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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Hachette Books; 1 edition (February 14, 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0786868821
  • ISBN-13: 978-0786868827
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 8.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (62 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,605,235 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Amazon.com Review

In the mildly entertaining memoir Cad: Confessions of a Toxic Bachelor, former New York Times reporter and pop-culture critic Rick Marin chronicles the years of marathon dating and shallow living that followed in the wake of his failed "starter marriage." Marin moves through a series of urbane exploits and short-lived affairs, perfecting his trademark move of whipping off his horn-rims midconversation in a "myopic gaze," holding court with his wingman Tad over the hot buffet at Billy's Topless, and regurgitating wisdom gleaned from The Godfather. Like the similarly self-indulgent How to Lose Friends & Alienate People, Cad has its memorable moments--Marin comparing his wedding video to the Zapruder film and hitting on actress Moira Kelly when she was still an ingénue living with her mom on Long Island--but the book's swinging, ring-a-ding-ding Rat Pack attitude feels noticeably forced and uninspired, leaving a flat aftertaste to the whole affair. --Brad Thomas Parsons

From Publishers Weekly

In this withering account of one man's travels in dateland, journalist Marin visits an insane asylum, spends a year as a gourmand yuppie, woos a recent college graduate with Pop-Tarts and comes on to a teenage celebrity. And those are his tamer anecdotes. Marin, who starts his tear in the early 1990s after separating from his wife, also pursues a writing career that has him interviewing B-list celebrities like Vanilla Ice. As he cruises through his 20- and 30-something years (and most of the single women) in New York, Marin tells an episodic tale that's more than the sum of its hilarious parts-he also evokes a male psyche that's pulsating with provocative nuggets. (On honesty: "Women blame men for acting fake.... But women are the ones speeding from zero to intimacy like a Ferrari. Which is more artificial?") In the hands of a lesser writer, the book could have been merely a self-indulgent series of diary entries. But Marin's comic timing, insight and self-deprecation vault it to something greater. Marin has achieved the most elusive of literature's paradoxes: a deep and complicated exploration of the superficial. Men and women should be equally enthralled by the portrait of someone torn between finding the right woman and finding the right-now woman. That there's a happy-but not Nutrasweet-ending only reinforces the image of a real person in all his messy and comic humanity.
Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.

More About the Author

Rick Marin spent the first half of his career as a journalist, telling other people's stories -- as a reporter for the New York Times Sunday Styles section, a senior writer at Newsweek, an advice columnist for Mademoiselle -- and the second half mining his own life for material. He left the New York Times to write Cad: Confessions of a Toxic Bachelor, a memoir of his misspent bachelor years. The book was optioned by Miramax, which launched a new career writing for film and TV. He's also published short stories and had two one-act plays produced in Los Angeles. Last year, he wrote his first eBook -- a bestselling Kindle Single called Keep Swinging, about becoming the world's least likely sports dad and what he learned about sports and life from his super-jock son. He lives in the Hancock Park section of L.A. with his wife, Ilene Rosenzweig,and their two boys, Diego and Kingsley.

Customer Reviews

Which makes for really boring reading.
Martian Bachelor
I started feeling like I was reading a thinly-veiled autobiography of a guy who was probably pretty geeky as a kid and now fancied himself a playah.
Rhea Silvia
And like many modern books it's a magazine article padded and padded and padded to get it between two hardcovers.
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42 of 43 people found the following review helpful By city girl on August 17, 2005
Format: Hardcover
Rick Marin tells Elisabeth, his girlfriend of three months, that his visa is about to expire and that, unless he gets a green card, he will have to go back to Canada. She offers to marry him, an action that most decent people would consider an extremely generous gesture. As a thank you to the woman who allowed him to stay -and have a career- in the US, Marin bashes her and tries to portray her as a raving lunatic. Exhibit A of her insanity: She is not happy to have to relocate to Washington, DC, after he gets a job there. Exhibit B: She wants to move back home, to Oklahoma. Oh, yes, she's also moody and seems unhappy to be married to him - a balding guy who looks like Millhouse from the Simpsons, has a series of sad jobs and still depends on financial support from mommy and daddy. Please, someone get a straight jacket for this woman!

