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Breaking the Bonds of Adult Child Abuse: A Biblical Textbook on Abusive Narcissistic Families, How They Operate, and How to Deal with Them Paperback – March 29, 2011
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Since then, God has blessed Sister Renee with healing and peace, and has led her to help others by sharing her testimony and experiences. She has written extensively about family abusers, narcissists, sociopaths, and their Silent Partners, the dilemmas unique to abusive family systems, the Biblical perspective on abuse, setting and enforcing boundaries, godly confrontation, the myth of forgiveness without repentance, honoring abusive parents, cutting ties with reprobate relatives, maintaining No Contact, and living the life of freedom, peace, and joy that our heavenly Father intended for us.
***Listen to my interview with Stacy Lynn Harp at Active Christian Media about my book Narcissistic Predicaments- This time we cover topics like restitution, abuser's funerals, setting limits, circular arguments, "personality disorders", N's abandonment issues, etc. Many thanks to Stacy Lynn and ACM. Click here for the podomatic link. Enjoy and share please :)
***Check out my interview with Stacy Lynn Harp of Active Christian Media. We talk about narcissistic families, forgiveness without repentance, my book Breaking the Bonds of Adult Child Abuse including excerpts, and much more. Many thanks to Stacy Lynn Harp and Active Christian Media, and praise the Lord!:
Top Customer Reviews
I am now 35. I broke all ties with them several years ago. I still hurt. They make sure of it. Yesterday was my birthday, and they had to stir up trouble. I turned to this book.
I have stayed out of therapy, because I did not think anyone would understand the outlandish things my mother does. Sister Renee Pittelli gets it. From an academic stand point, and from her experience, she understands narcissistic families. This is the book I have searched for for years.
This book is replete with insight into the painful situations common to abusive families, with the focus (for a change) being on how to support the victims, not on how to try to "understand" or "excuse" the perpetrators. Sister Pittelli provides extensive scriptural evidence of what God really requires of both parents and children in families- and it is not what our self-serving abusers told us it was! Our abusers may have demanded we "honor our father and our mother" (which conveniently may have been the only part of the bible they could quote!), but Sister Pittelli makes it clear, with biblical backup, that God never told us to honor evildoers, but rather to rebuke them and expose evil. Sister Pittelli distinguishes between those who are true Christians and those who display "psuedo-religious" behaviors while claiming to be Christian. We can indeed know people by their fruits- and a true Christian is not someone who repeatedly abuses people. This can be an area of great confusion for abused children, as their abusers often went to church and proclaimed themselves as Christians- all the while continuing to abuse us. Sister Pittelli points out that this is just more confusion created by the devil- originator of all confusion.
Sister Pittelli also points out that psychiatry/psychology has a terrible track record when it comes to curing sociopathy, narcissism and borderline personality, all of which can be characteristics of our abusers.Read more ›
The book's style: Pittelli reminisces on her personal experiences (which were severely abusive), as though we are reading her diary, and subsequently deduces conclusions. Her experiences aren't as anomalous as those of the author of the book "IT", which makes the book translatable to a more diverse audience. Her abuse, also, wasn't primarily physical, which was useful, as well, focusing more on the emotional and verbal qualities, which are more common in American bourgeoisie than physical brutality.
Her reliance on Scripture was especially rewarding, but while she does try to lay out a comprehensive theodicy, she does not completely succeed. The chapter on Forgiveness reflected hermeneutical wisdom one doesn't usually see in emotionally stunted clergy these days. Also, she lists 102 reasons to avoid a person, which were VERY helpful.
The problem with narcissists is they turn their victims against their own subconscious, which causes them to ignore the abuse and the pain for any number of ridiculous reasons. Jesus says we shall know 'them' by their fruit. Narcissists try to get us to sympathize with reasons for their poison. Those who struggle with codependency - much like addicts of substances besides people - lack adequate functionality of their frontal cortex, the analytic and creative areas of the brain, in order to disengage themselves from the abuser.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I really learned a lot about my family from reading this book. I also learned many things from the Bible that I was unaware of. Read morePublished 16 months ago by M. Lane
I absolutely LOVE Sister Renee Pittelli. I have just started reading this book today, and am skipping over the parts that don't apply to my particular situation, but the parts... Read morePublished 17 months ago by JJ48
This book leads the reader down a dangerous path. Most of its 650 pages consists of bitter rants about every slight "Sister" Pittelli has ever endured from her family. Read morePublished 18 months ago by silvershaman
An absolute must of you come from an abusive family background. Solid direction to deal with the hurt, pain and rejection of family.Published 19 months ago by Jeanine M. Weintz
When looking for answers for narcissistic/antisocial personality disordered people or loved ones, this book hits the spot . Because it is based on the bible where truth originated. Read morePublished 23 months ago by Daphne Lomax
If you want a little help, you'll get that. If you want true Christian help, that is questionable. It's too long, poorly edited and analysis is not logical or doesn't follow... Read morePublished on January 29, 2014 by Chameleon K.
Finally a book that shows you just how awful family is and how to deal with them. Hope for people drowning for years in toxic family systems. Can't share enough!Published on January 28, 2014 by linda Pittman
This book is an encouragement to victims to stop tolerating abuse from their parents. This book explains from God's Word how the Holy Spirit will help His children sift through... Read morePublished on January 21, 2014 by Frank L.