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Product Details

  • Paperback: 174 pages
  • Publisher: Ten Speed Press (November 18, 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1580085717
  • ISBN-13: 978-1580085717
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (43 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #235,675 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From Publishers Weekly

In this Internet dating primer, a self-proclaimed online serial dater demystifies fishing in the electronic sea. Katz, founder of the world's first Internet dating consultant firm, E-Cyrano, assures the uninitiated that Internet dating is the "wave of the present," with over 40 percent of all single adults in America searching for love online. Although Katz admits he's never sustained a relationship for more than seven months, he entertainingly reviews how to present one's self on the Web and prepare for every eventuality-from deciding how long to wait before meeting in person to who should pick up the check. Much of his advice is common sense-write a lively introductory essay, be selective in whom you respond to-but, as Katz notes, common sense often goes the way of the Dodo when it comes to dating.
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"Indispensable. The book's tips on everything from jazzing up your profile to polishing your first-date etiquette are so sharp that this is a must read for any online dater..."
--Time Magazine

"Katz entertainingly reviews how to present one's self on the Web and prepare for every eventuality. Much is common sense...but, as Katz notes, common sense often goes the way of the Dodo when it comes to dating."
--Publishers Weekly

A -  "Katz dishes out tough love and common sense with tongue firmly planted in cheek." --Washington Post

"You need to read Evan Marc Katz's short, sweet, extremely helpful guide as a primer on the Internet dating world to get you moving in the right direction..." --Seduction Insider

In fresh, funny, and accessible fashion, Evan'¬?s book demystifies the medium of Internet dating while explaining its vast allure. -Joe Shapira, chairman and CEO, MatchNet plc"This book reads like a very smart stand-up comedy routine. In between the laughs, you'¬?ll get great advice for playing the online dating game." -Deb Levine, M.A., online advice columnist and author of The Joy of Cybersex"What is love without humor? I CAN'¬?T BELIEVE . . . is packed with both! Evan Katz has composed a picture crammed with rocks of confidence for the person frantic to find love in this quixotic, still-evolving landscape of romance." -Cande Carroll, cofounder, GreatBoyfriends

More About the Author

Billed as a "personal trainer for smart, strong, successful women," dating coach Evan Marc Katz has been helping singles find love since 2003. Dozens of his clients have gotten married, started families, and found happiness - after only a few months of phone coaching.

It's an unlikely career for a man - much less a man who was called a "serial dater" by CNN - yet that's what makes Katz such a unique coach.

By helping women understand men - what they think, how they act, and what they really want - he empowers them to make healthy, informed choices in love. Katz likens his 12-week Commitment Course to a Masters Degree in Men, and the metaphor is apt. His clients invariably find their education about men lessens their frustration and increases their likelihood of attracting a like-minded long-term partner.

Katz started his career in customer care at JDate, during which he wrote his first book, "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating" (Ten Speed Press, 2004). Its release coincided with the online dating boom, and soon, Katz found himself in high demand, with features in USA Today, The Wall St. Journal, and Time Magazine.

His follow-up venture, E-Cyrano, was the first company that wrote online dating profiles for thousands of frustrated singles. Quickly, Katz realized that people needed support in all aspects of dating, and expanded his suite of services into dating coaching...even though he'd never had a relationship longer than 8 months.

But like many experts who say one thing and do another, Katz began to notice his own hypocrisy. His second book, "Why You're Still Single - Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad" (Plume, 2006), was a critical success, yet the dating coach was ignoring the very same advice that was leading his clients to love.

It wasn't until Katz took his own wisdom that he met his future wife - and became a much better dating coach in the process. By opening up to a new kind of partner, Katz proved that to get different results in love, you have to make different choices. He's very glad he did.

These days, Katz works primarily with the clients with whom he most identifies - smart, strong, successful women who have everything... except a lasting relationship. With an array of products, group coaching, and one-on-one coaching, Katz offers something for every single woman who wants to get better results in her love life.

Evan Marc Katz is married and lives in Los Angeles with his wife and two children.

Customer Reviews

Yes, like anything it else, it takes time.
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Imagine my surprise and delight at Evan Marc Katz's "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating"!
Kathryn Lord
One other thing-the author has a great sense of humor and the book is pretty funny in places.
The Poe Toaster

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

167 of 182 people found the following review helpful By Peaches on February 18, 2006
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I was disappointed by this book. People who are reading all the glowing reviews on here should consider who the reviewers are and should know that this book isn't for everyone. I bought it because I thought it would be useful to get a male perspective on Internet dating. Evan Katz is a likable guy with a self-effacing humor and a breezy, engaging writing style. But women, especially over 35, should know that this book is mostly geared toward guys and giving them advice on how to land dates with attractive women.

