Customer Reviews

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin (Fireside / Parkside Recovery Book)

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Excellent for anyone who is trying to get a handle on what interpersonal boundaries are and how they work.

The concept of interpersonal boundaries can be hard to grasp, but Anne Katherine's book makes it easy, even for a layperson. Clear and concise, this book can be read on a single afternoon, but keep you thinking for days.

Including exercises designed to help increase awareness of boundaries, and life stories that illustrate how boundary dysfunction occurs, the book paints a clear picture of boundaries, enmeshment, and triangulation.

I recommend this book to anyone who wants to be a good parent, have a successful marriage, resolve childhood and current issues, or even manage a well functioning workplace with good employee relations.

If an interaction feels icky and you don't know why, perhaps this book can explain things.

We can't control how others treat us, but this book shows us how to tell them, in a positive and productive manner how we feel about being treated poorly.

This book is also an eye-opener for those who may not even be aware that their boundaries are being violated. The author illustrates many types of boundaries and how they can be respected (or disrespected).

By following the advice in this book, you will improve your interactions with others.

*Included in this book is a free jerk filter. It does an excellent job of weeding out those who choose to react badly when you set your boundaries.

This is an excellent book to help in the understanding of what consitiutes a boundary in interpersonal relationships with family, friends and co-workers. If everyone recognized boundaries then there would be little need for therapists and counselors. Sometimes a boundary exists where it isn't readily recognizable and that's where this book comes in very handy when working with my clients. It's written in relatively "jargon free" simple style so one can concentrate on the content of the subject matter, not the vocabulary of the author. For those interested in personal growth, this is a winner!

As an eating disorders specialist and registered dietitian, I find many people who are using the obsession with food to avoid dealing with other issues. In many cases these are boundary issues and this book does an EXCELLENT job of helping people improve their boundaries and become more emotionally healthy people which is a necessity in recovering from disordered eating issues and other addictions. I would highly recommend this book and I frequently distribute it to my patients

This book impacted my life more than any other I have ever read (I have read thousands), or class I have ever taken (I have two college degrees).

My children were taken from me. Social Services stepped in. I ran for a long time focussing on the lies that they accepted as fact (way too numerous to mention). I thought I was a great Mom. In many ways I was, but I now know I didn't teach my children boundaries. I grew up with none. I am still fighting for my four children, but in a very different way. I now spend the time I have with them totally focused. I try to help them to see how important boundaries are. Taking care of your self, does not mean you can't take care of someone else, in the long run, it is better for all. I didn't matter before. Today my children see a mother that cares about herself. I am working hard at learning my own boundaries and respecting the boundaries of others.

This book has changed my perspective, thus changing my attitude.

Anne Katherine has found a way of breaking through the brick wall of denial. Admitting one is codependent triggers a sense of shame in many. But, through many case examples describing recognizable scenarios, Ms. Katherine shows with great compassion, the rationality behind the self-destructive behaviors of individuals and couples. Yet, easy to read and simply put, with optional questions for exploration. This book is a real gift to those who suffer from unhappiness due to poor relationship with oneself or loved ones. Give it to someone you love, or better still, give this gift to yourself.

This book is okay. I think her book "Where to Draw the Line" was much better. Still this is a good workbook format and Dr. Katherine is the boundary master. Not sorry I bought it, but would recommend going to the other book first.

I was looking for a book on how to establish healthy boundaries in everyday situations such as work and family. Specifically I was looking for positive ways to say no without ruffling feathers.

I read about two thirds of this book and put it down because it is really geared towards women who can't say no to men's advances. Much of the content deals with abuse and incest.

While this may be helpful to some, the title and description of this book were misleading to me.

boundaries is an issue of considerable difficulty for most folks. knowing when to allow yourself to be pulled in versus isolating. while most of us settle in somewhere in the middle, most folks face boundary problems with someone - a parent, child, spouse, co-worker. .. this is a fairly short book. it does not discuss ad nausium scholarly, research, or theoretical bases. it discusses numerous topics that can be of immense help as well as some (very) good exercises. this book is an easy read and relatively well written. i think it is worthwhile perusing for the individual experiencing boundary concerns. i think it is definitely worth the used price, possibly new.

Having been abused and victimized, and believing for so long that it was my fault, reading this book has helped me to put my experiences into perspective and to know what has really been done to me. I am thankful that this information was passed on to me and I recommend this to anyone who wants to know.