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Bullies & Victims: Helping Your Children Through the Schoolyard Battlefield

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Bullies & Victims is powerful testimony and documentation of how bullying in the school maims and damages both the victim and the bully. The all-too-frequent ability of one's peers to mete out cruelty and abuse is painful to read but necessary to face. The authors show how the long-term effects of these destructive conflicts have grave consequences for schools, families and society. But this fine book does not just describe the abuse and then simply wring its hands. The Frieds have practical and creative solutions and interventions which should galvanize schools, teachers, parents and everyone to action: a crash program to eliminate bullying from our schools so that our children are free of fear and free to flourish.

Bullies and Victims made crossing a playground more difficult. I now see the bullies and victims that had always been there. It is impossible to ignore them now. More importantly, Bullies and Victims has provided me with the tools to address this complicated problem. When I finished reading it I shared it with my family, administrators, teachers, and most importanly, other school counselors. Not only has it helped me better help my students, I realize that we all have a responsiblity as witnesses in our schools and in our communities to help our chilren.

This is a must-read for today's parents and educators. Buy one for yourself, and one as a donation to your school's resource library--that's what I did. This book helps us empower our children, awaken ourselves to the ongoing crisis on the playground, and break the cycle of abuse. Many victims become bullies...and many more children are silent witnesses to a secret code of intimidation that can lead to horrific violence over time. This book is an excellent tool to break the cycle. We owe it to our children to give them skills with which to break out of the typical victim/bully/witness trap. They will be better for it, and safer. Buy two now.

Deserves a ten star rating. Every parent and educator must read this piece of literature. She is on target about the problem in American Schools. Bullies and Victims should be on the required list at every learning institution from college to daycare. Read to learn how to change your 1-100 year old for life. A real eye- opener. Denise Caresio Reading Specialist Middle School Teacher

Every parent, grandparent or just adults in general should read this wonderful book. After reading what todays children are going though please pass this on to a friend. I have purchased copies of these books and passed them on to our school district. They not only read them, but have had SuEllen Fried come and work with our children, teachers and parents. Please keep up the writing and your love for our children. Connie Cincinnati, Ohio

Bullies and Victims gives an encyclopedia of information, written in a captivating style. You get the inside view of all the types and perspectives of bullying in eye-opening stories of both the bullies and their victims from age three on up. The authors have really done their homework - the research is factual and thorough. They take you inside the minds and souls of the bullies and the victims and show how bullying impacts children in the moment, and also how the effects reverberate through the victims' lives well into adulthood. This book doesn't just lay out the problems, but delineates pathways to solutions and how parents, schools, communities and cultures can help. It's a must-read for parents, educators, counselors and anyone who cares what happens to children on the playground, at achool and in their social groups. Joanne Stern,Ph.D. author of Parenting Is a Contact Sport

This is a pretty good book. I also recommend Helen Smith's "The Scarred Heart: Understanding and Identifying Kids Who Kill," which has a lot to say about the way bullying can lead to serious violence when schools don't take it seriously -- and some examples from schools that have dealt with bullying well, along with some that have dealt with it badly.

I am working on a seminary doctoral project on bully prevention. This book was an invaluable resource for the project. Parents need to understand the difficulties and hardships that today's children must endure.