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Product Details

  • Paperback: 306 pages
  • Publisher: From The Heart Media, Inc. (March 5, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0984734821
  • ISBN-13: 978-0984734825
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (48 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #223,219 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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" A profound and powerful book that is a must-read for anyone wanting to protect your relationship, heal it if it's on shaky ground, or recover from the heartbreak of infidelity.  'Chatting or Cheating' will be the answer to many prayers." Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. #1 NY Times Bestselling Author, How Did I Get Here?

"Chatting or Cheating is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book." Daniel G. Amen, M.D., Author of NY Times Bestseller  Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

Chatting or Cheating is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity.  This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart." -Judith Orloff, M.D., Author of Emotional Freedom

" Thanks to the expertise of Dr. Meyers and her straight-arrow and heartfelt advice, this gem may just save your relationship before trouble even ensues." Mark Robert Waldman, Author - How God Changes Your Brain.

"This book can help you sort out truth from self-deception and teach you ways to build the trust, intimacy and satisfaction you've always longed for." -Leonard Felder, Ph.D., Author of Wake Up or Break Up

From the Back Cover

You can recover and even thrive after an affair! Dr. Sheri shows you how.

"Chatting or Cheating is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book." -Daniel G. Amen, M.D., Author of NY Times Bestseller Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

"Chatting or Cheating is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity. There are wonderful sections on instructing the cheater how to confess and to end an affair-also on how 'the betrayed' can recover. This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart." -Judith Orloff, M.D., Author of Emotional Freedom

"Finally, someone has written an easy-to-utilize book that has the most accurate 21st century clues and insights on why people begin to stray...this book can help you sort out truth from self-deception and teach you ways to build the trust, intimacy and satisfaction you've always longed for." -Leonard Felder, Ph.D., Author of Wake Up or Break Up: 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship.

Whether you are the cheater or the cheated, the betrayer or the betrayed, or just curious and wondering, this book will help you avert a crisis of INFIDELITY BEFORE it hits or SAVE your relationship if it already has.

In this book you'll learn how to...
* Recognize the difference between innocent chatting and cheating
* Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs and breeding grounds
* Confront your cheating partner without losing your cool
* Confess the truth without breaking your partner's heart
* End the affair and stop the obsession
* Survive betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust
* Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, and safely love again.

More About the Author

Sheri Meyers, Psy.D., a Marriage & Family Therapist, is among the nation's most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship, intimacy and infidelity specialists. She regularly appears on NBC, ABC,CBS,CNN, FOX, national TV talk shows and radio shows across the U.S.

As a blogger on the Huffington Post and contributor to numerous magazines, Dr. Sheri's compassionate, practical, straight talk and easy-to-apply methods have inspired and helped thousands of men and women face and overcome their most complex and daunting life, relationship, and sexual challenges.

In "Chatting or Cheating", Dr. Sheri now shares her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 25 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again. For a free chapter from "Chatting or Cheating", helpful relationship videos, enlightening articles and awesome FREE gifts, please visit Dr. Sheri @ DrSheri.com and/or ChattingorCheating.com

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It's easy and quick to read with very practical, straightforward advice.
J. Lyle
I highly recommend Chatting and Cheating to anyone dealing with any type of infidelity, be it emotional, virtual or physical.
J. E. Smith
It might not be easy, but Dr. Meyers gives you the tools that can guide you back to a healthy, strong relationship.
Lori Latimer

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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful By J. E. Smith on August 11, 2012
Format: Paperback
As a psychotherapist, I often have clients dealing with issues related to infidelity. There's a strong need for something concrete to explain the craziness they are going through, particularly after the excruciating pain of discovery. I've done a tremendous amount of searching for anything that could be helpful, and even more important, something that provides hope for healing and the methods to facilite it. I found Chatting or Cheating to be more comprehensive and useful than anything else I've found. It's written in a way that is easily understandable by anyone, and at the same time chocked full of useful information and solutions. Two things in particular I thought were brilliant. The first is the use of extremely short chapters, as it's so easy for one's brain to get overloaded - particularly when dealing with the crazy making of infidelity. The second is the inclusion of information for both the betrayed AND the betrayer, something I have not seen addressed in one book. This helps adds perspective and understanding for both sides of the relationship - a vital ingredient, facilitating more of a partnership in the healing process. In addition, there are many quotes from men who have been betrayed, making it more likely for men who were the betrayers to be receptive of the information - not always an easy task.

