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Boys Don't Cry; Men Do

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One of the best self help books I read on men's issues. A very insightful easy to read book and yet powerfully written that kept my attention all the way through. I highly recommended for men who are looking to better their lives.

Alberto Minzer has blended his personal story with his heightened awareness as a counseling professional to create a book that leaves its mark. Its target audience is men, yet the work is highly identifiable to any man OR woman who has struggled to get to the root of damaging, ineffectual, weak, reactionary patterns. Mr. Minzer's approachable writing style makes for a quick read. However, to maximize the value of the emotion that simply reading the work can evoke, it is ideally read with plenty of time for savoring and personal reflection. This accessible work can help any individual to access greater emotional awareness and to operate from the place of courage and personal truth that is so very necessary for laying the foundation for both personal and global healing.

Alberto Minzer's book, "Boys Don't Cry; Men Do" is an insightful, quick read that can powerfully guide men on their way to authenticity and full maturity. Minzer accurately reveals the underlying effects of generation after generation of men raising boys without an emotional component to their teachings. He guides the reader on an individual path towards full maturity by asking focused and sequentially sound questions throughout the compelling storyline of the book. This book is a blessing to all men.

There are a number of important insights that I found in the book.

A boy is taught to believe that in order to be a man he must fight, show his dominance, and not walk away from conflict. He is taught to tough it out and cut off the human quality that makes him tender, compassionate, fearful, sad, angry and joyful. In the process he also pays a price of cutting off his need for others.
Alberto notes that growth may be a painful experience. However, reconnecting with old unresolved and avoided situations in life in new ways can offer an opportunity to move beyond old hurts to a more fulfilling future.
So what is a way to deal with old pains. You must come to terms with the fact that you are in pain, not getting your needs met. If you're angry about someone else's actions, you need to express this in a grown way how it is affecting you, without blaming or shaming.

Alberto observes that -There are no shortcuts to healthy masculine maturity, This path is chosen daily , and there's only one choice: stay connected with what you can feel to be real inside you, and stay "in truth" in all your moments always feeling them.

This book is worth reading, reflecting on and using as a helpful guide.

Hal Mead