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The Bullet Meant for Me: A Memoir [Hardcover]

Jan Reid (Author)
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March 12, 2002
Abducted at gunpoint and fearing for his life, Jan Reid took a swing at the gunman and missed. A muzzle flashed, and the bullet that struck his spine would send his life careening out of control–until he looked within himself, and to his family and friends, and found healing.

When Reid’s friends talk him into coming along to an Austin boxing gym for a workout, he has no idea it will send him down a path that will completely change his life. Inside, in a ring held together with duct tape and the blood and sweat of a group of gritty boxers, Reid falls under the spell of the sport.

As his skills develop, his relationships with his fellow boxers deepen, especially with the talented young Mexican immigrant, Jesus Chavez. Through Chavez’s promising career, and his own informal sparring, Reid plunges into the culture of competition among men. But then, just when Chavez achieves a number-one world ranking, he is deported to Mexico. Heartbroken, Reid travels to Mexico City to watch Chavez begin his comeback, when a bombshell of a different sort blows open Reid’s own life: One night, after celebrating Chavez’s victory in a shadowy part of Mexico City, pistoleros carjack the taxi he is sharing with his friends. In the ensuing scuffle, a bandit fires a bullet that pierces Reid’s left arm, rips through his abdomen, and lodges itself in his spine, leaving him paralyzed from the waist down.

Reid then confronts new kinds of struggles in which the rules are no longer clear–the battle to regain the ability to walk, to bolster his marriage, to untangle his newly complicated relationship with Mexico, a country he once loved, and to live with dignity. Inspired by the love and valor of his wife, Dorothy, and daughter, Lila, Reid also draws on lessons from the boxing ring–physical conditioning, discipline, controlling frustration, and overcoming fear. Thus begins Reid’s physical and emotional journey to recover his strength, his masculinity, and his sense of self.

Reid not only examines the effects of his physical disability but also offers a revealing portrait of the testosterone-driven worlds that collided on that fateful night. With the observational prowess of a journalist and the raw power of a fighter, Reid shares in these pages his discovery of the value of other kinds of strength–and his new perspective on the evolution of Western male culture and machismo alike. Rich with insight and vividly told, this is the remarkable story of a true survivor.

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From Publishers Weekly

"In an instant I went from drunk to sober. A gun in your face does that to you," writes Texas Monthly's Reid (Close Calls) about being ambushed by pistoleros after leaving a Mexico City prizefight in 1998. But his Raymond Chandler tough-guy style quickly changes when he takes a punch at the robber, is shot in the spine and diagnosed a probable paraplegic by doctors. Reid's memoir is more than just the story of his recovery with enormous pain, luck and physical therapy, he does recover but a serious and illuminating meditation on how his life has been influenced by images of masculinity: "I have to ask if precepts of manliness, ingrained almost from birth, led me to insert myself in a place and a predicament I need never have known." Reid charts how popular culture shapes masculinity via examples like Lawrence of Arabia, the Marines and, particularly in his case, the culture of boxing, which he discovers during a mid-life crisis and takes up as a "new addiction." The book's most moving passages explore his relationship with Jesus Chavez (the young Mexican boxer whom Reid went to Mexico to see fight) and it is here that the author evokes the possibility of alternative ways for men to relate, particularly while chronicling Chavez's difficult career (and its attendant immigration issues) and his own attachment to the fighter as compensatory for his feelings of inadequacy. Elsewhere, the use of Viagra and the injectable Caverjet are described. Border culture plays a huge supporting role in the book as Reid wonderfully describes its beauties, dangers and daily life. Reid has written a striking, intensely personal and emotionally honest record of his life. (On sale Mar. 12) Forecast: Since it lacks a how-to angle, this may not be the next Iron John, but men (and women) who appreciated Fight Club will find this real-world story a positive, humanist, unadorned yang to the former book's nihilist yin.

Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

From Booklist

In this compelling memoir, Reid chronicles his recovery from a gunshot wound, incurred when he was held up by pistoleros in Mexico City. An avid boxing fan, Reid was in Mexico City to cheer on a friend, Jesus Chavez, who was fighting his first professional bout on Mexican soil. Reid's tale never turns maudlin; instead, he uses his ordeal to reflect on larger themes in his life: a boyhood spent in rural Texas that was strongly influenced by concepts of machismo and how his macho streak was trained and contained by his love of boxing. His friendship with Chavez, whose career in the states was cut short when he fell prey to unwavering immigration laws, provides some of the book's most provocative passages, which Reid further examines in light of the debilitating effects that recent immigration laws have had on Texas' Mexican population. A gifted writer whose work has appeared in Texas Monthly and Esquire, Reid has written a thoughtful book that will surely attract new fans and old. Brendan Dowling
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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Broadway; 1 edition (March 12, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0767905954
  • ISBN-13: 978-0767905954
  • Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.6 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #967,796 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

JAN REID is a writer-at-large for Texas Monthly and has contributed to Esquire, GQ, Slate, Men's Journal, the New York Times, and many other publications. His books include Layla and Other Assorted Love Songs, The Improbable Rise of Redneck Rock, The Bullet Meant for Me, Deerinwater, and Rio Grande.

 

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5.0 out of 5 stars Writing with gloves on . . ., January 2, 2009
This review is from: The Bullet Meant for Me: A Memoir (Hardcover)
Writer Jan Reid has written an absorbing and sometimes harrowing account of a life suddenly altered by the shot of a gun in a robbery attempt. Although the book begins with that incident on a deserted street in Mexico City and ends with a return trip to the scene of the crime years later, it concerns itself as much with the author's interest in boxing and his friendship with a young Mexican-American boxer, Jesus Chavez. Sometimes a meditation on the dynamics of proving one's manhood with high-risk behavior, especially as these are played out in Texas, with its more violent history, the book is as much about friendship and marriage.

Reid tells a story of growing up in north-central Texas and discovering boxing as a young man with no particular self-confidence or promise. Returning to the sport in later years, while working as a writer in Austin, he recovers a sense of purpose that agility in the ring had once given him, and he is able to share this feeling of accomplishment for an audience of readers who may have little sympathy for the sport. While you may never care to put on a pair of gloves yourself after reading the book, you can grant him the validity of his own point of view, that the sport harnesses physical power with a kind of grace and courage that in a well-fought match can inspire admiration.

How his ability to throw a punch at an adversary determines the outcome of his encounter with an armed robber is not completely resolved in the book. Although the punch didn't connect, he may well have been shot - and killed - anyway. And for half of the book, as he recovers some use of his legs with surgery and physical therapy, while enduring staggering pain and the uncertainty of the future of his marriage, Reid's achievement in the book is a coming to terms with that ambiguity. And it doesn't give too much away to reveal that he returns to the gym in Austin, on the support of a cane, to put on gloves again. I don't know Reid, and he may be a very different man in person, but he comes across as someone you would like to have as a friend - courageous, and the last to admit it, coming to terms with the world in his own way and determined to take on adversity even while it means never fully overcoming self-doubt.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Fine Memoir, November 29, 2005
This review is from: The Bullet Meant for Me: A Memoir (Hardcover)
This is an excellent memoir about growing up in Texas, manhood, the aftermath of violence, and the long journey of recovery. The Bullet Meant for Me is intelligent and insightful-highly recommended!
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