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Calling in "The One": 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

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The process outlined in this book actually works! Two weeks after completing the seven-week series of exercises outlined in this book, I met the love of my life and was married 11 months later. The daily exercises are ideal for shifting your energy so that you are a vibrational match (and magnet) for the partner you are looking for. Beautifully written and articulate in its message, "Calling In The One" outlines a grounded, logical, insightful, and magical process that really works.

Last year, I wrote a very harsh review of Katherine Woodward Thomas's book, "Calling In The One" because I was down on relationships and the whole idea of soulmates at the time. But I later realized I was wrong to condemn Ms. Thomas and give her book a poor review. Life has taught me a few things since I read it the first time, and I can admit a mistake.

What changed my mind was that I observed this book change people's lives after reading it. Although I felt it didn't work for me (mainly because I'm one of those picky, independent, commitment-phobic type A girls), I did see its possible value for single male and female friends of mine, so I recommended the book to them. After reading it, these people changed before my eyes and became softer, more available to relationships, and more open to possibilities. Many got rid of their "lists" and stopped condemning men (and women). Two of these friends are now in committed relationships. My buddies used the techniques in Thomas's book to introspect and renovate their lives to a new possibility of love. The results speak for themselves. I therefore must amend my earlier somewhat cruel review of this work. Simply put, her techniques and suggestions work - kind of like eHarmony - granted the reader is really serious about finding and keeping genuine love. This book demands no less.

Although the wonderful chapters and intriguing case stories did not work for me personally, I can see the value in "Calling In The One", and I highly recommend this book to any single who is serious about finally escaping the drudgery and endless wheel of fruitless dating, and focusing on and finding the one who concludes all searches.

And for those who asked:

Katherine's book did not work for me because I find I have a fear of losing my independence and creative ideas to a man who will smother me, suffocate me, control me and turn me into a baby-making machine that exists to pick up his socks and make his meals. It sounds ridiculous, but yes, that's a very real fear of mine. Until I wake up and face and debunk that baseless fear, I will remain successful but alone. The two are not mutually exclusive, but a strong part of me still holds terror that they are. Thomas's book in many ways helped me to see that. How many books grow on you over time and make you completely reverse your original opinion of them?

Highly recommended.

I personally think this book should be required reading for everyone before they start into relationships. I started this book after I found out my fiancé of several years was cheating on me with a married co-worker. I kicked him out promptly, a few months before we were to get married. And though thoroughly devastated, I had a need to figure out why I kept choosing the same types of loser guys. I was tired of being "broken".

I think the readers that are complaining about the author "settling" have totally missed the point of the book. I am not a "journaler" or a scrapbook person, so I didn't do the exercises. I did however, spend a lot of time thinking about her questions and mentally exploring examples she gave. There were a couple of things I did do - make a list of traits I was looking for in a mate was one of them. This book is valuable in that it makes you think about your choices. She gave a lot of good examples from her own life, of things I've personally done. It was helpful to get an outside perspective, without being put down, and to realize that others have done really stupid things too. It helped me come to terms with a lot of whys -- why things failed, why a certain person was not the "one", etc. and why I have perpetually been seeking the same type of guy.

I am happy to say I found "the one", in not quite 7 weeks, but close. He is nothing like I've ever dated before, he met every criteria on my list and so much more. We are engaged to be married in December. I never knew a relationship could be so good. This book helped immensely in that I was able to move past my previous relationship, turn away guys that were not right for me without guilt, and find a man that treats me the way I always wanted to be treated. I feel incredibly blessed, lucky, and very loved. This book was instrumental in helping me get to this point. It was all stuff I inherently knew, but until it was laid out in front of me, in cold, hard factual form, it really didn't sink in.

I would say if you are having a hard time in relationships and truly are wanting something different and better, then this book can be helpful. But the key, as to anything, is the desire to truly change. If you aren't willing to really put in the effort and make the changes to your behavior then it is pointless. But if you are willing to keep an open mind and work to better yourself, I think this book is a great place to start.

Well, to tell it all would take too much space. Suffice to say (and I'm sure she'll write her own review), my wife read this book in early 2005. We met in September of the same year when I was visiting Atlanta from London, England. At the end of our first day of meeting and exchanging life experiences and perspectives, she was sure she had met her life partner. After a few days, I felt the same (smile!). She explains to me and to all interested in our story, that she followed everything Katherine Woodward recommends...every plan, exercise and life reconstruction. We were married some 18 months later and we have no regrets.

Being on the receiving end, I recommend "Calling in the One" to every woman preparing herself for "Mr. Right", believing "Mr. Right" is preparing himself for her. After all, I did and we've benefited greatly!

