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Finally, Love Explained! REALLY helped me., October 14, 2009
This review is from: The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love (Paperback)
I believe that this book is changing my life for the better in some really important ways. I was so fortunate to be able to read it just as I was getting into a new romantic relationship. It explained to me so much of what was going on with us, both in the first wonderful flush of attraction and lust, and now when we've "hit the wall" and are trying to deal with the disappointment of realizing it's not all as perfect and rosy as we'd thought. Thanks to this book, I think I know how to do this stage in a more healing and less blaming way than I did in past relationships, and I am hopeful that this time love will last. The author not only gives insight into the biochemistry of connection, she suggests specific ways to heal from old wounds that keep us from getting the love we want. I hear so many people talking about their troubled love life, or lack of a love life, and I always want to say to them, "Buy this book! It explains just what's puzzling or frustrating you about your relationships, and what to do about it!"
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Great New Book on Bonding, April 7, 2009
This review is from: The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love (Paperback)
This excellent new book explains the nature of attachment and clarifies the issues involved in a unique way that makes important contributions to understanding the complex issues involved.
"Play, " as Susan Kuchinskas, author of The Chemistry of Connection reports may begin soon after birth, and is "an essential part of mothering. It begins with a very simple form of peek-a-boo: mother and baby gaze into each other's eyes; the baby's joy builds, and then he looks away for a moment. When he looks back, he meets his mother's eyes: She's there for him. As the baby grows, and his brain continues to develop, they play more games together...These games with his mother play a serious role in shaping the baby's attachment system. He learns to trust his mother and, through her, the rest of the world. As they play, his hypothalamus releases oxytocin, the neurochemical of trust and attachment. He's learning a model of positive interactions that he'll be able to use throughout his life, to connect deeply and joyfully with others. It's likely that, when he gets older, playing with special toys may also evoke the oxytocin response. He may become deeply attached to a doll or stuffed animal and get the same pleasure from it that he did from playing with his mother." Play should be to be a natural part of daily life, for all ages, and integrated into one's lifestyle in as many ways as possible so as to enhance the quality of life. I believe playfulness has been seriously overlooked as a major contributor to our development. With the contribution of this new book those of us involved in the serious work of play have yet another timely tool that helps to change that perception.
Stevanne Auerbach, Ph.D. Dr. Toy
Author Smart Play Smart Toys, www.drtoy.com
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Great New Way to Understand How We Love, December 2, 2009
This review is from: The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love (Paperback)
Susan Kuchinskas is a beautiful writer with a unique talent for making complex topics accessible to readers. She nails it yet again with her new book about the Oxytocin response, The Chemistry of Connection. It's a wonderful read that opened my mind about my relationships -- and how I can improve them by understanding more about this powerful hormone.
This is more than understanding how new moms bond with their babies. Kuchinskas lays out many examples of how the brain works as she chronicles the extensive symphony of physical and emotional reactions that kick off when Oxytocin surges through our bloodstreams. If you want a quick primer on how to build intimacy in ways you may not have been aware of, you've come to the right book!
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