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Good content drowning in a mediocre, poorly dialogued story
on May 31, 2011
Marilee Adams' book has some good content. It's true that being an impartial observer and asking open-ended questions with positive intent can make an enormous difference in all of your relationships. There are good tips and the suggestions for improving your communication are easy to follow.
The downside to this book is the fictional story that wraps around the message: the dialog is sad, it's obvious you're being preached to, the characters are shallow, and it's over-simplified. It felt as though Ms. Adams doesn't believe her audience can follow the steps without an emotionally stunted story to make it easier to swallow.
Other leadership books employ a similar technique in a less obvious manner.
If you're interested in truly changing your leadership style, I would recommend a double-hitter of "One Minute Manager" and "Leadership and Self-Deception". Both books share a similar philosophy to "Change Your Questions, Change Your Life" but there is more meat and the stories are easier to digest.