You don't just read this book - this book gives you a step by step practice to open your life to love. I think I've personally sold 30 of copies of this book just because I can't stand seeing my otherwise successful single friends over 30 languish, feeling alone and unlovable. I've seen amazing transformations - from alone to alter-bound in a couple of months after finishing this book. I've given it to my massage therapist who ended up moving in with her formerly unavailable boyfriend. My love-addicted gay friend is now happily engaged. I could go on and on... Anyone who doesn't understand why they never go out on dates, why there are "no good men/women out there," or why their relationships never work out, needs this book!

this book is fantastic. i bought it at the suggestion of the bodhi tree bookstore sale person who said it was the most popular relationship book in the store. orignially i bought it for a friend who had asked me to recommend a book about relationships. but as i paged through it at home i realize i wanted to buy it for myself, too. i am single and i do want to meet 'the one'- but i am not at the place where i'd buy a book about finding him. but this book is not really about finding the one as it is about becoming that which you seek to find. if you are looking for love you need to be love- and you need to love yourself fully and completely. if you are looking for security you need to find security in yourself first rather than look for someone who can make you feel secure. if you are looking for trust you need to trust yourself first before you can trust anyone else. it's all very basic psychological stuff- but even the most psychologically savy can learn a thing or two from this book. especially when it's your blind spots that are causing you to not be open to love. even freud couldn't see his own blind spots.

this book does take a commitment though. the 1 star reviewer who said it was too demanding and too psychologically hard to bear was right in a sense. but the point of the book is to show you that the reason you haven't met mister or miss right isn't because you just don't have any luck- it's because there are blocks in your psyche that are deep issues that need to be dealt with in order for you to be fully open to love. that is not easy work. in our fast-food/short-cut culture where people are learning speed reading so they can get through a book in 10 minutes- this book could feel like getting stuck behind grandpa driving in the fast lane. but there is a point to the intensity of the lessons and the necessity of a commitment to doing the lessons each day for 7 weeks.

it is inevitable that those who read this book are going to perceive it in their own way as a result of experiences in their own lives. so someone who hates it has their whole history backing them up for hating it. i would say check it out and see for yourself. of all the relationship books out there- this is the one that makes you take the most responsibility for yourself and requires you to truly know yourself. in my opinion that is the only way one can find 'the one' and be able to create a healthy, lasting relationship with him or her. you may meet 'the one' before you truly know yourself- but those relationships are typically the ones that don't last and end in divorce. relationships are not easy. they take work. if you want to do the work in order to reap the rewards- read this book.

(as a side note- i have recommended this book to 6 people now and they each had their own reactions to it. they all have had resistance come up in some form or another to doing the lessons or committing to the reading each day. some were not ready for the work- others were. it's all about where you are at right now in this moment. also- this book is written for women- but i would recommend it for men, too. incidentally i recommended it to my ex and he and i are doing the lessons together. the author recommends you get a friend to support you on your journey and highly recommend it as well.)

I love this book because it replaced my loneliness with inspiration. The author feels like a best friend where everything is safe, and she helped me create a real action plan for achieving my personal goals. For the first time ever, I feel the wheels of life are in motion for me, and I truly attribute that to this process.

Married for 33 yrs and divorced for 16. Where are the men I could be dating? After just 4 weeks reading, writing and dedication,"Calling in the one" has helped me understand what keeps these relationships in other women's lives. It's a look at myself, what I truly want and an opening of my heart to giving and receiving love. Already, I am interacting with men instead of running.

There are many times in my life when I thought that I would never find love again-- as a result, I was deeply moved and inspired by the author's story of how she attracted great love into her life when all hope seemed lost. Katherine generously shares her personal experince and vulnerabilites in the process of removing her own barriers to love that I feel inspired and empowered to do the same. The book offers practical psychological and spiritual tools in an easy and fun format that makes it a joy to read. The course is filled with both wisdom and compassion which makes me feel like the author is with me every step of the way on my journey as I embark on my quest to transform the deepest places in my being. This book is not just about manifesting love-- it's about creating the life of your dreams !

I am only halfway through this book and i have already worked though A LOT of my personal issues. I will admit that i bought this book because i had given up hope of ever finding a man, but once i began the daily practices, i realized that this book isn't all about finding a man (or woman)....its about finding yourself. i feel more powerful and aligned with who i am than i ever have in my life. this book has given me the tools and perspectives to look at my past, present and future in a whole new and beautiful way (even if there are a lot of not-so-pretty things). i find myself not all that concerned about finding a man and instead im thoroughly enjoying finding ME and getting to know that pretty awesome person thats been hiding inside! that person is inside of all of us, and if you believe at all in the law of attraction, one you find your 'pretty awesome' self, you wont be able to avoid finding your pretty awesome mate :) i know hes out there for me like i know the sky is blue and i am so incredibly grateful to Katherine Woodward Tomas for sharing her life experiences and putting together such an intelligent, well written, well researched book with manageable and do-able daily 'self therapy' sessions. i have grown leaps and bounds over the past few weeks and i promise you will do the same if you approach this book with an open mind, an open heart and true desire to find YOU first, then him/her :)