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The Bride's Thank-You Note Handbook

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I bought this book yesterday, thinking I would be all set in time for sending out my thank you notes for wedding gifts. Tonight I plan on going back to the bookstore and getting my money back.

Originally published in 1968, it should have been kept there. The language is severely outdated, and never in my life have I used the word "gay" to describe anything at all....but the author does....in many many examples in the book.

I am horrible at thinking of things to say in thank you notes, but I could do a better job than this. Thank God I kept my receipt.

To the obsessive compulsive shopper who dares not to take the time to view a books' contents, this will be an $ 7.95 plus tax lesson in irresponsible publishing. Marilyn Werner has the audacity to think that any of her thank you writing suggestions would be, at best, acceptable to a bride's worst enemy. There is no better way to validate a review than to quote the author herself . This is a thank you suggestion for receiving a desk set. "For the past few weeks we have been opening so many gifts of linen, crockery, and "frillery" that George's interest has started to wander. Then along came your handsome desk set. You've selected a gift that appeals so much to both of us." YOU be the judge.

I found this book quite useful. Although some of the sample thank you notes are a bit over the top, they can be adapted beautifully. I am not given to gushing, but a thank you note requires an enthusiastic response. Additionally, the thank you note for a check is worth the cost of the entire book. All in all, with a little personal adaptation, this book is a gem!

I wish I read the above reviews before buying this book. I will be returning my copy as well. The only possible reason for keeping this book is for the shrieks of laughter it brings at the utter preposterousness of the author's examples. I'm wondering if this whole book is a joke. Even people married in the 60's would have trouble with it.

This book was great! While it is true that the book is a little outdated, I found the phrasing charming, and the attitude behind the samples provided was appropriately playful and sweet. Overall, this book really greased the wheels and got the creativity flowing for me when I sat down to write my own thank you notes. Unexpectedly, I received compliments on my thank you notes - talk about the proof in the pudding! Even better than that, my mother and my mother-in-law received compliments from their friends and family on how nice my thank you notes were, and the good will that created was priceless. I give the credit to this book. (However, I was smart enough to politely take the credit myself at the time.)

This book was originally published in 1968 and reprinted in 1985, so the advice is somewhat outdated. For example, it implies that sending thank you notes immediately after the wedding is absolutely necessary, otherwise you should apologize for not doing so as part of your note and include a reason. No bride I know these days spends her honeymoon writing thank you cards. Just as a matter of logistics, it's not possible, as the cards haven't been received from the photographer yet. That alone takes a month or so. So, right off the bat, there are a few issues that I have with this book, although it is helpful. There are general suggestions as far as wording goes, but again, most young brides I know would never use that phraseology as it is from the 60's and the wording would sound strange coming from us, although I understand the intention is for us to use it as a guide and to paraphrase. The only extremely helpful tip that I got from this book was not to write more than 5 notes per day (although it can be very tempting when you get on a roll!) as you will find yourself starting to write sloppy and making mistakes. People hang on to these cards as keepsakes and you want to make it worth their wait. Unfortunately, I could absolutely not locate any other more appropriate book to help me out. So, I would say if you are absolutely desperate for help, this book will do.

Even though the book was first published in 1968, it served as a very useful guide for writing wedding thank yous. The section that eloquently illustrates how to word late wedding thank you cards is worth the entire cost of the book. A gem!

My sister-in-law used this book and gave it to me when I got engaged. It was a complete lifesaver for me.

I did not copy these notes verbatim, but even reading through the "old-fashioned" phrasing in the sample notes gave me inspiration for writing my own. I find that the hardest part of thank-you notes is coming up with what to say after "Thank you for the ___." This book is full of ideas.

I am actually buying a copy for my new sister-in-law to be, because I want to keep my own copy around for birthdays and Christmas.

I bought this book to use when completing my shower thank you notes and it has not been very helpful. The sentiments are not heartfelt, but fake. The gift examples they give are not useful (telephone cart, sterling silver tea setting, chandelier) and it lacks helpful gifts like everyday place settings and everyday towels. The book desperately needs to be updated. Not for the Bride of the new millennium.

Although I managed to avoid a traditional wedding, my husband and I received gifts for which thank-yous had to be written. Having fallen behind in this task, I looked at this book for direction, and found it RIDICULOUS. First was the statement that it was the bride's responsibility to write ALL of the thank yous. Hello! It is 2002. My husband wrote all the notes to his relations, and I am doing mine. Then there were the sample notes themselves. I haven't seen such fakeness and lack of sentiment since sorority rush, and the sentiments expressed relied heavily on self-deprecation. She even has the nerve to suggest that they could be copied verbatim. How tacky.