Doesn't anyone else feel like it's weird that through the whole book Cat is telling everyone else what to do? Here are three old, older, and ancient vampires faced with a major crisis to their race who sit back and watch a hot-headed 20 something decide what they need to do about it. Yes, she tries very hard not to be so rash, and is getting better, but still has a way to go. All of them are experienced competent and powereful, well more than Cat, and yet she's giving orders?
I wouldn't have been surprised if all of the crisis occuring in This Side of the Grave was just a training exercise for her, with the guys sitting back and mentoring her so that she could learn how to act if there was a real crisis.