Caring Enough to Confront: How to Understand and Express Your Deepest Feelings Toward Others [Black & White] [Paperback]

David Augsberger (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 16, 2009

Conflict simply is. Believing that we can somehow avoid it can only damage our relationships, but when we learn to integrate our needs and wants with those of others, it can be a catalyst in our relationships for deeper loving care. Dr. David Augsburger’s Caring Enough to Confront is a classic in Christian peacemaking. It teaches the reader how to build trust, cope with blame and prejudice, and be honest about anger and frustration. Dr. Augsburger challenges readers to keep in mind that the important issue is not what the conflict is about, but instead how the conflict is handled. He offers a biblically based model for dealing with conflict to teach Christians how to confront with compassion and resolve issues in a healthy and healing way. Whether in family, church or work relationships, Caring Enough to Confront gives readers the tools to make the most of every conflict.

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From the Back Cover

Many people try to avoid conflict, but confrontation can be a catalyst for deeper loving care as we learn to integrate our needs and wants with those of others. Dr. David Augsburger believes that deepened relationships bloom out of conflict when we remember that the important issue is not what the conflict is about, but instead how the conflict is handled. Caring Enough to Confront will teach you how to build trust, cope with blame and prejudice, and be honest about anger and frustration. You’ll learn how to confront with compassion in family, church and work relationships to resolve conflict in a healthy and healing way. Make the most of every conflict by mastering the tools of making peace.

About the Author

DAVID AUGSBERGER is the author of 20 books on pastoral counseling, marriage, conflict and human relations. He is a professor of pastoral counseling at Fuller Theological Seminary, and has also taught at seminaries in Chicago, Indiana and Pennsylvania. For over a decade, he served as radio spokesperson for the Mennonite Churches, and he has written feature articles that have appeared in over 100 different periodicals. An ordained minister of the Mennonite Church and a diplomat of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, Augsburger leads workshops internationally. 

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Regal; 3 edition (February 16, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0830746498
• ISBN-13: 978-0830746491
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.1 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #95,667 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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29 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A superb guide to working anger for Christians, June 15, 1998

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This review is from: Caring Enough to Confront (Paperback)

David Augsburger, professor of pastoral care in a Christian seminary, helps Christian people to explore the nature of anger and a range of ways to work with this powerful emotion. He has created a very helpful chart that offers five different ways of moving toward resolution (when the time comes) each offering a range of caring and confronting. They include choosing my way, your way, no way, compromise, or creative effforts to discover our way. Augsburger explores how the Bible encourages both assertiveness and caring and helps the reader to find their own path, blending the two.

32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Free from the guilt of Confrontation, January 31, 2000

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Candice Thompson (Vancouver, WA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Caring Enough to Confront:How to Understand and Express Your Deepest Feelings Toward Others (Paperback)

Execllent book! Growing up, I was under the impression that confrontation was a negative thing - that if I confronted a person about an issue then that meant I was a bad person for having poor or hurt feelings. After I read "Caring Enough to Confront" I understood that confrontation could acutally be a positive response to negative behavior. I highly reccommend this book for anyone suffering from the confrontation jitters.

21 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Peacemaking..., March 21, 2001

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Barb (Rochester, WA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Caring Enough to Confront:How to Understand and Express Your Deepest Feelings Toward Others (Paperback)

quoted from the 1st chapter to give you an idea what this book is about ~I Love You. If I love you I must tell you the truth. I want your love. I want your truth. Love me enough to tell me the truth.

This book really helps those of us at times that have had to confront and have felt guilty for doing so.

Caring and confronting together provide the balance of Love and Power which lead to effective human relationships.

Like anything else there is a time for caring and a time for confronting. Each in it's own time. Care when caring is called for and confront when confrontation is required.

Excellent Book for help in knowing how and when to care-front :)