. This means that submission and sacrifice do not mean giving up all your desires and doing everything your spouse tells you to do; it means upholding your responsibility to love your spouse no matter what (ie. loving them enough to help support the end of unhealthy behaviors and actions).
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89 of 92 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book saved my marriage and my sanity August 31, 2005
Format:Paperback
Literally it did. I had read dozens of books trying to find a way to salvage my marriage, including several advising doing anything to please your husband. You know the ones-"no matter what,stay sweet" kind of thing,but building a truly loving marriage isn't that simple. "Boundaries in Marriage" gives advice on how you (man or woman)can be loving but also stand firm- stand firm in the areas that define your freedom as an individual, your self respect and your dignity as a human being. This was the first book on relationships that made total sense to me and that made a truly positive difference in my life. I also recommend "Boundaries" by the same authors.
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51 of 54 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book January 3, 2000
By A Customer
Format:Hardcover
This was a very good book. It helps you to concentrate on your errors and what you actually have control over. It helps you keep focused on what you can change about the relationship and not how you can change someone else.
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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Don't get married without reading it. March 7, 2001
Format:Hardcover
I believe this book is an excellent gift to give as an engagement present or shower gift, but it needn't stop there. I have been married for over 35 years and there are practicals in the book which I never learned to use or stand up to. It is never too late to learn and knowledge based on Biblical principals is hard to deny. I wish I had the book thirty-six years ago.
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52 of 59 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for all married people June 14, 2003
Format:Paperback
This book like all the others in the Townsend/Cloud series is real specific and great for anyone wanting to know more about healthy ways of relating. It helps to define who is responsible for what behavior and how to handle those that are out of control whether it is your spouse's or yours. Yes I had some real eye opener's and I like to think I do a great job, but I was just as responsible for my part in the marriage's success. Not all, but part. Boundaries in marriage gives you the tools for healthy relating and how to take action even if the other person is not. It brings people together not seperating with some cooky formula about men being so very different that they are from Mars. I think anyone who wants to take charge of the marriage or just feel good about their relationship should read this book.
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30 of 33 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful December 26, 1999
By A Customer
Format:Hardcover
Boundaries gives concrete examples of ways one learns to take responsibility for ones own feelings, thoughts, and actions. It clears the way for one to make choices for self which may impact another. The principals are sound and make a lot of sense.
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37 of 42 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Boot Camp for Marriages January 15, 2004
By juli
Format:Paperback
This is an incredible book. It mirrors basic biblical principles and applies them to marriage. The whole time I was reading the book, I was thinking "This is so simple, but so profound". The book stresses Biblical "boundaries" for behavior between husband and wife. It encourages individuals to look at their own actions in a marriage and concentrate on improving their weaknesses. This could be uncomfortable for those who are unwilling to face the truth about themselves or take responsibility for their own faults. But if you are looking to read something that could greatly improve your marriage and your attitude towards relationships in general, this is the book to read.
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22 of 24 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Great and helpful source of information March 8, 2006
Format:Paperback
This book has helped me face the fact that I had not been looking to change myself but rather had been focusing on changing my husband. I was spending so much time and energy on him and his issues, I had completely lost sight of mine. I picked up the book to learn how to help my husband by setting boundaries and ended up learning I can only change myself! A great book, I highly recommend it ..
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing
This book is absolutely amazing. I am working on instituting the principals in the book in my own marriage and it is definitely helping. Read more
Published 9 days ago by KC
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book
I would recommend this book to anyone--married or single. At the end, you realize that relationships are more about your own behaviors than the behaviors of others.
Published 23 days ago by Sara A. Leiva
5.0 out of 5 stars mature strategies for a happier marriage
Dr. Cloud's clear messages on how to become healthier and function with your mate in a more constructive manner are excellent. Read more
Published 25 days ago by Mary Ann Campbell
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book!
This is a great book! I have the audible version and the workbook but found that there were times when working through the workbook that I needed to be able to look things up. Read more
Published 28 days ago by BooksKidsLuv
5.0 out of 5 stars Good marriage/relationship advice
I've seen Dr. Henry Cloud speak in person. He's an awesome, God loving man. Great book. It could've been writin from my relationship experiences.
Published 1 month ago by Dean Palumbo
5.0 out of 5 stars What exactly is meant by boundries?
Given from a Christian world view, the author explains step by step what boundries are and how to use them in relationships, especially marriage.
Published 1 month ago by Ellen V. Beaty
5.0 out of 5 stars love it
excellect book can not say anthing bad about it. Great book to have and wonderful references for real life situations.
Published 2 months ago by linwood jones
5.0 out of 5 stars Words for thought, for sure!
I read this book and have already given it to a friend to borrow. I plan on re-reading it when I get it back. Great book!
Published 2 months ago by Veronica Davidson
5.0 out of 5 stars Great for Marriage counseling
Our pastor uses this book frequently to help people who are struggling in their marriages. We constantly need to order more books.
Published 2 months ago by Cornerstone Community Church
4.0 out of 5 stars Good informativ
Great book, I wished I would have bought it before I got married and divorced. It wouldn't have helped my situation but the information about setting boundaries and the evil one... Read more
Published 3 months ago by Robert Cooper
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Dean, what you mean is it flies in the face of your very complementarian interpretation of the Fall in Genesis. And it would seem that one of the reasons you disdain boundaries so much is because they cast a rather unflattering light on a man's excuse to bust other's boundaries in the name of... Read more
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