But I Didn't Want a Divorce [Paperback]

Andy Bustanoby (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 19, 1978

I didn't want a divorce -- but the marriage had already died. I didn't want a divorce -- but my spouse left me and got one anyway. I didn't want a divorce -- but even though my religious convictions opposed it, I had to do it for my mental health and physical well-being. No matter how opposed to divorce you and your church may be, and no matter how much you may want to stay married, you may become a divorce statistic this year. Divorce affects one out of every four marriages today. Andre Bustanoby writes this book to people caught in a trap and seeking to put heir lives back together. In the author's words, 'You must be willing to be a healed single person rather than an ever-grieving divorcee.' This book answers the practical and biblical questions raised by the specter of divorce and redemptively seeks to bring healing for the emotional pain of divorce. Andre Bustanoby offers wise, experienced counsel for dealing with separation, divorce laws, the children of divorce, loneliness, guilt, sexuality, and remarriage. He provides a careful examination of the biblical principles governing divorce and second marriage. If you are facing a divorce or have already experienced it -- even though you didn't want it -- you cannot afford not to read this book. There is healing and acceptance for you in putting your life back together again.

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I didn't want a divorce -- but the marriage had already died. I didn't want a divorce -- but my spouse left me and got one anyway. I didn't want a divorce -- but even though my religious convictions opposed it, I had to do it for my mental health and physical well-being. No matter how opposed to divorce you and your church may be, and no matter how much you may want to stay married, you may become a divorce statistic this year. Divorce affects one out of every four marriages today. Andre Bustanoby writes this book to people caught in a trap and seeking to put heir lives back together. In the author's words, "You must be willing to be a healed single person rather than an ever-grieving divorcee." This book answers the practical and biblical questions raised by the specter of divorce and redemptively seeks to bring healing for the emotional pain of divorce. Andre Bustanoby offers wise, experienced counsel for dealing with separation, divorce laws, the children of divorce, loneliness, guilt, sexuality, and remarriage. He provides a careful examination of the biblical principles governing divorce and second marriage. If you are facing a divorce or have already experienced it -- even though you didn't want it -- you cannot afford not to read this book. There is healing and acceptance for you in putting your life back together again.

About the Author

Andre Bustanoby is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary (ThM) and The California Family Study Center (MA in Marriage and Family Therapy). Retired from private practice, he is now a consultant in interpersonal relations to church and business.

Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Zondervan (November 19, 1978)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0310221714
• ISBN-13: 978-0310221715
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.3 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 0.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #807,894 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #27 in Books > 4-for-3 Books > Parenting & Families > Family Relationships > Divorce

More About the Author

Andre Bustanoby is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary (ThM) and The California Family Study Center (MA in Marriage and Family Therapy). Retired from private practice, he is now a consultant in interpersonal relations to church and business.

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23 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Putting Your Life Back Together After An Unwanted Divorce, May 30, 2000

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Marvin D Slifer - See all my reviews

This review is from: But I Didn't Want a Divorce (Paperback)

Andre Bustanoby has put together a brief (165 pages) and excellent synopsis of the issues when a divorce is forced upon a spouse. Chapters 2 (Letting go of your spouse), 8 (Lonliness), &9 (Loving and respecting yourself) are especially helpful when the couple's children are older and on their own. This is not a technical book, it's a practical book. Those going through an unwanted divorce are telling me they benefitted from reading it. It's a great 'Open Door' for discussion when both the counselor and client have read it. The focus is on rescuing rather than excusing or blaming. I highly recommend this book to be a part of anyone's repertoir who has an interest in this subject.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars good Biblically based advice, December 31, 2004

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Paul Skinner (Manassas, Virginia United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: But I Didn't Want a Divorce (Paperback)

I have read several books on this subject, and what distinguishes this one is a thorough discussion on the Biblical basis of divorce and remarriage. The book, written in the 70s, is somewhat dated in its references to society, but overall very helpful.

5.0 out of 5 stars Marriage and Family Therapist, December 19, 2011

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William L. Pettingill (Twin Falls Idaho USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: But I Didn't Want a Divorce (Paperback)

I recommend this book to people who might experience or are experiencing the significant upheavals that divorces bring. The author provides insightful perspectives and advice.