Katz seems to have a distorted view of what online dating is like for women. He says that a woman can put a profile up and have literally hundreds of men writing to her the first week. "Suddenly a woman has a mountain of men waiting at her doorstep like the paparazzi outside Brad and Jennifer's mansion." What planet is he on??? That isn't my experience or that of the women I know. There is nothing in this book for us, except maybe that we should set our sights on 60-year-old men, because they are the only ones likely to be interested in us anyway! Katz would have done well to consult some women besides the apparently hot young babes he has dated.

People who are new to online dating will probably get more out of the book than those already in the game. I mean, I already knew you had to put up attractive, smiling photos and write a creative, original profile. Unless you're a man or a woman under 30, save your money.
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107 of 124 people found the following review helpful By Kathryn Lord on February 29, 2004
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I'm a CyberRomance Coach, so I try to keep up with the books that are coming out about Internet Dating. I had four come in the mail from Amazon this week. I was not very optimistic about the quality of the four, since most of what is getting printed is pretty bad - very thin on the information department, usually just a rehash of what has already been printed, and poorly written as well.
Imagine my surprise and delight at Evan Marc Katz's "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating"! My pencil was flying as I underlined Katz's unique points on page after page. I found new stuff in every chapter.
This guy knows what he is talking about. Katz used to be the customer consultant at AmericanSingles and JDate. And it sounds as if he has been at times certifiable as an Internet Dating Junkie. He knows the big dating sites and he knows about profiles - Wow! Does he know profiles! Katz gives the best profile advice I have seen, short of what I do myself. Plus he's funny and writes reasonably well.
Katz has a couple of weak spots - he's young (the cover says he's 31) and while he has been an energetic Online dater, he has yet to meet the love of his life, online or otherwise - though he did fall in love for the first time. He really hasn't got much to add for the over 50 crowd, a huge segment of CyberDaters, other than the good advice he gives for your online presentation and for dating in general. Katz's book is clearly "A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating" - it's about dating, not necessarily about finding the love of your life. He's great at that, the hands down expert, as far as I am concerned. Katz's answer to everyone's question "Does Internet dating work?" is a clear and unqualified "Yes!
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69 of 80 people found the following review helpful By The Poe Toaster on April 19, 2004
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Five stars doesn't seem like enough.
I've been dating online for just under a year, and what I really like about this book is how it lets the reader know that they're not alone in the trials and tribulations of online dating.
For instance, I used to feel like I was the only one stupid enough to go out with a girl even when I really wasn't all that excited about meeting her. The author assures me that his roommate is the same way. The author does a great job of disarming the reader and assuring the reader that they're not the only ones going through these different nuances of online dating.
Online dating can be rough. Where else can you potentially be talking to six different women through e-mail, four of them on the phone, and get three different dates a week? It can be really rough because you reject and get rejected A LOT more than you would outside of cyberspace, because you do A LOT more interacting with the opposite sex. This book has everything you need to know to enter this arena, and everything you need to know to survive in it once you're there.
Get into online dating without the kind of advice found in this book, and you're going to get butchered alive. Trust me-I got into online dating when I split with my ex, and was totally taken aback when the first few women I wrote to ignored me. Now I know that it happens to everyone. I also didn't have enough experience or knowledge to know what to put in my profile and what to leave out, what to put in a new contact letter and what not to, etc. If I had, I would've had more dates at first and less rejection.
Good book. If you're getting into online dating (which I highly recommend because it's very challenging and very rewarding), you'll need this information and this book is the best place to get it.
One other thing-the author has a great sense of humor and the book is pretty funny in places.
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22 of 27 people found the following review helpful By helene on July 19, 2004
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I first encountered Mr. Katz when I accompanied a friend to a local singles mixer where the author happened to be a guest speaker. Admittedly, I was a somewhat skeptical audience. I had been online dating for four months and had become a bit disillusioned with the process. Mr. Katz delivered a lively, engaging presentation, choc-full of useful insight and peppered with great humor. By the end of his presentation, my interest in online dating was renewed and I decided to purchase his book. I was not disappointed.
This "Commonsense Guide" takes the reader through the crucial steps of determining which site is best for you and how to create an alluring profile that will generate more responses. The author continues by addressing some specific potential pitfalls of online dating and how to avoid them. What is remarkable about this book is that it is written with a sense of humor and includes some truly laugh out loud moments while remaining honest and true to the serious matter of finding love.
What I found especially surprising and pleasing about this book was the author's insight into the perspective of the female online dater. He accurately touched upon so many of the frustrations and challenges unique to women dating in cyberspace. I nodded with agreement and relief as he addressed my concerns one by one. This guy obviously did his homework.
This book is an entertaining and informative read, and if you have the opportunity to catch Evan Marc Katz at a speaking engagement, do so.
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