Born in NYC Helen suffered from severe, chronic shyness since she can remember. She made her first friend in whom she could confide 45 years later. Brave chronicles her story from NYC to present day and complete shyness-free, along the way living in several countries, working in several fields from tax preparation to artists space director, learning other languages, marrying twice and having two children.
Some thoughts on the book---------! I did think early in my reading, that it read as a memoir for well over 250 or so pages and that shyness was sort of an after thought added later. I know that is wrong but it read that way in my eyes for so long. But------once I finished it I got it! You see it took me the whole book to really catch that "you made it!" You're not that shy person that you were---you made it and others can also----- How did I come up with that---you may ask? Here are my scattered-late night thoughts------------ It's not a "How to" book with pat answers. You don't present a magic bullet or magic prescription so that others can just take some and their shyness will end. No--your story says "Don't give up" ---"It's beatable"---"I beat it---so can you--It's do-able" Now you may disagree but it's my "take" and you did ask, so please don't take offense. Here is my "provenance" to think that way. I wasn't locked in a literal room and excluded from childhood as you were but I got Polio at age 3--and was locked in a mind set---not of my own but of society. And that was just as destructive and damaging to me as that room was to you. I was told I was "different" and "sick" and even "retarded" by some---just because I had Polio---which scared them enough to treat me as a pariah---an outcast. At 3-4-5-6-7 years of age ---my formative years ---were spent missing out on growing up with friends and having some sort of normal youth--- No I spent it trying to figure out why I didn't fit in---and not learning the social graces it took to play and interact with others. Those early years turned into later years and my teen years were still on outside looking in---only wanting to be "normal", be like everyone else and never quite getting there.Read more ›
Thank you, Helen Rivas-Rose, for crafting this inspiring and informative book on you how came to grips with your own shyness so that other shy people can learn and grow from your experience. As a psychologist, I help shy people to come out of their shells and share their uniqueness with the world. Your book will be a wonderful benefit to those people, and I will recommend it from now on as an invaluable resource for anyone who wants to feel more confident and comfortable in their own skin.
"Shyness is the awkwardness or apprehension some people feel when approaching or getting approached by other people." What this Psychology Today definition does not include is how socially crippling shyness can be, and how it is self-propagating. Shyness is one of many forms of social anxiety, and those suffering from it often curse themselves for a lifetime of missed opportunities.
In her new book BRAVE, Helen Rivas-Rose shares her own challenges overcoming shyness. She evolved from being painfully demoralized to "a life of empowered self-confidence." Rivas-Rose tells an inspiring tale of a child who was inhibited by overwhelming shyness who became an adult who finally overcame what some people describe as "a mental disorder" and others call "a personality quirk." Her story puts to rest the idea that--to overcome shyness--one need only spend more time with people.
Rivas-Rose gave English lessons in Spain, taught school and adult ed in Calgary, operated a medicinal herb store in Lisbon, and prepared income taxes and directed a gallery in Maine. All of these jobs brought her into contact with people--all kinds of people. Her most difficult task, though, was endeavoring to overcome the emotional and social paralysis of shyness.
Readers will be inspired by Rivas-Rose's experiences as she overcame her worst handicap, and began enjoying and then happily anticipating social interactions. Her mission, in writing BRAVE, is to help others overcome shyness and enable them to enjoy their lives to the fullest.
Facing your own weaknesses is a key to rising up and controlling one's life. "Brave: A Memoir of Overcoming Shyness" is an inspirational memoir from Helen Rivas-Rose, telling her own story of how she overcame her own shyness to come out of her shell and the difference of night and day it made in her life. Inspirational and thoughtful, "Brave" is a fine read that shouldn't be overlooked for those looking for something to lift their spirits.
'Brave' is an adventure in over comming shyness. Rivas-Rose has crafted a series of well written vignetts that kept me constantly curious to know what challenges she would face next. I found 'Brave' entertaining as well as informative.
Helen Rivas-Rose opens the door and invites us to accompany her on her life's journey. Beginning her life in Cos Cob, CT, she was soon uprooted and with her family, moved to New Brunswick, CA. Since then Rivas-Rose has lived in many countries. The story captivated me. The author's abusive childhood left her unable to connect with other people. We travel with her on her long road to self-discovery and wholeness. This is a book worth reading.