Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No [Kindle Edition]

Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author)

Book Description

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

Product Details

• File Size: 671 KB
• Print Length: 308 pages
• Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0310247454
• Simultaneous Device Usage: Up to 5 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
• Publisher: Zondervan; Revised edition (August 22, 2008)
• Language: English
• ASIN: B002ZFGJXU
• Text-to-Speech: Enabled
• X-Ray: Enabled
• Lending: Not Enabled
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #86,958 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
  • #88 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Nonfiction > Religion & Spirituality > Christianity > Christian Living > Relationships

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Needed guidance for boundary setting. January 25, 2013

By Eileen R. Grover

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I found this book helpful. Sometimes we need to set boundaries and can use insight into our thoughts and feelings.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome Book October 23, 2012

By Amy

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This book is so imperative for the counselor and therapist. If we consider the basis of healthy living, boundaries comes in second. relationship to God is first, but to begin the journey of wholeness and freedom in Christ, an individual must have boundaries. This book helps bring that forth, understand God's perspective, eliminates codependency or at least highlights it, if an individual issue, encourages healthy esteem. But more than anything, it allows conformation or affirmation in God to say, it is good to set boundaries and this is how... God usually takes care of the rest.

I use it as a mandatory in my sessions.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Boundaries: When to Say yes, How to say No March 5, 2012

By Xio

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I purchased this book because I thought that I was "broken" in so many ways.... it turns out that I just came from a very dysfuctional family... being a Christian it is hard to find books that give you this kind of insight. I've found it very helpful. So much so, that I find myself re-reading and going back on chapters. This book has taken me the longest to read and have yet to finish it just becuase I keep going back and finding out new stuff. I do refer to the biblical references and find that helpful as well.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How To Say No March 9, 2012

By Kevin B.

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This book is a must read! I have learned so much about myself and others. My relationships with my friends and especially my children will be much improved once I start putting into practice the things I have learned, but it also covers relationships with spouse, extended family and co-workers. The world would be a better place if everyone understood how to get others to respect their personal boundaries and if everyone would respect the boundaries of others.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars How did I not know about his book? November 14, 2011

By Adrienne Monteban

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Is this book nearly 20 years old? Wow, what a great book. I can't believe I hadn't read it before and am amazed how this has relieve guilt I've been carrying for years. Great book. Great read. Thank you Drs. Cloud and Townsend!

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Changed my life August 19, 2011

By Brodie

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After being diagnosed with PTSD, much of which was caused by childhood, one of the books I stumbled upon in my search for healing was this book. Reading this book multiple times, the Bible, prayer, and time with a counselor and psychiatrist changed my life. After nearly 35 years of believing the worst about myself, this book helped me see where God wants me to take my stand and what it looks like to do so. Thank you Mr. Cloud for writing this book. God used your words to end years of suffering.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars great book March 14, 2011

By fam0fsix

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I bought this kindle then had to buy the real deal so I could write in, highlight, and share. Love this.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Helped me see more clearly September 28, 2010

By A. Ikeda

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This book was recommended by the pastor at our local church. I'm glad I took him up on buying it. It has helped me to calm down and accept my own hang-ups as my own problems and not my wife's or kid's problem.

Today I practiced some of the principles on my 6th graders and the other teachers were quite impressed at how quiet the class became. Hopefully this will keep up and I am confident that it will now that I have set boundaries in the class and taught the students where I stand with disruption and disrespect.

Now I'm off to read Boundaries with Kids. I've read the first few pages and I'm not disappointed.

If you are looking to gain control of your emotions and bring some stability in your life, I would highly recommend this book.