But I Didn't Say Goodbye : For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors [Paperback]

Barbara Rubel (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 2000

The Introduction includes how this book is organized, how to read this book, who should read this book, and a note to the professianl and parent. But I Didn't Say Goodbye is for the helping professional or parent as you try to help children in the afermath of suicide. Part One presents Alex, a ten-year-old whose father has just died by suicide. Alex asks questions and tries to find meaning in the loss. At the end of the eight brief chapters in Part One, there are pages with STOP signs. The purpose of the eight Stop to process pages is to help the grieving child process his or her own story. Part Two offers information on setting up a memorial fund, and will help in your search for prevention and survivor support. To keep suicide survivor support group information updated, a toll-free number is given for groups in your area, Bereavemnet referrals include death education and grief counseling. The last part of this book includes recommended resources, bereavement magazines, newsletters, reports, journals, books and articles. Find videos, tapes, and a reading list that will help you continue your exploration of suicide awareness, prevention and bereavement.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"A richly imaginative and innovative work that is solidly grounded and eminently readable . . ." -- Rabbi Earl Grollman, D.H.L.;D.D., author with Max Malikow, Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide

"Barbara Rubel takes a very difficult topic and creates a manageable path ... to follow when helping the young suicide survivor." -- Helen Fitzgerald, author, The Grieving Child, and The Mourning Handbook

"This is an extraordinary resource to help children deal with the difficult often hidden and stigmatizing after effects of suicide." -- Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D., Professor of Gerontology, College of New Rochelle, NY, Senior Consultant, Hospice Foundation of America

About the Author

Barbara Rubel is a nationally known consultant to mental health organizations, school systems, business, and parent groups across the United States. Ms. Rubel specializes in suicide survivor bereavement and has been working for the past twelve years developing her Caregivers Responding In Situations Involving Suicide Model (C.R.I.S.I.S. Model). Barbara has appeared on television, radio and is widely published. Through her workshops. in-service trainings, literature, and support groups, this certified pastoral bereavement counselor and certified bereavement specialist has reached millions who want to understand the unique and intensified grief of suicide survivors. Barbara Rubel's story is featured in an Emmy award winning 1998 PBS full length documentray, Fatal Mistakes, narrated by Mariette Hartley.

Product Details

• Paperback: 112 pages
• Publisher: Griefwork Center Inc (April 1, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1892906007
• ISBN-13: 978-1892906007
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #744,004 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars But, I Didn't Say Goodbye, October 6, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: But I Didn't Say Goodbye : For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors (Paperback)

This book is an invaluable tool and resource! As a Therapist, I highly recommend its straight forward approach to helping child suicide survivors. Ms. Rubel has included at the end of each chapter easy to read worksheets and exercises. No Counselor and/or Therapist should be without it.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book!, November 8, 2000

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This review is from: But I Didn't Say Goodbye : For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors (Paperback)

But I Didn't Say Goodbye was easy to read and very helpful. The story of this child survivor and the adults in his life will empower any child survivor. I know this book will help parents find the answers they are looking for.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars a must-read!, September 14, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: But I Didn't Say Goodbye : For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors (Paperback)

This is a really, really great book to go through with any child, even if you're not a therapist. The book has REALLY short chapters. You're supposed to read the chapter with the child, and then there're questions at the end of the chapter. An example would be, Chapter 1 talks about where the child in the story was when his dad killed himself. Then the questions ask things like, where were you when your special person died, etc.

It doesn't have to be suicide survivors, it can be for any child dealing with death.

Parents, teachers, social workers, siblings, everyone should have this book, for when they have to talk to a child about death.