Most helpful critical review
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
Advice is too simplistic
on December 28, 2009
All the positive reviews convinced me to buy this book, but I found it lacking. It started out fine...I appreciate the author advising someone who's been cheated on not to accept blame for an affair, not even partially. I wholeheartedly agree that if someone makes the decision to cheat, that person should be held 100% accountable for that decision.
I also agree that other factors may have played a part, like compatibility issues, communication problems, and technology making it easier to escape conflict. She adds that not everyone is cut out for monogamy, so if someone cheats on you, it's best to move on, which I agree with, too. And finally, I appreciated her saying that men are just as crushed getting dumped as women are. Underneath that tough exterior lies a heart that can be broken, too.
However, I found the rest of the book, the majority of the book, less inspiring. What you have are many stories describing breakups, from the point of view of the one dumped (and the ones who cheated deserved to be dumped) followed by advice on how to handle breakups better.
The problem is their advice is only one or two sentences long, and has a generic, quick-fix quality about them...like something you'd read in a women's magazine. Some advice they give are "Don't settle for less than you deserve" and "Listen to your heart". Advice like this barely touches the surface, yet it's on to the next story.
If these one-liners helped other people, that's great, but they didn't delve deep enough to help me.