- Paperback: 302 pages
- Publisher: Periwinkle Publishing (May 28, 2010)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0982743300
- ISBN-13: 978-0982743300
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.7 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,217,345 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Brave, a Memoir of Overcoming Shyness Paperback – May 28, 2010
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More About the Author
Helen Rivas-Rose began writing as a way to describe her crippling shyness and found writing was the tool by which she could liberate herself. Over the course of fifteen years, Rivas-Rose learned new and better ways to describe her shy life in order to make clear the distressful isolation severe shyness causes. Her memoir and self-help guide Brave: A Painfully Shy Life was first finalist in Self-Help: Motivational category and a finalist in the "Narrative: Non-Fiction" category of the 2015 USA Best Book Awards. This year Rivas-Rose spearheaded the 501(c)3 Severe Shyness Support (S3) to provide schools with techniques to help shy children and to educate adults about painful shyness through a public awareness campaign.
Top Customer Reviews
I did think early in my reading, that it read as a memoir for well over 250 or so pages and that shyness was sort of an after thought added later. I know that is wrong but it read that way in my eyes for so long. But------once I finished it I got it! You see it took me the whole book to really catch that "you made it!" You're not that shy person that you were---you made it and others can also-----
How did I come up with that---you may ask? Here are my scattered-late night thoughts------------ It's not a "How to" book with pat answers. You don't present a magic bullet or magic prescription so that others can just take some and their shyness will end. No--your story says "Don't give up" ---"It's beatable"---"I beat it---so can you--It's do-able"
Now you may disagree but it's my "take" and you did ask, so please don't take offense. Here is my "provenance" to think that way. I wasn't locked in a literal room and excluded from childhood as you were but I got Polio at age 3--and was locked in a mind set---not of my own but of society. And that was just as destructive and damaging to me as that room was to you. I was told I was "different" and "sick" and even "retarded" by some---just because I had Polio---which scared them enough to treat me as a pariah---an outcast. At 3-4-5-6-7 years of age ---my formative years ---were spent missing out on growing up with friends and having some sort of normal youth--- No I spent it trying to figure out why I didn't fit in---and not learning the social graces it took to play and interact with others. Those early years turned into later years and my teen years were still on outside looking in---only wanting to be "normal", be like everyone else and never quite getting there.Read more ›
In her new book BRAVE, Helen Rivas-Rose shares her own challenges overcoming shyness. She evolved from being painfully demoralized to "a life of empowered self-confidence." Rivas-Rose tells an inspiring tale of a child who was inhibited by overwhelming shyness who became an adult who finally overcame what some people describe as "a mental disorder" and others call "a personality quirk." Her story puts to rest the idea that--to overcome shyness--one need only spend more time with people.
Rivas-Rose gave English lessons in Spain, taught school and adult ed in Calgary, operated a medicinal herb store in Lisbon, and prepared income taxes and directed a gallery in Maine. All of these jobs brought her into contact with people--all kinds of people. Her most difficult task, though, was endeavoring to overcome the emotional and social paralysis of shyness.
Readers will be inspired by Rivas-Rose's experiences as she overcame her worst handicap, and began enjoying and then happily anticipating social interactions. Her mission, in writing BRAVE, is to help others overcome shyness and enable them to enjoy their lives to the fullest.
Helen Rivas Rose explored every one of those instances in her life and we are the beneficiaries. Her reflection and analysis of what was at the heart of the matter and what she needed to do to bring more satisfaction into her life move the story along. I can only cheer for her as she finally has found her voice and look forward to hearing more from her. I encourage others to read her story. You will benefit greatly.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I was very interested in this book because I am a person who has struggled with severe shyness my whole life. I found the book a little bit disappointing, however. Read morePublished 8 months ago by jennifer
As I read this book about the author's shyness, I kept noticing that her shyness did not keep her from doing her job and reaching out to people
That she needed to contact. Read more
Helen Rivas-Rose opens the door and invites us to accompany her on her life's journey. Beginning her life in Cos Cob, CT, she was soon uprooted and with her family, moved to New... Read morePublished on August 24, 2012 by Pollyanna
Hi Helen, I am reading your book now and thoroughly enjoying it. I am only at the beginning but I like your style. It sounds like you are talking to a friend. Read morePublished on January 3, 2012 by Pam J
Helen's willingness to share her courageous journey is an inspiring story, but also gives readers great hope for a life of full creative expression and freedom from the pain of... Read morePublished on December 28, 2011 by Gail McMeekin
This book is engaging at some parts. I cringed many times, throughout, though, because the author has a tendency to constantly blame others for the shyness she felt. Read morePublished on December 27, 2011 by Windel Hobson
Helen Rivas-Rose lived in a vacuum-world as a child, with no resources to
help her. Her beloved horse Jenny, she gave up only because a neighbor told her
riding wasn't... Read more