Caring for Your Wife in Sickness and in Health: A Husband's Guide to Understanding the Special Health Needs of a Woman [Hardcover]

Richard Dominguez (Author)

Product Details

• Hardcover: 223 pages
• Publisher: Discovery House Pub (December 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0929239687
• ISBN-13: 978-0929239682
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,189,876 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Practical and Helpful approach to a delicate issue, August 8, 2007

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The Busy Bee (Florida) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Caring for Your Wife in Sickness and in Health: A Husband's Guide to Understanding the Special Health Needs of a Woman (Hardcover)

The title seems too obvious - of course you will love your wife in sickness and in health, right?? But as understated as the idea is - many wives or women in general feel a guilt that comes along with being sickly. Many husbands feel a resentment that they would never admit out loud, or they may be trying to help in every way they can, but are floundering with their tactics or knowlegde of how to best handle the situation for your marraige and every day life. This book openly speaks about what many of us sick women are trying to say or need to learn - and it guides a husband on how to care for your wife and understand her when illness' of all sorts invade your life.

Regardless of the fact that it was written in 1995, this book still provides practical and healthy ways of looking at the touchy subject of having or being a sick wife. I have never even heard of another book willing to tackle the subject at all. Having a sick wife involves a lot of guilt, or indifference, or misunderstanding for too many couples and families.
I myself bought it for my husband, and decided to read it first (being a 24 year old sickly wife). It does have it's religious undertones (written by a minister) but it is not overzealous at all, and actually relies more on the facts of life, moreso than religious applications. But it is written with a very tender tone, so husband and wife can feel openminded to the contents.

It applies to women of all ages with all kinds of illness' or emotional concerns. The author is not afraid to address how having or being a sick wife will affect your job, your home life, your finances, your sex life, and your ability to TALK about what bothers/ails you. I found it very insightful to discuss the fact that many husbands are in the dark about how to react and treat your wife when she experiences things the husband doesn't have. I love the fact that this doctor is willing to admit things that us as wives do in our health challenged situations, and how a husband might or should be reacting. He helps a wife look at things also from a more positive perspective, so that we can take control of our lives, instead of letting our illness' define us.
This book discusses plenty of case examples and situations, covering subjects of PMS, menopause, depression,injuries, chronic illness, fatal illness, a propensity to be sickly, etc. It is rich in practical ways to COMMUNICATE about how the various sickness affect your husband, your kids, and your life in general.

I have shed a lot of personal guilt for being a sickly wife while reading this book. I now know ways that I can communicate with my husband, and tips for ways he can communicate, empathize, and better help me and our marriage. It really does open your eyes to knowing that wives - you are not alone in whatever you are experiencing....and that husbands - you are not alone either, and it's ok to talk about it, be honest, and delve into whatever helps the both of you.
I will be giving this book to my mother when my husband and I are through with it, and I recommend any wife that's reads the title and might be interested to please, BUY the book and give it to your husband or read it yourself and discuss the applicable things you find. Husbands, be proactive and buy the book for yourself - it's so much more than an 'understanding your wife' book.....because when your wife's health isn't the best, your whole life will change.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Caring for your wife ---, March 24, 2006

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C. J. Leach (Midwest, United States) - See all my reviews
(VINE VOICE)   

This review is from: Caring for Your Wife in Sickness and in Health: A Husband's Guide to Understanding the Special Health Needs of a Woman (Hardcover)

It will be helpful to see the chapter titles:

1. In Sickness an in Health
2. We Never Expected This
3. Vive la Difference
4. He Said, She Said
5. All Illnesses Are Not Created Equal
6. Depression
7. PMS and Menopause
8. Choosing a Doctor
9. Why Her? Why Me? Why Us?
10. What About Our Social Life?
11. What About the Kids?
12. What About Sex?
13. What About Me?
14. For Better or Worse
15. How Can I Help Her Get Better?
16. Can I Expect a Miracle?
17. Is It Worth It?

Most of the information in the book I had previously been exposed to from other marriage/relations sources, but there was enough new material to probably make it worth my time. Of course, for some people (maybe younger ones), much of this may be new. The author is a physician, and as such seems overly ready to medicate, in my opinion. I am biased against behavior altering drugs, but am not a physician, so take that as you will. The book is written from a Christian perspective and has frequent biblical references. It is obviously titled and written for men (as am I), but I believe that women might also find it interesting . . . perhaps more so than men in some instances. A useful read for anyone coping with a spouse with chronic illness.