Chatting or Cheating [Paperback]

Sheri Meyers (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 5, 2012

Whether you're the one who suspects your partner of cheating, or you're the one who's been engaging in a secret affair, Chatting or Cheating, is designed to take you step-by-step through the process of discovery, confrontation, confession, and healing.

In CHATTING OR CHEATING you'll learn how to...
·   Become "affair aware," and stop denying what's really going on.
·   Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs, breeding grounds, and relationship vulnerabilities.
·   Gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront them in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.
·   Confess the truth without breaking your partner's heart.
·   End the Affair, break the addiction, and stop the obsessing--specific, proven tips and strategies for eliminating unwanted thoughts, moving on, forgiving yourself and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.
·   Survive the betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust, no matter how betrayed and angry you feel, or how impossible it may seem right now.
·   Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, create genuine intimacy, and safely love again.

YOU CAN SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND MAKE IT EVEN BETTER THAN BEFORE!
The good news is that it doesn't have to be the disaster you imagine. Emotional Sex or physical infidelity doesn't need to lead to a break-up or divorce. When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever before. Chatting or Cheating, takes you by the hand and guides you through each step required to save your relationship and make it even better than before.  You can turn it around and fall in love again.  Dr. Sheri  Meyers shows you how.

Editorial Reviews

Review

" A profound and powerful book that is a must-read for anyone wanting to protect your relationship, heal it if it's on shaky ground, or recover from the heartbreak of infidelity.  'Chatting or Cheating' will be the answer to many prayers." Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. #1 NY Times Bestselling Author, How Did I Get Here?

"Chatting or Cheating is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book." Daniel G. Amen, M.D., Author of NY Times Bestseller  Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

Chatting or Cheating is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity.  This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart." -Judith Orloff, M.D., Author of Emotional Freedom

" Thanks to the expertise of Dr. Meyers and her straight-arrow and heartfelt advice, this gem may just save your relationship before trouble even ensues." Mark Robert Waldman, Author - How God Changes Your Brain.

"This book can help you sort out truth from self-deception and teach you ways to build the trust, intimacy and satisfaction you've always longed for." -Leonard Felder, Ph.D., Author of Wake Up or Break Up

From the Back Cover

You can recover and even thrive after an affair! Dr. Sheri shows you how.

"Chatting or Cheating is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book." -Daniel G. Amen, M.D., Author of NY Times Bestseller Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

"Chatting or Cheating is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity. There are wonderful sections on instructing the cheater how to confess and to end an affair-also on how 'the betrayed' can recover. This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart." -Judith Orloff, M.D., Author of Emotional Freedom

"Finally, someone has written an easy-to-utilize book that has the most accurate 21st century clues and insights on why people begin to stray...this book can help you sort out truth from self-deception and teach you ways to build the trust, intimacy and satisfaction you've always longed for." -Leonard Felder, Ph.D., Author of Wake Up or Break Up: 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship.

Whether you are the cheater or the cheated, the betrayer or the betrayed, or just curious and wondering, this book will help you avert a crisis of INFIDELITY BEFORE it hits or SAVE your relationship if it already has.

In this book you'll learn how to...
* Recognize the difference between innocent chatting and cheating
* Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs and breeding grounds
* Confront your cheating partner without losing your cool
* Confess the truth without breaking your partner's heart
* End the affair and stop the obsession
* Survive betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust
* Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, and safely love again.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 306 pages
• Publisher: From The Heart Media, Inc. (March 5, 2012)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0984734821
• ISBN-13: 978-0984734825
• Product Dimensions: 0.6 x 5.9 x 8.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (31 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #87,628 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Sheri Meyers, Psy.D., a Marriage & Family Therapist, is a highly-respected and sought-after infidelity and relationship expert for network TV news including ABC, NBC, CBS, cable TV, and radio talk shows. With intelligence, compassion, and straight talk, Dr. Sheri has helped thousands of people face and overcome their most complex and life-wrenching relationship challenges with honesty, dignity, and love. In 'Chatting or Cheating', Dr. Sheri now shares her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 25 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Fabulous Book For Both Dealing & Healing From Infidelity August 11, 2012

By J. E. Smith

Format:Paperback

As a psychotherapist, I often have clients dealing with issues related to infidelity. There's a strong need for something concrete to explain the craziness they are going through, particularly after the excruciating pain of discovery. I've done a tremendous amount of searching for anything that could be helpful, and even more important, something that provides hope for healing and the methods to facilite it. I found Chatting or Cheating to be more comprehensive and useful than anything else I've found. It's written in a way that is easily understandable by anyone, and at the same time chocked full of useful information and solutions. Two things in particular I thought were brilliant. The first is the use of extremely short chapters, as it's so easy for one's brain to get overloaded - particularly when dealing with the crazy making of infidelity. The second is the inclusion of information for both the betrayed AND the betrayer, something I have not seen addressed in one book. This helps adds perspective and understanding for both sides of the relationship - a vital ingredient, facilitating more of a partnership in the healing process. In addition, there are many quotes from men who have been betrayed, making it more likely for men who were the betrayers to be receptive of the information - not always an easy task.

This book clearly describes exactly what emotional infidelity is, which is often much more devastating than a physical affair. In a world where so many issues (particularly on the internet) are dismissed as "no big deal", or "it's only fantasy", it's so helpful to have a clear explanation why these actions ARE infidelity, in no uncertain terms. If you're looking for a book dealing with sex addiction, this book only lightly touches on the neurobiological causes, however there are a multitude of issues to deal with in the process of healing from any kind of infidelity that are so beautifully addressed. This book covers the full cycle from suspicion, how to get through discovery/disclosure, to methods of healing for both individual and couples. So many books just focus on the pain. This is a refreshing alternative which provides hope and understanding, so desperately needed during such a vulnerable and difficult time. I highly recommend Chatting and Cheating to anyone dealing with any type of infidelity, be it emotional, virtual or physical. I plan to make it my first book to suggest to clients. Thank you Dr. Sheri Meyers for creating something where there had previously been such a void.

Joyce E. Smith, M.A., LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Social Media Has Made This Book an Essential March 5, 2012

By Kara Oh

Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase

Social media has become a way of life for most of us and there are new sites popping up all the time. That means there are more ways for people to connect online and more ways to get get too close, risking a heart connection that could ruin a relationship. It's way too easy to 'fall in love' with a fantasy that never causes any trouble, has only nice things to say, and is always available. I predict Dr. Meyers book will become an essential tool to help people find out if they have crossed the line or if their partner has. Hooray for making this information available to us.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Demystifying Affairs ~ A Complete Map from Breakdown to Breakthrough March 31, 2012

By Greta

Format:Paperback

Chatting or Cheating covers every imaginable circumstance from detecting an affair, dealing with an affair, the possibility of healing, and how to rise from the ashes - like the phoenix bird - by strengthening your relationship with skills and muscles essential for secure partnerships. Dr. Meyers covers this topic from A to Z, soup to nuts; it is a reference guide for any stage of the journey as much as a valuable read. The layout of the book makes it supremely user friendly; such an easy read for such a difficult topic. As a Marriage and Family therapist, dealing with the pain of betrayal and broken trust, gains can be hugely supported through a resource that gives both a helicopter view while simultaneously giving practical 'how to's" for coping in the trenches. Dr. Meyers book is clearly such a resource that I endorse for the value it provides for those suffering in pain and turmoil. Greta Hassel, MFT