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Breaking Point:: Why Women Fall Apart and How They Can Re-create Their Lives

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I came up against conflicts and obstacles in my life as a 20-something woman--smart, good-looking, well educated, successful. I had no idea what kept hitting me. There were the reasons everybody cites, but there was something deeper that was insoluble, it seemed to me. I couldn't figure out why I was the only woman I knew who was stopped in her tracks, overwhelmed by the horror of people's expectations and everyone's acceptance of the fact that these expectations all contradicted each other. It was even worse in my 30s. Late 30s, I gave up.

Yup, this is it. This sidesteps all the quick-fix, superficial explanations about how to feel better and be more successful at X, Y, Z as a "modern woman". Most people who write those books have no idea what that is, even though they think they do. This book is funny, smart, honest, well-researched. It sidesteps the typical cliches and categories used by 99% of all who write about women's lives. For that alone, she should get a medal.

A lot of money, time, effort, and grief wasted over the decades in trying to come to the very conclusions Martha Beck describes, but at least that means I know the real thing when I see it. I'm so grateful I came across it. When you've identified the real problem, the solutions you come up with have traction. They work. What a gift, to be pointed in the right direction.

Apparently this book did not have the success that Martha Beck's subsequent books have had - perhaps the reason why it is out of print. I have read most of her books, but this one, in my view, surpasses them all; I regard it as a superlative working manual. I agree with previous reviewers that Beck is both scholarly and humorous, but I think the book's greatest strength is the way the author brings together so many women's stories - the rites of passage that we all need to know about for our own sanity. I go to this book not only for validation, but also for much needed refuelling. Beck's analogy of the chrysalis (although other authors have used it) is especially lucid, and is sufficiently empowering on its own. If, as a woman, you are on a personal "vision quest" this book is a great map. Find a second hand copy, and never let it go.

It's great to know that there are other women who have gone through a "breaking point". I loved the historical perspective on women's roles in society and how industrialization has changed how men and women relate to each other, the family and the community. I bought this book some time ago after seeing Ms. Beck on a talk show. I think it's time I reread it and rediscover the wisdom in its pages. If you can get your hands on a copy, buy it!

You have to read this book. It goes into the different generations of women and how men perceive our roles in society. So many women these days are trying to work full time in high stress jobs plus take care of the house and kids. For all of you women who are at the "Breaking Point" trying to please everyone and wearing yourself out in the process, you gotta get this book. It will really open your eyes.

I have never written a book review before, and may never write a book review again, but I simply could not resist the opportunity to let everyone who will listen know that this book is The Book For The 21st Century. Buy it. Read it. Then buy 6 more and send it to all your friends.

This book says everything I have thought for the past 20 years (and no one else seemed to understand). It is such a relief to know that I am not the only woman aware of the paradoxical rolls placed on women in our society. The advent of the Women's Rights movement opened new opportunities for women but also placed them in dual, incompatible rolls that tear women apart. This book explains all of that and gives hope that our society will eventually recognize this dilemma and discover ways out of the breaking point.

I've read her most recent works and have immensely enjoyed the bright and kind wit of Martha Beck. This book is scholarly, hard-hitting and wise; I found myself nodding deeply more than once with a deep "Aha!" of recognition. She is nothing short of wonderful and her books are excellent!

Beck's fascinating and funny look at american
women is a wonderfully entertaining and educational book.
Beck has captured the voices of the real "silent majority" of women
in America today. I think this is a groundbreaking book that will help women to make sense of their lives. It is both honest
and hopeful. Overzealous feminists (I do consider myself a feminist) and uptight right wing fundamentalists will hate this book.
Beck refuses to cling to an idealogy, rather she explores the "real" lives of women and draws remarkably refreshing and enlightening conclusions.

Martha Beck offers a telescopic view of life for women who yearn to be on the other side of sanity. Faced with continuing to live by society's untruths and insensible rules, many women have escaped certain emotional, spiritual (physical) death by choosing to walk boldly through that breaking point into a passionate life of fullfilling their own wildest dreams. These women have found that contrary to public opinion, they are "not really going crazy, they are simply going sane." Thank you for the hope.

I am preparing to enter motherhood in 3 1/2 months. I read this book 8 months ago and find myself gravitating towards it for thoughts on how I want to formulate my life as it includes being a mom. This book has great explanations and case studies to not prescribe what is right for you but rather to highlight that you have to find out what is right for you. I like the way Martha Beck explains the history of how women have arrived at some of the chaotic points that we have. I am waiting for the paperback but simply may indulge in the hardback as I see myself referencing it for a while.