Despite all this "insanity," Marin doesn't leave Elisabeth. It is she who dumps him for another guy (which, in my opinion, shows she's about the smartest person in the book.)

He then uses his failed marriage as "material" to get women's sympathy and get them into bed. As pathetic as this is, I can't say I blame him. After all, you've got to use what you have and Marin - well, he's got nothing.

So here comes the long, and very dull, list of his encounters with women. There is Kim, a girl he meets in Halifax who takes him up on his invitation and travels to New York. When she tells him she likes being close to him, he assumes she wants to marry him: "She was already on our honeymoon," he writes. (Why is it that the men with the tiniest lives and fewest accomplishments tend to have the biggest egos?
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33 of 34 people found the following review helpful By sleepy in DC on October 1, 2005
Format: Hardcover
I wish I had found this review, written by an English journalist called Matthew Condon, before I read Cad:

"A few chapters into Marin's memoir and two things immediately wafted from the pages. Firstly, I hadn't been so ashamed to be a male since I split my pants at a fashionable nightclub some years ago. And, secondly, I could smell a rat. And a few other things, too, but we'll uphold our moral character.

This book... would have to be one of the most puerile, narcissistic, misogynistic, crass, boring and blatant money-grabbing wing-dings in the history of recent publishing.

It not only reeks of rats and bland secretions, but also reflects the sad and sorry state of our culture when a trend-conscious, lightweight scam artist can have the audacity to write what is claimed to be a memoir, yet is nothing more than a string of poorly strung-together dentist-room magazine columns, and send it out into the world as a pseudo-psychological study into modern male behaviour.

Indeed, Con, not Cad, would have been a more accurate title."

Actually, I think Male Chauvinist Pig would have been a much more accurate title, but otherwise I completely agree with Matthew Condon. I'm just happy I bought a used copy of this book, so its narcissistic, misogynistic, crass and boring author didn't earn one cent from my purchase.
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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Sophie on July 17, 2005
Format: Hardcover
If you really want to read a book by an obnoxious, arrogant (bordering on delusional) and unattractive man, I suggest you pick up a copy of How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. Its author, Toby Young, shares all those characteristics with Rick Marin, but he also has a sense of humor, which makes How to... a hilarious book, well worth-reading. Cad, on the other hand, is just terrible.
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20 of 21 people found the following review helpful By Rhea Silvia on March 5, 2003
Format: Hardcover
I bought this book for my husband (not that he is a cad by any definition) and wound up reading it myself. Based on the gushing on the dustjacket, I expected "Cad" to really blow the lid off the whole dating ritual/mess and instead got a series of vignettes about one (usually neurotic) woman after another. As for this book being a tool to understand the male psyche, please..there's nothing new here. I never really got Richard's motivations other than he was bored, noncommittal, and into the chase. Gee, tell us something we women don't already know from reading all those silly women's magazines that the main character himself wrote for!
I enjoyed Marin's writing but was about halfway through when it finally dawned on me that this book wasn't really *going* anywhere. I started losing track of which woman was which. I started feeling like I was reading a thinly-veiled autobiography of a guy who was probably pretty geeky as a kid and now fancied himself a playah.
Oh! And he messed up on some time-related details...the first Austin Powers movie didn't come out until 1997, and Carolyn Bessette didn't marry JFK Jr. until 1996! References to both are made in this chapter which begins January 1995. Maybe *a lot* of time elapsed in that chapter, or maybe it's sloppy fact-checking (kind of ironic when the whole book revolves around publishing and media!)
Maybe if I'd lived in NYC I would have appreciated this more - but after reading this I felt the same way I do after seeing Sex in the City - intrigued by the hype, but ultimately not really caring about these couture-clad name-droppers. (The only people in the book I really cared about were Rick's parents!)
Good, light read to take with you on the commute, to the beach, etc.
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