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28 of 32 people found the following review helpful
on May 31, 2011
Format: Paperback
Marilee Adams' book has some good content. It's true that being an impartial observer and asking open-ended questions with positive intent can make an enormous difference in all of your relationships. There are good tips and the suggestions for improving your communication are easy to follow.

The downside to this book is the fictional story that wraps around the message: the dialog is sad, it's obvious you're being preached to, the characters are shallow, and it's over-simplified. It felt as though Ms. Adams doesn't believe her audience can follow the steps without an emotionally stunted story to make it easier to swallow.

Other leadership books employ a similar technique in a less obvious manner.

If you're interested in truly changing your leadership style, I would recommend a double-hitter of "One Minute Manager" and "Leadership and Self-Deception". Both books share a similar philosophy to "Change Your Questions, Change Your Life" but there is more meat and the stories are easier to digest.
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22 of 26 people found the following review helpful
on February 12, 2011
Format: Paperback
This book reads much like an infomercial where a 'random' audience member comes up on stage to proclaim over-enthusiastically how wonderful this product that they have never seen before now is. The unrealistic like writing style of this book, made it difficult for me to get through. The concepts in this self-help book were introduced through a story about an average man working for an average company. He likes always having the answers and is having some problems getting along with and managing his employees. He goes to see a life coach at the suggestion of his boss, and while initially skeptical, he quickly comes around to agree with everything the coach suggests. After implementing the coach's suggestions, the man's life *poofs* to fabulous!

The second half of the book is a workbook that actually goes through lessons for how to follow the Question-thinking method. By the time I got to this point, I was pretty tired of all the rainbows and unicorns and didn't get much out of it. I didn't really find anything completely new to try from this method. I may not have seen the same buzz words or flow charts as the book, but the concepts were not new. The book included content that seemed mostly like common sense. Keep an open mind about people and don't make assumptions. I think I would have learned more from this section if I hadn't struggled through the first half of the book before it. In summary, this is an overly optimistic book without much unique advice.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
on March 25, 2010
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I recently purchased this book at the request of a career counselor. I like the way it is written, story format, so the concepts are easier to understand. There is no life altering wisdom presented in the book, just a simple way to observe what you already know. I would recommend this for anyone stuck at work or someone who has plateaued in their career.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful
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"Change Your Questions Change Your Life' provides tools to help you shift from a disempowering state of judgment where you may be playing the blame game that doesn't solve anything to an open, learning state in which you open yourself to consider choices and possibilities that will get you the results you're after.

The author shares the Top 12 Questions to help you to switch from the judgmental state to a state from which you are better equipped to engage in constructive action. The question are:

What do I want?
What are my choices?
What assumptions am I making?
What am I responsible for?
how else can I think about this?
What is the other person thinking, feeling, and wanting?
What am I missing or avoiding?
What can I learn?
... from this person or situation?
... from this mistake or failure?
... from this success?
What action steps make the most sense?
What questions should I ask (myself or others)?
How can I turn this into a win-win?
What's possible?

Of course, there are many more questions you can ask yourself and others, and several other questions are addressed in this book.

This is a small book and you can read it probably in a few hours. The questions in this book are not exhaustive and you can find other books that go into much greater depth into the art of asking questions. However, exactly because this book is simple, short and easy-to-read, it may be a great place to start and make amazing changes by learning how to shift your state of mind from being fixated on the problem and feeling helpless, to opening the way and transforming any situation, simply by training yourself to ask yourself different questions.

Instead of being stuck in an unpleasant situation, you can ask yourself what can you learn from it and what can you do to turn it around. As a friend of mine used to say "There are no problems, there are only opportunities (for growth)."
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on July 15, 2011
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Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work (BK Life (Paperback))is a powerful little book. Marilee Adams has given her readers some powerful tools in a story setting that makes the material easy to understand and implement in their lives for fast results. While many are striving for the right answers, Adams shows how asking the right questions is far more important if we want to perceive ourselves, our relationships and interactions clearly without the mental blind spots we so often place in our own ways. Her Learner/Judger model helps to explain that although we will never be perfectly successful at not prejudging the situations we encounter, there is a simple method to "re-route" ourselves for success. Everyone who wants to live their life and enjoy their relationships at the highest level of quality should read this book!
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on July 12, 2009
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As a Norwegian, not used to using the big words, the style of american books can be perceived as somewhat noisy and annoying at times. This book is not among the worst, however, and through it all the author manages to convey a powerful message: Through mindful work it IS possible to change crabby habits of mind into more constructive ones. I think this book gives some good tools for making such transformations.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
VINE VOICEon May 25, 2012
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1. Within the realm of self-help books, it's difficult to come up with something different.
2. This book is different on several levels:
a. The author's use of conveying her concepts via a short story is clever and engaging (translation: reading in a story form is basically less boring and more engaging).
b. Although many within the field of psychology will readily recognize many of the underlying concepts as being derived from cognitive behavioral therapy, the further clarification and operationalization of utilizing questions is very helpful tool.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
on November 17, 2013
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I did not think I would get anything eye opening from this book, however what I ended up receiving was a revelation. I've always sought information on how to change perception in any situation. Change Your Questions Change Your Life provides a clear approach to create positive perspective shifts.

Learning how to switch to a learner mindset leads to knowledge which produces alternative answers.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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This book's simple message has profound implications. No matter roles you play - parent, manager, CEO, friend, spouse - your questions influence your ability to respond to the challenges around you and build effective relationships. Marilee Adams provides a path to the questions that lead to the experiences we all desire.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on April 18, 2011
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"Change Your Questions Change Your Life" uses a story approach to introduce the reader to "Question Thinking," a vehicle for being more intentional about observing your actual circumstances (as opposed, for example, to your imagined circumstances) and to pose questions that can help you to see solutions to them. Although I found the book somewhat repetitive and the story approach seemed to me a bit exaggerated, and sometimes trite, the primary message is a good one and the tools suggested for actually putting the book into practice practical, making the book well worth a read.
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