This book clearly describes exactly what emotional infidelity is, which is often much more devastating than a physical affair. In a world where so many issues (particularly on the internet) are dismissed as "no big deal", or "it's only fantasy", it's so helpful to have a clear explanation why these actions ARE infidelity, in no uncertain terms.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By RegularGuy on March 16, 2012
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Just finished Dr. Sheri Meyers book Chatting or Cheating and all I can say, I love it. Before I ordered the book I was concerned my wife was on Facebook way too much, chatting with men who I didn't know. When I asked her, she said they are just friends and she is only having fun. Now I have learned about the dangers of EMOTIONAL SEX which Dr. Meyers talks about in her book can lead to the slippery slope of infidelity. Chatting or Cheating prepared me for the conversation I had with my wife and helped me get through the resistance and denial. Now we are on our way to "affair proofing our relationship" that Dr. Sheri outlines in her book. The 3 A's is a must for every relationship. BTW, the formatting and ease of read makes this a MUST buy.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By Rockstar on March 5, 2012
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I've read countless self-help books on a variety of relationship-related subjects, and I can't remember any that were this hard to put down, or which presented so much useful and fascinating insight. THIS BOOK IS ESSENTIAL READING FOR ANYONE WHO HAS STRAYED, THINKS THEIR PARTNER HAS (OR WILL) STRAY, OR WHO SIMPLY WANTS TO UNDERSTAND THE DYNAMICS OF THIS UNFORTUNATE AND ALL TOO FREQUENT SITUATION. Dr. Meyers is clearly a brilliant and to-the-point author, who approaches this subject with sensitivity and straight-forward advice. If you are floundering in your relationship now, tempted to "cheat" (you may not realize you already are!), interested in understanding your past, or wanting to avoid the pain of discovery, this is an essential read. I looked at Dr. Meyer's bio, and I can see why Barbara DiAngeles and Dan Amen have written glowing reviews on her book cover-this woman is brilliant. (Yes, I've read their books too.) If Dr. Meyers looks familiar, she's apparently been on countless news show as a guest psychologist, and she is interesting to watch and listen to also (I found her on you tube.) If I sound especially enthusiastic, it's because so many books in this genre aren't worthy of my time. This one is-in fact I just might read it again.
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Kara Oh on March 5, 2012
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Social media has become a way of life for most of us and there are new sites popping up all the time. That means there are more ways for people to connect online and more ways to get get too close, risking a heart connection that could ruin a relationship. It's way too easy to 'fall in love' with a fantasy that never causes any trouble, has only nice things to say, and is always available. I predict Dr. Meyers book will become an essential tool to help people find out if they have crossed the line or if their partner has. Hooray for making this information available to us.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Phillip F. on July 15, 2013
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Dr. Sheri Meyer's book, "Chatting or Cheating - How to Spot Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship" uncovers all the mystery behind your partner's behavior, AND yours. Have you ever had a funny feeling when talking to your partner, and they become angry for no good reason? In other words, they seem to overreact to your gentle questioning about their unexplained absences, online activity or the need for privacy on their smart phones. Dr. Meyers talks about this in her book, among many other relationship issues.

Dr. Meyers covers "emotional sex" (when your partner seems to be putting their energy into somebody else at work, for example and share intimate secrets), becoming "affair aware", spotting "red flags", catching them in the act, and more. She also covers information for the betrayed and making positive changes in your life to save your relationship, or gaining the strength to move on. She also addresses the betrayer, what led you to stray and what to do if you really want to stop and change.

Dr. Meyers also talks about healing, communication, trust, forgiveness, rebuilding romance, strengthening love and creating a heart-happy partnership.

Dr. Sheri Meyers is a marriage and family therapist who has worked with couples for over 25 years. So, she's a doctor three times over! She KNOWS what she's talking about. She has helped me make sense of my crazy thoughts and discover I wasn't crazy or imagining things after all. She has lead me to feel SO much better after reading her book!

Dr. Sheri Meyers has made numerous television news appearances on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, cable TV and radio talk shows. There's NOBODY better than Dr. Sheri Meyers. You've GOT to buy her book! I GUARANTEE you'll be glad you did!
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