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Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: 5280 Press (March 17, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0984826211
  • ISBN-13: 978-0984826216
  • Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #93,058 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Dr. Christie Hartman is a dating expert, scientist, and author of five dating advice books.

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Dr. Christie Hartman is an internationally recognized dating expert, behavioral scientist, and author of five dating advice books. A recovering academic and closeted nerd, Christie has refocused her overactive, analytical mind on unraveling the scientific and psychological mysteries behind dating and attraction. Catering to both men and women, she deconstructs all that is baffling about dating and makes it easily digestible to singles.

Christie is the author of "Changing Your Game: A Man's Guide to Success with Women"; standing out among a sea of pickup guides and seduction tomes, "Changing Your Game" offers intelligent and straightforward advice to men and shows them what it takes to succeed with women while still being themselves. To follow up Changing Your Game's success, Christie recently released "Back In The Game: Succeeding With Women After a Divorce," a dating guide for men who want to shake off their divorces and find love again.

Christie also has three books for women: "Find The Love of Your Life Online" is a must-have guide for every woman navigating the dense jungles of online dating. She also wrote the groundbreaking "Dating the Divorced Man: Sort through the Baggage to Decide if He's Right for You" and "It's Not Him, It's YOU: The Truth You May Not Want - But Need - To Hear," both of which are available in multiple languages.

Christie has appeared on the Today Show, Fox News Live, and on several local TV shows such as News2 Denver, the Everyday show, and Daybreak. She's a frequent guest expert on the radio, has published articles for The Good Men Project, JDate, eHarmony, YourTango, and Denver Magazine, and has been quoted in articles for CNN, U.S. News, Match.com, Chicago Tribune, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Men's FItness, Women's Health, Jezebel, Yahoo, and Marie Claire.

A graduate of the University of Colorado (CU), Christie earned her MA in Clinical Psychology, her PhD in Behavioral Genetics, and worked as a scientist at CU for 11 years. Living in Denver with her husband, Christie enjoys hiking and camping, and has a particular fondness for science fiction and natural health.

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"Changing Your Game" is a dating book for men who are grown-ups.
Regular Reader
In any case, Christie Hartman in a concise and clearly written book provides some very sensible and sound advice for men of all ages.
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An easy read and a page turner for me as her words are very timely.
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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful By Regular Reader on January 3, 2012
Format: Kindle Edition
There are many books about dating and relationships, for women. If you are a man, your choices are limited to the PUA ( pickup artist ) genre of books. Those books have some useful information in them, but most of the content tends toward an adolescent and sometimes misogynistic tone.

"Changing Your Game" is a dating book for men who are grown-ups.

Dr. Hartman, a psychologist, a dating coach and an author specializing in research based dating advice has written a dating book for men where you will not find two things. You will not find a cookbook of silly tricks for manipulating women. You will also not find an endless list of dating rules that offend your intelligence and that are out of touch with modern life.

Dr. Hartman starts the book, powerfully, with where success in dating also starts: with attitude. The advice is to work yourself into the habit of being a "problem solver" versus a "complainer". When faced with an issue, stew about it less, find ways to fix it more, and find ways to be happy while working on it. This can have a profound effect on your dating life.

People like being around people who solve problems. It is both inspiring and entertaining to watch it happen. It builds their confidence in you as a person and with women it can ignite a spark of attraction.

The second way Dr. Hartman suggests that the reader improve his attitude is to lose his baggage. All feelings come to an end. When you are feeling hurt, feeling resentful, feeling mad, watch it happen and watch the feelings come to a natural end. That is it! No psychobabble. Just shower, rinse and repeat while your baggage melts away making you a more attractive, motivated person to be around.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful By Greg Ostertag on July 3, 2012
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Changing Your Game by Christie Hartman has been a great investment for myself. This review might be a rush, since I just purchased and read the book in under a week - not that it's too long, it's just I'm not the most avid reader. However, this is the third book I've read in regards to the subject of dating women, and I wish that it was my first!

The things I really liked about this book are the following:
*Great organization. This book is clear and organized. It is easy to follow and I don't end up feeling lost wondering where she is going with what she is saying. This book was very easy to understand. You can definitely tell it was written by someone with a PhD.

*After reading this book, I have felt so much more confident and comfortable talking to women. This is because the way she explained attraction makes complete sense. I wont spoil it for you, but thanks to this book I realized that my previous relationships didn't work out not because I wasn't a Calvin Klein model, or not because I am not outgoing or funny. Rather, I realized that my previous relationships didn't work out because I'm just not compatable with certain women. Knowing this has also made me more aware of the women whom I associate with so I can better decide if a certain girl would really work out for me.

Honestly, this part of the book in itself has really helped me come to peace with even the previous relationship I was in that didn't work out.

*The other topics like about attitude and the different types of relationships people are looking for make so much more sense than the ridiculous tactics Doc Love, Wing Girl Kim, or other PUAs mention. It not only makes a lot more sense, but it isn't as complex to understand neither.
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful By Galen on March 13, 2012
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I just finished Changing Your Game, and was very impressed. I've been divorced almost a year after a 20+ year marriage. I wanted to find a book that takes a respectful and intelligent approach to women and dating -- not a book coaching men on how to tell the right joke to pick up women at bars.

Changing your game starts off by getting you out of the "complainer" mindset. While I feel I have a fairly positive outlook on life, I found that I had not adequately defined what I'm looking for in terms of a relationship. Dr Hartman talks about everything from NSA relationships to long term commitment. The book also helped me understand what elements of compatibility were important to me. I found the chapters on online dating especially helpful. Dr Hartman recommends casting a broad net online instead of narrowly searching for the perfect blonde. She also gives dozens of helpful pointers on developing a decent profile and initiating conversations through dating sites. The book gives lots of practical tips on conversation starters on those first "meet & greet" dates, as well as good lists of what NOT to do on a date (I found I had broken many of those guidelines already).

After being "off the market" for more than 20 years, I needed a book that would help me get my mind around meeting ladies in 2012. This book is written by an intelligent woman and will challenge you to think about women and dating in a new, better way.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By In the Broader View on April 26, 2012
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Most books of this type assume that your objective is to "get her in the sack, ASAP," and some go on from there to advise you how, for example, to act like an "alpha male."

Well, not so fast. To begin with, that may or may not be your objective. And, even if it is, being advised to act like an "alpha male" makes a silly (and dubious) cartoon of the whole undertaking.

Most fundamentally, success at anything entails knowing what you're doing and why.

Dr. Hartman begins "CYG" by pointing this out: trouble can arise in trying to initiate a relationship when the end in view isn't well defined; and when it comes to "success" with women, the first question is: what sort of relationship, exactly, are you looking for? What complicates the issue further, of course, is that relationships aren't just about what you want, but, equally, about what she wants. So if you don't understand, in broad terms, what women are looking for in men, you're already in trouble.

Other reviewers have already pointed out that there's lots of practical and sensible advice here concerning the whole spectrum of relevant topics, and that's certainly true. It has also been pointed out that this is also research-based advice, and that's true, too (and a refreshing change of pace). What I myself found the most helpful, though, was a better understanding of women, and what women find attractive in men. Other books like "Men Are From Mars . . ." cover this territory, to some extent, anyway, but not with the specific end in view of better understanding how to initiate a relationship.

So, if you really want to "Change Your Game," in the direction of knowing what you're doing, why you're doing it, and how best to go about it, here's your book.

At last.

Strongly recommended.
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