From Publishers Weekly
With 40 years of experience helping teenagers "straighten out their lives," U.S. Department of Labor regional director de Olivares clearly knows how to communicate with disenfranchised youths. Unfortunately, his gifts don’t translate well into writing. Of course, there’s no quick fix for violence, drug use or even the less-dramatic manifestations of teen frustration. But de Olivares doesn’t offer any practical advice until this book’s fourth chapter and, even then, his advice is couched in non-specific language like "The river floods and destroys your home. You can’t control that. But if it is the third time in ten years a flood has destroyed your home, you may want to consider rebuilding on higher ground." This, and countless other similar nuggets, seem too theoretical to be of use to parents whose households are electrified with adolescent angst. That said, the book’s section on establishing a non-threatening relationship—where de Olivares describes his "ARC" approach ( accountability, respect and consistency)—is helpful. De Olivares’s explanation of why these principles are important may provide much-needed inspiration for the disillusioned and battle-weary.
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Review
I have a 16-year old grandson I've raised. I'm using your techniques at home and he is responding. Thank you. (D.H. )
This book is excellent in terms of helping understand why teenagers get into trouble. Additionally, I consider it to be a textbook for community change. It gives a message of faith and optimism that should give us new resolve in the never-ending community building obligations that we all share. (Rev. Benjamin L. Hooks )
Presents a compelling, sensible explanation of why and how young people make the choice between the street and the mainstream. More importantly, it presents a practical, effective strategy that positions adults to engage youth currently living the street life in a process that will guide them to become productive adults. (Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD )
Takes the reader on a thought provoking journey, filled with poignant observations, sound conclusions and practical advice. The hard hitting text will resonate with anyone who has dealt with the frustrating complexities of teenage turmoil. (Dr. F. Craig Sudbury )
A great tool with great insight. There are not many people in America who would not benefit from reading this book (Col. Herbert P. Fritts (Retired) )
Provides practical insight from the author's own experiences on the streets and his work with troubled youth. His writing [style] and extensive use of examples allow for easy reading and application of his advice. (
Youth Today )
A powerful book. I have a teenage daughter and the book is now a part of my must-have-toolkit. (M.K. )
Clearly aimed at people who are out in the trenches dealing with teenagers, and well crafted to reach those people. It makes a great deal of sense. (Dr. Donald Arnstine )
A must read for anyone who knows a teenager in trouble or headed for trouble. The premise of the book is brilliant, and the suggested interventions are actual tools that work! We have purchased a copy for every employee in our company. (Dr. Jennifer Wild )
It is definitely an eye opener and a useful tool for those of us who work with or have teenagers in our home or care on a daily basis. (Booker T. Jones )
Tough, practical, and hopeful steps recommended. (Linda Beck,
Library Journal )
Indispensable to anyone who parents or teaches adolescents. De Olivares offers a list of practical suggestions for fostering mutual-respect. More than a how-to guide. (
Teacher Magazine )
A clear explanation of how and why teens cross into the dangerous at-risk lifestyle. (
VOYA )
