Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No and over one million other books are available for Amazon Kindle. Learn more



or
Sign in to turn on 1-Click ordering
More Buying Choices
Have one to sell? Sell yours here
Start reading Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No on your Kindle in under a minute.

Don't have a Kindle? Get your Kindle here, or download a FREE Kindle Reading App.
Sorry, this item is not available in
Image not available for
Color:
Image not available

To view this video download Flash Player

 

Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life [Hardcover]

Henry Cloud , John Townsend
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (500 customer reviews)

List Price: $21.99
Price: $15.49 & FREE Shipping on orders over $25. Details
You Save: $6.50 (30%)
o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o
In Stock.
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.
Want it tomorrow, May 22? Choose One-Day Shipping at checkout. Details
Image
Save on Popular Books This Summer
Browse our Bookshelf Favorites store for big savings on popular fiction, nonfiction, children's books, and more.

Book Description

October 20, 1992
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

Frequently Bought Together

Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life + Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes When to Say No To Take Control of Your Life + Boundaries in Marriage
Price for all three: $34.81

Buy the selected items together


Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

In order to call themselves good Christians, many people have drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). Psychologists and inspirational speakers Cloud and Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries in order to follow the true path of Christianity. This book has become immensely popular, most likely because it makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose. Some cautions: the format can be overly self-helpish for such a complex discussion and the authors at one point imply that judicious spankings may be an acceptable form of setting boundaries with children. However, many Christians will probably find themselves grateful for this biblical context of boundaries. --Gail Hudson

Review

'Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend have great insights and practical wisdom into the God-given gift of boundaries. As they discuss how to take responsibility for and ownership of our lives, they give hope that we cannot just survive -- but thrive!' -- Josh McDowell, Author, Author and Speaker <br><br>

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan; Revised edition (October 20, 1992)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310585902
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310585909
  • Product Dimensions: 1 x 6.5 x 9.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (500 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #745 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Authors

Discover books, learn about writers, read author blogs, and more.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews
470 of 493 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Turning my life around February 3, 2000
By A Customer
Format:Hardcover
As a Christian, I continually struggled with feeling depressed from being a doormat, and being nice because it was "part of the abundant Christian life." Everyone spoke about Christianity as being a joyful, full life that I would love and never want to return to the secular world. Then why did I feel so miserable? Why did the secular world seem so appealing, where I could be as nasty and selfish as I wanted to?

The answer was in "Boundaries". As I read the book, I could identify with something in every chapter. I'm the type of person who will let everyone else step all over me to keep themselves happy. As long as I didn't raise a ruckus, and the peace was kept, everything was okay, right? WRONG! Inside I was always seething with anger, and I was livid with the fact that I had to continually step out of the way for everyone else while they ran right over me.

Through reading this book, I realized that it's OK to set boundaries in all interactions; in fact, I now believe that it would be wrong NOT to set boundaries in things. Slowly but surely, with the help from this book's message, I've been setting boundaries for a happier life that's filled with more peace, joy, and abundance than ever.

Was this review helpful to you?
219 of 227 people found the following review helpful
By K.W.
Format:Hardcover
Wow, why didn't I ever know about this book? You don't hear much about it- I stumbled upon it browsing around Amazon one day. For people wondering if they should buy this book, get it if:

-you're not turned off by a Christian writing approach
-you feel like there's a problem because you're trying to be a good person all the time by always saying "yes"

In a nutshell, this book is for people who don't know how to set boundaries for themselves. In other words, they're always saying "yes" to things and taking responsibility for things- even when it's not their job.

And boundary lines of your responsibilities need to be present in more areas of your life than you might realize, such as...

-your family
-your friends
-your mate
-your kids
-your self

The book covers boundary conflicts in each of these areas leaving no stone unturned. Therefore, its no big deal if you have only one or two problem areas- just go to those sections.

This book will help you realize what a boundary is, why it's okay to have them and just how to develop them. So if anything in this review sounds like if might apply to you- don't hesitate to check out the book. Other neat self-help books I liked include "Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World".
Was this review helpful to you?
125 of 138 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Self-Help Guide for men & women of all ages October 10, 1999
Format:Hardcover
I found Boundaries to be extremely helpful to me and my family. The authors point to Biblical references for boundary development & enforcement. The authors also illustrate real-life examples of people who have boundary issues and give practical advice on how to resolve conflicts in all relationships...parent-child, spouse-spouse, friend-friend, etc. I firmly believe that this book is vital for people who desire to have Godly, healthy relationships. When my children are mature enough to read & understand this book, I will definitely encourage them to read it. I believe that it will be helpful for my children as they prepare for adulthood and also as they begin searching for a mate. I highly recommend this book for everyone who is in the midst of relationship trials & tribulations.
Was this review helpful to you?
Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars love it
works well with the book goes well with setting my boundaries teaches me a good thing cant stop reading the two
Published 12 hours ago by jaime
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Read
This book allows you to take a biblical look at yourself and how your actions prevent you from being the person you really want to be. This is not a "Self Help" book. Read more
Published 1 day ago by James
5.0 out of 5 stars Book
I found this to be well written and well put. It was not too therapist!! It has opened my eyes in many ways and been very encouraging
Published 3 days ago by Sassycat
5.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful
I wish I had read this book when I was younger. It was very helpful. I had a hard time saying no. I can do this now "nicely" and not feel guilty. Read more
Published 7 days ago by Kara Kay
3.0 out of 5 stars Good Information - Somewhat Redundant
I didn't find much that was different from what I already knew. This would be a good book for young people.
Published 7 days ago by Darla S. Shannon
2.0 out of 5 stars I'm not six years old, for Pete's sake
I bought this CD after a conversation with a fellow teacher on how pointless most continuing ed classes are. Read more
Published 9 days ago by ABM
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book!!
What a great book, very useful and a great tool to make your life better!!! I feel that everyone should read this book!!!
Published 15 days ago by Sammsadie
2.0 out of 5 stars would have been great if....
Be careful when ordering from this seller. It does not have the white and red cover advertised. Think it is an older edition. Read more
Published 15 days ago by Tammy Frank
5.0 out of 5 stars Boundaries
Boundaries is a quality book with great guidelines for parents who do not provide helpful boundaries for their children. Read more
Published 15 days ago by Dan B. Curtis
4.0 out of 5 stars Great book for anyone brought up in a dysfunctional family
This book has helped me to mature. It has taught me things about life that I was not taught at home. It is also a great help in learning how to raise your children.
Published 16 days ago by ETTA MCGUIRE
Search Customer Reviews
Only search this product's reviews





Customer Questions & Answers
Be the first to ask a question that you have.
Please make sure that your post is a question about the product. Edit your question or post anyway.
Typical questions asked about products:
 - I loved this book, what should I read next?
 - Will my kids like this book?
 - Did you enjoy the writing style of the author?




Look for Similar Items by Category