Charmers & Con Artists & Their Flip Side [Paperback]

Sandra Scott (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 20, 2007

ABUSERS Is there someone in your life who. . Is liked and admired by everyone, but who is privately manipulative, controlling, and abusive? . Asks, begs, expects you to forgive and forget the same hurtful acts repeatedly? . Knows exactly what to say or do to keep you from holding him/her accountable and in turn makes you look like the problem? . Expects that words, touches, or gifts will make you trust again? . Is so beguiling that when the line is finally crossed, either physically, morally, or legally, others won't believe you, minimize it, or refuse to get involved or advocate for you? .THEN THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!

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About the Author

Sandra Scott, a Licensed Professional Counselor, has been in private practice for 15 years, specializing in individual and family relationship issues. She is a conference speaker, a certified divorce mediator, has written "Starting Again": A divorce Recovery Program, published and used by the United Methodist Church. She developed an expertise in pre-divorce and pre-marital counseling, and has conducted numerous seminars on abuse, primarily ddirected at education church leaders and congregrations in areas of recognizing and responding appropriately to all aspects of this major problem. She has been actively involved in singles ministry leadership for 15 years. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Pleasant Word-A Division of WinePress Publishing (March 20, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1414108915
• ISBN-13: 978-1414108919
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #181,469 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This Is One of The Most Important Books You'll Ever Read!, August 18, 2001

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Tawana Hawkins (Akron, Ohio USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Charmers & Con Artists: And Their Flip Side... (Paperback)

I read this book at the suggestion of my mother who sent one by mail to me with the admonition to drop everything else I was reading and concentrate solely on this. Charmers and con artists are not limited to one gender or the other. At one point or another, each of us has been taken in by a male or female "smooth talker." This book helps you to identify the characteristics so you don't become the same fool twice or even three times for that matter. The tools they use are universal. Discrediting credibility is first. Know that you're not crazy as they may imply. If it doesn't feel "good" then its not good. We need to start paying closer attention to the internal meter. It would save us a lot of headaches and heartaches. I have recommended this book to everyone that I can. I haven't run into anyone yet who didn't identify with what is written on the back cover. The information in this book will help you better understand how not to play into the charmer and con artists' hand. Read this book immediately if not sooner!

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Shallow, unsubstantiated, and misandristic., January 4, 2009

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Aristofanese "snakebitten_hog" (Washington, DC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Charmers & Con Artists & Their Flip Side (Paperback)

I expected a scientific and organized casebook of charmers and con artists. What I got was a book full of unsubstantiated opinion, undocumented and arbitrary definitions, and emotional response to the author's experience. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor, but I find no depth or professional experience in her references or footnotes. Read "Without Conscience", by Dr. Hare for a much more comprehensive discussion of well defined and empirically classified case studies on psychopaths. This book by Ms. Scott is arbitrary, rambling, and probably wrong. She is angry at men, and politically biased in this book as well. I feel sick for having spent the money to buy it, even as a used book.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars a must read, July 9, 2005

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Cathie "tadfield advertiser" (chattanooga, tn usa) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Charmers & Con Artists: And Their Flip Side... (Paperback)

I read this book after getting a hand out in a recovery class. The hand out was on Charmers and Con Artist. It had this book title on it. I have never been so glad to have bought a book. If your in an abusive relationship or not you must read this book. You probably know someone who fits the profile and you will save yourself and others a lot of angish. Be enlightened know the signs, read this book.

I now know I have been in a relationship with a charmer for the past 11 years and trying to get this charmer out of my life for the past year and a half. It has been hard trying to convince myself and others that this person was not who they pretended to be... I fell in love with who this person wanted to be, who my charmer pretended to be, I wasn't allowed to see the REAL person until it was too late and then I didn't trust what I saw and felt.

it seemed no one believed this person could be like that. Too bad I couldn't invite the world behind our doors. But as I read this book I just knew my life was the case study. Thanks to this book, I'm learning to trust my judgements, my gut feelings and just because other people can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there. I lived it, they are watching the made for TV version.

Now that I've read this book. I know better what I am dealing with, I can see the charmer characterists in business associates, relatives, they are everywhere. But, now I know what I'm dealing with and I can also see that 'my charmer' is turning the corner to con artist. Knowledge is the best weapon. Read this book and be prepared. You'll be glad you did.